Public Breastfeeding - page 4

In a discussion I had with my brother in law today (who is a future nurse!), I learned he is uncomfortable with public breastfeeding unless there is a blanket involved. I know some folks wouldn't... Read More

  1. by   Q.
    Quote from OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    Q. ~ It's a simple fact that breasts produce milk to feed humans. If a woman chooses to utilize that God given ability, why should she be concerned about who sees it? Your kids should know that babies are fed by their mom's breasts or by formula & bottles.

    I mean honestly, I've seen many nursing mothers and I rarely see any part of her boob. Where do you all find these women that are flinging their boobs & milk around
    Sure, my kids "should know" that babies are fed via breast if desired, but I prefer to be the one to decide when I want my children to know that, not some breastfeeding mother who is not discreet in the least.

    Have you ever breastfed yourself? I can tell you that depending on the baby, getting them to latch on might be a bit of challenge, and there you are tickling your baby's mouth with your nipple, or, your baby has had enough and the latch breaks, or, you're done feeding and if you're like me, you feel the need to dab the remaining milk off of your nipple so it doesn't get that sticky feeling. Again, all this doesn't need to be done in sight of everyone else. Privacy is best. And besides, babies feed better when undisturbed. I've fed my twins a bottle in public but I still go find a nice, quiet corner to do so.
  2. by   Town & Country
    I agree with you, Cathie.
    I've yet to see a discussion about breastfeeding that didn't turn into a free-for-all.
    LOL
    Logging in with my opinion, I support people having "the right" to breastfeed in public, BUT I do think it should be done "discretely."
    Of course an infant may not allow a blanket in hot weather, but there are nursing slings and blouses that are discrete.

    Yes breastfeeding is natural but here in the USA breasts are a sexual object, like it or not and some people do not feel comfortable with exposed breasts.
    I didn't hear about the flap with Barbara Walters.
    That sounds a little extreme IMHO. It's pretty bad and repressive when you aren't allowed to even have an opinion that differs from the norm.
  3. by   Q.
    Quote from Tanzanite
    As for young children seeing a mother feeding her baby in public, that would be the perfect time to educate them.
    Yes but perhaps on that day, I didn't WANT them to be educated on it. As a parent I have the right to decide when they learn something, don't I?
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    So the anwser for those feeling offended:

    don't look.

    This is not a pornographic display but the natural fact of feeding a baby.
    We need to get over it already.
  5. by   Q.
    Deb, that's not an answer and you know it.

    I don't see what the big fuss is about being discreet. Why can women not be discreet? Why do I have to bend, change my direction, change the restaurant I'm eating, change my behavior yet a breastfeeding mom can't do ONE simple thing like cover herself or be discreet?
  6. by   S.N. Visit
    I also think it's sad that new mom's are feeling discouraged to breast feed their babies because of other people's uncomfortableness/views. Last week in my OB/peds clinical rotation, there were only 2 breastfed babies out of 5. Those babies and mothers are missing out on so much. (I can understand problems with lactation, latching on ect) but for those that don't even try because of the percieved sexual overtones are really doing a disservice to their babies antibodies, bonding relationship, and brain development.
  7. by   S.N. Visit
    Quote from Q.
    Yes but perhaps on that day, I didn't WANT them to be educated on it. As a parent I have the right to decide when they learn something, don't I?
    Help me to understand why you wouldn't want your child to be educated about it?
  8. by   Q.
    Oh, let's not go down THAT road. Because if I hear how my twins are missing out on SO MUCH because they weren't breastfed (they were gavage fed my milk and I pumped nearly exclusively) I think I'm going to puke.
  9. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from Q.
    Deb, that's not an answer and you know it.

    I don't see what the big fuss is about being discreet. Why can women not be discreet? Why do I have to bend, change my direction, change the restaurant I'm eating, change my behavior yet a breastfeeding mom can't do ONE simple thing like cover herself or be discreet?
    Where does it stop? I don't think overweight men should wear tight Speedos at the beach. Do I get to tell them to change into boxer type trunks? I don't think anyone should be walking around with huge tattoos. Do I get to tell them not to come into any building that I have to occupy? These are my problems, not their's. I don't actually understand the motivations of women who don't choose to be discrete, but I sure don't think I have some right to insist that they are.
  10. by   Q.
    Quote from Tanzanite
    Help me to understand why you wouldn't want your child to be educated about it?
    On that DAY. That MOMENT. I never said I didn't want them to learn about it, but maybe I didn't want them learning about it THEN AND NOW. Maybe I felt at that given time it was inappropriate for them to learn about it. Maybe it will confuse them further about something or gosh darn it, maybe I just don't want them knowing until next month or next year.
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Then you tell me Q, how do they handle it in Europe and Asia and Australia? Or maybe someone from those areas can enlighten me? Why is it such a HUGE issue here in the States????

    Maybe it is time for you to examine your own hangups in this area, if it's such a huge deal to you. What makes anyone think of breasts as sexual objects to be totally obscured from view, when in reality, they being used as nature intended? I have to wonder; what will you pass on to your kids in this area? I am just curious why this bothers you, an OB nurse, so much????


    And yes, "look away" if you are offended IS an answer. Til you find another one that is better. My rights end where my nose does; same goes for you. Like I said, this is not a porno show or Hooter's here...it's feeding a baby.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Dec 16, '05
  12. by   kersti
    Here in Germany, thankfully breastfeeding in public places is a normal and accepted practice. (Except for those 13 yr. old boys, of course )
    I did it myself because if your child is screaming, and there is no place else to go....
    Even though I do think that breastfeeding in public can be done discreetly. There is no need for both boobs to be hanging out all over the place-that just invites gawking and makes me wonder about the breastfeeding mother.
  13. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from Q.
    Yes but perhaps on that day, I didn't WANT them to be educated on it. As a parent I have the right to decide when they learn something, don't I?
    No, actually you don't have the right to decide when a child learns something that they observe from being out and about in public. You have no control, and no inherent right to control, the actions of other people. So if exclusive control over what your children witness and learn is a goal of your's, it becomes your responsibility to restrict their outings to those places where they aren't likely to run into people with different ideas.

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