RN as Inpatient, horrible and looong rant - page 6

On top of everything I have been unable to log into the site. Here I am , minus a UTERUS!!!! Believe me when I tell you that in my situation it is better to be an ordinary citizen than to be "found... Read More

  1. by   TrudyRN
    Quote from Haunted
    I can only say that the shock and trauma of the procedure had me so immobilized at the time that I could only put my trust in this MD and have faith that it would get better. I have never undergone what I know know to be major abdominal surgery and was assured by the MD that is was the only option left.

    As for my card, I provided them with my credit card back in 2002 and it never expires. They withdrew our co payment amount DURING my surgery, despite my husband calling and leaving a credit card number specifically used for such things on the bus managers answering machine the day before. Tonight I got a call from the MD, saved to the answering machine as I was walking my dog stating the usual " Judy said you were unhappy with your follow up care, you know we are here around the clock for you, she didn't check back with you like SHE was supposed to" etc.

    I am aware that hormones go into shock and emotions are deeply tied to this surgery, but I was not made aware of that prior. I can honestly say that had I known what I would be going thru, all alone, day by day, I would have kept this uterus and sought a second opinion.

    The problem is many fold, I am astonished at the recovery process, the things I am unable to do, the things my body is going thru, the limits on my immediate future and the lack of information from the people who have done this. Vicodin does help with the discomfort, walking helps with the gas and posture, I am eating small portions of fruit smoothies with protien but I wish I had this knowledge so I could have put in place a support group to help me. I am otherwise young and healthy and have a wonderful husband but he was left all day and evening post op to get me out of bed, to help change my sheets and chuck pad etc,

    Can you imagine having someone, a doc, tell you a year after it was diagnosed that you had a cardiac issue? She never told me, it would have allowed me to seek a cadio consult, a year later I am dealing wiyj the fallout. I am not someone to complian over every muscle ache and twinge so the fact that everyone in her office as well as post op keeps assuming that "I know what to expect because I am a nurse" just doesn't fly is just wrong. Thanks for your insight and stories, I especially enjoy your personal adventures of recovery regarding a TVH, any tips and tricks would help.

    The worst part for me was not being able to get the heck in here and share the misery!!! This site has been there for me thru many transitions, now I embark on a new journey in many ways. How do you deal with that cute little tummy bulge? The OFFICE MANAGER told me no stretching excercises for at least 8 weeks and I have a fancy function beginning on October. SEE!!!! A million questions. I sooo appreciate you all.
    When I first read your OP, I wondered why you didn't speak up for yourself, Haunted. I was irked with you about it.

    I do understand, though, that you were sick and did the best you could at the time.

    Your doctor is remiss, her staff, the nurse who wanted to talk about your job and your pay, just on and on. I think a good lawyer might be your best friend at this point. Emotional distress, mental assault and battery, whatever term the lawyer can come up with. A little feel good money could help you feel better about this whole bout of rather less than ideal care you had.

    Do check Hystersisters. I looked at it briefly and it seems very helpful. God bless you, dear.
  2. by   ktwlpn
    Quote from Haunted
    i'M GONNA MAKE IT! I saw my new and improved GYN today with my darling hubby. Just wish I could have sex.....
    Bless your heart-what a mess you've had.I think you should write a letter to each and every dept./physician/secretary involved and deliver each one by hand.Let these people know how disappointed you are with their treatment of you-make sure they know how they screwed up so the same thing does not happen to another women. Good thing you found a new doc-so many of us take that kind of crap over and over before we realize we can and should sever that relationship although I've never heard of a mess like yours.Listen-meonpause is letting go and moving forward-and it is not a bad thing.Read and learn what to expect-some of the effects can be strange and if you don't know what to expect you'll think you are loosing your mind...There is plenty of good info available.I'm a big believer in "better living through chemisty" A little zoloft,some hormones-lots of soy isoflavones and you'll be a new woman. PS-"no sex" just means "no penetration" Get busy,girl-
  3. by   jnette
    Quote from weetziebat
    I would very definately write a letter to the person as far up the chain as possible. Provide as many details and times as possible. Its not like we are getting free care to nurse ourselves, and deserve to be treated like any other patient.

    Good luck, and hope you feel better soon!
    WOW. I am so very sorry to hear all this! How incredibly inconsiderate and presumptious !!!

