Nurses are Pathetic!!

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I have been reading thread after thread on this forum and I have come to one conclusion. We are all a pathetic bunch. We take abuse that most other human beings would not put up with. We are physically, mentally and emotionally abused by doctors, managers, patients, and families. We work ungodly hours, skip our much needed breaks without pay for months and years on end. And this goes on and on and on. The stories are endless. Then we are all shocked when a nurse who has had enough finally cracks and administers 32 vials of Dilantin and kills a patient. Is this so different than any other human being who finally after years and years of this abuse, just cannot take it anymore? I think not. When are we all going to stand up and demand decent pay, decent working conditions, and respect? Well, the answer is never because we are not a solid group. We have no autonomy or solidarity because we are a weak profession. We pit one against another. We ***** and backstab. We deserve all the abuse that is dealt to us. In nursing school, we are taught to make beds, empty bedpans and clean dentures. Instead we should get vast lessons in how to deal with some of the real issues that face us today. We are understaffed, overworked, pushed to the breaking point. But yet, the martyr instinct kicks in, we get up and go back and endure more of the same. When is enough, enough? When are we all going to come together and and start shouting about our working conditions and wages? We make less than a crew on road construction or a plumber. And look what we do. We are responsible for peoples lives. I went to work down the road as my current employer is union and I felt that maybe the non union hospital down the road would be a better place. Well, it is not, it is worse. 13 nurses have quit in the 6 weeks I have worked there. I won't renew my contract. It is just too unsafe. The hospital is all about profit at the expense of some great nurses. They even charge for an individual bandaid. It is ridiculous. I have decided that as soon as I can afford to, I'm getting out. I will no longer be a member of a profession that eats its young while at the same time, taking unwarrented abuse from unapreciative doctors that we bend over backwards for. Its not about making a living any more, it is about retaining some self respect, free of abuse by doctors, managers and other nurses who have nothing better to do than put a knife in your back the minute you turn around. At least at walmart I won't have to worry about making a life threatening mistake because I'm overwhelmed by what is required of me each day.

Specializes in Diabetes ED, (CDE), CCU, Pulmonary/HIV.

i've been a member of this board since early february. op did not say anything that i had not read here before. s/he just put all of it together in one long post. and just look at how many nurses went on the attack. i even thought that the op may have written the post just to see the reactions to it. apparently if you make just one or two complaints about nursing at a time, most will respond with support. however, if you put it all together, you get more attacks than support.

i've been an rn for 13 years. in that time, one or two doctors have been unkind when i called at 2 or 3 a.m. most of the mistreatment i have felt has come at the hands of other nurses.

i'm still in nursing, mainly because i changed hospitals after 9 years. i love what i do now and feel that i do make a difference in the lives of the pts, doctors and staff nurses i teach.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
I've been a member of this board since early February. OP did not say anything that I had not read here before. S/he just put all of it together in one long post. And just look at how many nurses went on the attack.

We also need to note that original poster came back in other posts responded to the more heated posts and clarified things a bit, afterwhich I became more supportive and understanding. To me the OP sounds like just another nurse in the trenches trying to make sense of it all. Trying not to make it all about the paycheck and politics, but to receive some semblence of job satisfaction under tough odds. (Isn't there a book with a similar title?)

Many people are reacting to the original post and need to read a bit further before judging.

I agree 100% there is nothing unique in this thread or post. We've been there and done that.

Specializes in NICU.

I wish you could work where I work. I love my job!!! And I don't take &@*^ from anyone!

Specializes in Education, Acute, Med/Surg, Tele, etc.

Bottom line, yes maybe pathetic why we put up with it...the reason we do is far from pathetic! It is within each and everyone of us to choose why we do this...why we subject ourselves for this cause...why we keep on going like the energizer bunny!

Once one knows why within themselves..the better the outcome is..even in the worse case scenero. Thank GOD my school taught me that, and made me look within myself to find answers to this question before I made the full commitment (oh well the money was commited..LOL!).

I truely believe that my presence, my voice, my personality, my take on life and why things are will help someone someday..and I can't stop till I feel that is no longer the case. It drives me...and one day it will not, and I will leave the field..but I fear the field will NEVER leave me...it is a part of me now...and through thick and thin, bad and good, hurt and joy...it will always be there...it is my choice to do with that what I will.

