So glad to hear this. I thought I was the only modern parent who spanked. I mean every once in a while a swat on the but makes an impression (not literally!)
I remember one day I was in the supermarket, left the kids at home. This woman was pushing a toddler in the seat of the cart, and her about 3 or 4 yr old was at the front of the cart pushing aginst her. She kept coming to the front of the chart, getting on eye level, and very clearly saying, You must not push the cart, it may fall and hurt your baby sister. I mean she was classic textbook parenting w/o spanking.
Well, this obnoxious little brat continued the same behavior throughout the store. I was at the point where I wanted to say, you know, a good smack on the a$$ would cure that problem real fast!! But, of course I held my tongue.
Of course, spanking in a store can be a sticky thing, that was when I usually just took them by their hand, hard, and led them calmly out of the store. Of course then they would scream, stop hurting my hand!! And embarrass the he!! out of me! LOL!
Another nurse friend and I discussed that one night, and she developed a code... if her kids acted up and had to be disciplined, she would say, "Come on, it's time to go to the bathroom." In the beginning they would say, but I don't have to go to the BR, she would say, Oh, yes, you do! Then she would provide whatever discipline was needed, not necessarily a spanking. Her kids learned real fast, that if mom said they needed to go the the br, they were in for it, so if she asked, do we need to visit the br? They would say no and immediately change their behavior. I tried it and it worked like a charm! At least the kids are not embarrassed by being disciplined in front of their friends too.