    I totally agree... write that letter! This is NOT how any fellow nurse should be treated! While in the hospital's care ... or under MD care, you are first and foremost a PATIENT with the same anxieties, the same pain, the same post-op confusion, and with the same entitlement to instructions, information, assistance, TLC, etc. This was SO uncalled for !

    Shame on them!
  4. by   Mirth
    I never tell anyone I am a nurse. Ever. If I am a patient, I want to be treated like a patient.

    My mother tells EVERYONE that she is a nurse, that I am a nurse. :roll: And that left ME to do her bath and bed change and make sure she walked and etc, the last three times she was in the hospital.


    I know several people who take the attitude that "oh well, you are a nurse. I guess you don't need anything from me" and then leave the room.

    I know a couple of people who said "I'm a nurse. I'm fine" Then are offened that I want to see the incision, listen to the lungs and etc.
  5. by   Sis123
    OMG I just saw this today. How horrible for you, Haunted! What an ordeal for you, and a lot of it could have been prevented had everyone had NOT skimped on taking care of you because you are a nurse. I also think that you were in the hospital for a very short time. I really can't imagine going off MS so quickly like that. And then more of the same because you weren't treated properly in the first place. Oh dear. Thank goodness for your husband and finally encoutering some good healthcare workers.

    So sorry that this happened to you, but I can only imagine that going through this will make you a better nurse.
    Please do take it easy, it's a big adjustment for your body to make, and I hope you hear good news about your lung.

    Getting better seems to go very slowly, but as long as you improve a little bit each day, you are doing great...
  6. by   SharonH, RN
    I am sorry that you had such a bad experience and I am glad that you are on the road to recovery. However, I hope your story serves as a cautionary tale not only to those who are providing care to our colleagues but to those of us who are also healthcare consumers. We have a responsibility to research and ask questions about our own bodies and our health. You should not have to pretend you are not an RN. You must be assertive and ask questions and you should be able to ask for the care you deserve. Grown women are not supposed to just "do as they are told", especially when something so important is at stake. That does not mean you have to be aggressive or bullying, just take a little responsibility for the treatment you receive. That does not excuse the actions of the people providing your care. Good luck in your recovery.
  7. by   SharonH, RN
    Quote from Mirth
    I know several people who take the attitude that "oh well, you are a nurse. I guess you don't need anything from me" and then leave the room.

    I know a couple of people who said "I'm a nurse. I'm fine" Then are offended that I want to see the incision, listen to the lungs and etc.

    I always get either or. I will never forget as a new nurse taking care of an elderly THR and her daughter being an RN with many years of experience who tried to tell me how to perform every aspect of my job including taking the bag of blood from my hands and showing me how they did it in California. On the other hand, a few months later, I took care of an RN who was an ICU nurse with many years of experience who told me not to worry that she was not going to be a nurse during her stay and she was quite gentle with me. I try to treat nurses the exact same way I do my other patients but you never know what you are going to get.


    My own good friend(RN) had a TAH this summer and she whined constantly about pretty much everything. It's as if she never worked the floor. She couldn't understand why when she rang the bell, the nurses didn't respond instantly and if she asked for meds she didn't get them in under 5 minutes. When the nurse had to call to get the narcs renewed, she wondered why they couldn't just slip her a Motrin. Seriously. She and her mother, also a nurse, took pleasure in confronting the staff and ranting about how (fill in the blank) would have never happened when they were working the floor, etc, etc.
  8. by   Kymmi
    Im confused as to why you had a echo done however Im also confused as to why you didnt follow up to get the echo results. If you mentioned that you did and I missed that part Im sorry.
    Lets face it.....we as nurses know the inside track and unfortunately its not always the best situation however that just gives up more reason to be a advocate for ourselves.
    People will treat you the way you let them treat you......so therefore anytime you feel things are not right or you are not satisified then you should be the first one to do for yourselve what you would hopefully do for any patient you are taking care of if you feel they arent being treated the right way....advocate and make yourself heard until someone listens.
  9. by   Misty1
    Quote from Haunted
    On top of everything I have been unable to log into the site. Here I am , minus a UTERUS!!!! Believe me when I tell you that in my situation it is better to be an ordinary citizen than to be "found out" as I was, as a nurse.