So pathetic...to most yes, but to me..who really counts? ME and those that I actually help..and why I feel that is worth it...well, I am still figuring it out with some, others I know...but each time..very worth the journey!

Specializes in Trauma,ER,CCU/OHU/Nsg Ed/Nsg Research.
i've been a member of this board since early february. op did not say anything that i had not read here before. s/he just put all of it together in one long post. and just look at how many nurses went on the attack. i even thought that the op may have written the post just to see the reactions to it. apparently if you make just one or two complaints about nursing at a time, most will respond with support. however, if you put it all together, you get more attacks than support.

no, but if you start a thread saying that nurses are pathetic and deserve the abuse they get, then that's another thing. that's not venting imo, that's taking out self-anger on others that you happen to see as pathetic abuse targets.

i only saw a couple "attacks." and i didn't see any clarification that would satisfy the "nurses are pathetic" claim.

what i did see was several people who don't allow themselves to be disrespected constantly, speak up. some are the same people that have supported the op in other threads (myself included).

some people aren't willing to drink the kool-aid. i don't think it's meanness, it's just self-respect.

Dude.... if you a going to bail, you should set your sights a little higher that Wal-mart.

Trust me I know... I use to work there. But, alas, I got fired... just because I refused to remove the "Wal-mart your source for cheap plastic crap" bumper sticker from my car. Huh... how unfair is that?

LOL, you crack me up. At least you were honest :)

Babtized. We are to be pitied because we allow things that totally go against the grain of our profession such as abuse. It runs rampant in nursing. Can we all agree on that?

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
No, but if you start a thread saying that nurses are pathetic and deserve the abuse they get, then that's another thing. That's not venting IMO, that's taking out self-anger on others that you happen to see as pathetic abuse targets.

I only saw a couple "attacks." And I didn't see any clarification that would satisfy the "nurses are pathetic" claim.

What I did see was several people who don't allow themselves to be disrespected constantly, speak up. Some are the same people that have supported the OP in other threads (myself included).

Some people aren't willing to drink the kool-aid. I don't think it's meanness, it's just self-respect.

I think we need to move beyond the original post and the use of the word pathetic. You're correct, there was no clarification to back up the claim of pathetic. The op recanted the word. See post 50 and 52. The op states " have not lost passion for nursing, just the whole process that makes it hard to do my job. "

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Babtized. We are to be pitied because we allow things that totally go against the grain of our profession such as abuse. It runs rampant in nursing. Can we all agree on that?

I'm trying to get us not to get hung up on words, such as your use of the word pathetic. So I'll contradict myself here and get hung up on a word in the post above. :lol2:

I don't think any of us are to be pitied. Sometimes it's our own bed to lie in and we have choices. As some have pointed out we can vote with our feet, and many do, they leave. Others like myself who are making a nice middle income that pays the bills, and getting other benefits, weigh the pros and cons and try to make a difference where we can and stick it out with some semblence of peace of mind.

I don't think the profession needs to be pitied. Although there is some pitiful behavior going on for sure.

I have decided that as soon as I can afford to, I'm getting out.

There is the crux of the problem for a lot of nurses. Nursing pays the best of anything else we currently know how to do.

I agree with most of what you said - except that years of being maltreated understandly results in nurses becoming homicidal.:uhoh3: :uhoh3: :uhoh3: :uhoh21: :uhoh21: :uhoh21: Dear God, please quit before you even consider such a terrible thing. Quit and starve. Quit and go naked. Quit and become homeless, lose your car, check into a Psych ward. But don't harm patients because you don't take your lunch breaks. Please promise you will get some psychiatric/psychological help STAT. Go free through your employer's EAP if possible.

Also, please find another line of work. You are burned out, Friend.

Dude.... if you a going to bail, you should set your sights a little higher that Wal-mart.

Trust me I know... I use to work there. But, alas, I got fired... just because I refused to remove the "Wal-mart your source for cheap plastic crap" bumper sticker from my car. Huh... how unfair is that?

ROFLMBO :devil: ;) :balloons: :balloons:

Dude, we are a commodity. There is an incredible shortage of people with our license.

We wont' be for long. The schools are cranking out new nurses by the thousands and there will no longer be a shortage. There is no shortage even now, really, just a shortage of nurses who will work under unbearable conditions.

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