    Deep breath, and sooo happy to tell this story:

    2002, still suffering from heavy periods, cramping, bloating etc. Found a female OBG I could relate to who reassurred me that she would persue every avenue to help me thru this, did a D & C, tried the vivelle patch. I am 48 years old, always been underweight and anemic, no ther health problems. Finally had a bout of break thru bleeding that left me with a low crit, did an US, found numerous fibroids which had imbedded and were close to the cervical os, had hubby in exam room for options, she said a TVH scheduled for the 13th. No ther explaination given. Had a preop appt. on the 12th, she said "you need to come in early for an IV ATB for your CARDIAC INSUFFICIENCY" I said "WHAT?" she said "yes, it was diagnosed back in 2005 during an echo" I was nervous and upset but all systems were a go. Sorry guys, you have no idea what I have been thru....

    So day of surgery, I shower, shave and had done the bowel prep the afternoon before (nasty stuff, don't advise) and packed up to go down the street. Whisked me off right under my husbands nose into the ROOM. The preop nurse says to me as I am following her, "OH! I see that you are a nurse, that makes my job easy! You already know what to expect!" She leads me into a room and says, there is your gown, your teds and sequentials, go ahead and get yourself ready and we will be back to take you to surgery!!!!

    I am SCREAMING inside, I have no idea what to expect but do as I am told, no help even though I am shaking an nervous. Soon the nurse comes back, sits at the bedside and initiates a chat about WHERE I WORK, THE MONEY I MAKE and how I can refer her to a registry!!!! You guys would not believe the bruising on my forearms from when they tried to start the IV, at 1 point the nurse handed me the IV start kit and said, "Well, your a nurse, you can most likely find a vein". I wanted to VOMIT. I kept telling them that I was a patient just like anyone else but I felt like Alice falling thru the rabbit hole.

    By now the anesthetist comes in, repeahs the same thing, shoots me up and the next thing I remember is being in a bed on the unit with 02, IV and FC. Hubby there looking totally flustared and hearing the staffer sya "Good thing your wife is a nurse, you don't need us anymore, see you in the morning!" . I was on an MS drip and so uncomfortable, with a gut like I was 9months pregnant, I could play taps on my abd. That and the floppy FC it was MISERABLE. The nursing staff IGNORED me, my MD has not spoken with me except to poke her head in the door the following day for all of 60 seconds, sent me home with no meds, no F/U UGH.

    Sorry, long rant, hubby grabs a WC , get's me to the car, home, tucked up in bed, my H& H was low per AM RN, I am shivering, running a temp 99.8 per tempadot, not much spotting, aching now I'm off MS, took some advil, taking fluids, scanty urine OP but no pain, hell I've been on MS right?

    Finally the pain begins. I call at 4:30 to my MD, some guy answers, I tell him I need to speak to my doc, HE TELLS ME TO TAKE SOME ADVIL AND CALL BACK TOMORROW!!!! I explain to him exactely what I had done!

    You guys are great! Thanks for hanging in! About 15 minutes later a person from the med group calls to confirm a scrip for vicodin, which my darling picked up within a few hours. So as far as pain issues, I'm OK, however, I did not know that my ovaries would GO INTO SHOCK and I had hot flashes and crying jags at the drop of a hat. I called and spoke with a nurse at this med center who said it was OK to allpy the vivelle patch which has helped.

    Today, I am finally coherent yet not resting, I check my bank account to find that this group took money out of my account in duplicate as a co payment for the procedure!!!! I called the business office and ONLY then did the business manager spend a few minutes on the phone explaining the post op instructions, namely that I am OFF WORK FOR 6 WEEKS!!!! I was breathless with exasperation and totally annoyed at this point when she said " YOUR A NURSE, I THOUGHT YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT"

    So, here I am in testosterone heaven, my darling husband has no idea how to take care of me, my sister just took off my a much needed vacation in Kauii, Mother and Dad are in Palm Springs, I need some feed back from my beloved peers as to any experiences you have had as an inpatient. I am really concerned about the lack of follow up from this MD, I have gotten a follow up phone call from my dentist when I had a root canal, am I being over sensitive here? I am a bedside RN who does mostly med surg, my original posting is Haunted but I can't log in, your feed back would be appreciated. I may not be able to log back in to reply but I can read if you respond and I value your opinions, as always, Haunted aka Laurie Again, thanks so much for being there.
    I hope you are feeling better. I also wish I would have seen this post earlier because I had the exact same surgery May 05. Did your doctor tell you no carbonated beverages or greasy foods for two weeks? My doctor told me that as soon as I got home I sent my husband out for a hamburger and Diet Pepsi..... talk about PAIN!!! OUCH!!! but thats what I get for not listening to the Dr.

    I'm sorry about your experience my was just the opposite. The nurses were tip toeing around me and my Dr came to see me at least twice a day I was there for 5 days. One of the Corpsman (I was at a Naval hospital) would bring me in Peppermint tea every morning.

    As far as your husband not knowing how to take care of you. Let me tell you all he has to do is everything you do...I don't know bathing kids feeding and walking dogs etc. I took full advantage of me being home and told my husband "Honey your going to have to feed the dogs".......I did absolutely nothing for 6 weeks and it felt really good. My husband didn't have to take care of me but everything else.

    As far as morphine I wish they wouldn't give out morphine to histerectomy patients like its candy. Morphine causes nausea and constipation which is not helpful with stiches in your belly.

    I hope your feeling better. I know I felt so much better after the surgery like a different person. Wish I would have had it done 10 years earlier.
  10. by   Haunted
    Quote from Misty1
    I hope you are feeling better. I also wish I would have seen this post earlier because I had the exact same surgery May 05. Did your doctor tell you no carbonated beverages or greasy foods for two weeks? My doctor told me that as soon as I got home I sent my husband out for a hamburger and Diet Pepsi..... talk about PAIN!!! OUCH!!! but thats what I get for not listening to the Dr.

    I'm sorry about your experience my was just the opposite. The nurses were tip toeing around me and my Dr came to see me at least twice a day I was there for 5 days. One of the Corpsman (I was at a Naval hospital) would bring me in Peppermint tea every morning.

    As far as your husband not knowing how to take care of you. Let me tell you all he has to do is everything you do...I don't know bathing kids feeding and walking dogs etc. I took full advantage of me being home and told my husband "Honey your going to have to feed the dogs".......I did absolutely nothing for 6 weeks and it felt really good. My husband didn't have to take care of me but everything else.

    As far as morphine I wish they wouldn't give out morphine to histerectomy patients like its candy. Morphine causes nausea and constipation which is not helpful with stiches in your belly.

    I hope your feeling better. I know I felt so much better after the surgery like a different person. Wish I would have had it done 10 years earlier.

    It is very good to know there is a light at the end of this tunnel, and it's not another train coming at me! It sounds like you got excellent care all around and continue taking great care of yourself. I am learning not to be such a martyr. This whole experience has been like a bad dream to me and I have to believe it will all somehow be worth it.
  11. by   Misty1
    Quote from Haunted
    It is very good to know there is a light at the end of this tunnel, and it's not another train coming at me! It sounds like you got excellent care all around and continue taking great care of yourself. I am learning not to be such a martyr. This whole experience has been like a bad dream to me and I have to believe it will all somehow be worth it.
    I think you hid the nail on the head. Don't be a martyr its hard to take sometimes but out families can survive without us. Take care of yourself and you can take care of everyone else better including your patients.

    I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. Look at it in a different light and use it as an exuse for everyone else to take care of everything. Its been what? 3 weeks? You should be feeling much better now. If not take these next few weeks........sleep in.........do nothing and worry about nothing including money. Husband can take care of all that I'm sure thats what you would do for your husband if he just had surgery.

    Oh and don't forget.... Peppermint tea a lifesaver. No carbonated beverages and no greasy foods.
  12. by   Dragonnurse1
    :uhoh21:I am so sorry for you and I can truly say that. I would not bore you with all of mine but I have a latex allergy, multi chemical sensivity, abad heart htn,niddm and a few other problems but after the allergic reaction the allergist slapped a TRU test on my back - 3 days in hospital and allergic to latex no one got it. Spent rest of year barely able to do anything and being sent oot to respitory md. One day the MD asked if I was on cardiac meds do not think bigemny is a normal rhythum. 24 hour holter 118,000 bad beats . You got to get better or die trying.
  13. by   Dalzac
    Sometimes I think that nurses of nurses as patients don't give a nickel about their peers. I have had 2 surgeries with bad comlications and one was a hysterectomy. I very nearly died from the neglect I recieved I even arrested because of it. The sad thing about it was I did know how bad I was and pleaded with the nurse to call the doc. she didn't and I hemmorrhaged to the point of arrest.
    The last one I had a total hip and could not get relief or assistance for that matter to the restroom All I got was my walker placed in front of me and then left. Come to find out the prostesis was going out of the back of my femur. I had to go back to surgery. I can't work now.
    After the first time I made it a point to never treat my nurse patients that they can do it themselves because I know for a fact they can't I am glad you complained to all that you could. That is the only way to get things done.

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