My husband died Nov 8th

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Well it happened. After 6 mos of chemo for colon cancer, that was metastisizing to his liver all along, my dear Brent slipped into a coma Nov2, and died, Nov 8th, at the age of 47.. We met when we were teenagers. As we got older we went our separate ways, then we became re-united 25 years later, all because I had a dream about him, and acted upon it by phoning him up. It was love at first sight, again. We had five great years together. When we found out the cancer had spread to his liver, in that week we did the wills, arranged the memorial service, andgot married in our living room.We were going to get married after he recovered from his chemo, but of course had to speed things up a bit. But, the good news is I nursed him 24/7, and when he died it was in our bed, in my arms. I had just turned him, there was no mottling, his resps were easy, his extremities warm to touch, I snuggled up to him, kissed him, told him I loved him. I put my hand over his chest, feeling how strong and regular his heart rate was, then, his heart just stopped. There was no cheyne -stokes, nothing. Talk about a gentle peaceful passing. As he went, I felt a tingling sensation in my hand, which was laying on his chest. I get that sensation every now and then. It hits me head to toe, and then I get goosebumps. Maybe Brent is visiting me.I am trying to get through Christmas unscathed. It is a moment by moment process. Just wanted to let those of you who knew of my situation, know what has happened. Linda:o

Specializes in Everything except surgery.

Hello lessonlpn..:),

Your post although I know was a way of dealing with your lost, was so sweet, and lovingly written, that I just had to smile. I can't imagine what you're going thru right now, but I know you must find peace in the fact, that you found the love of your life again. I realize it is so sad to have lost him again all too soon. But I smiled because you did in fact find him again, and some people never find them at all. I feel you both were blessed to find each other again, if only for a short while, and you took up the challenges you were given, in the most inspiring way. Your husband was a very lucky man, the day he met you, and I have no doubt that he knew that better than anyone. From the way you have described his passing, is a sign to me, that he had a wonderful peace. That he was grateful to have a second chance at loving you and being by your side once again. I know today is hard, but just think about him, and I'm sure he will bring you comfort, just as you did him...:). May the Lord bless and keep you always!

You are in my prayers this holiday season. I can only imagine....please take care!

Kristy

I just wanted to add to the prayers and best wishes to you... I cannot even imagine what you are going through.... but do know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take care of yourself.

Linda,

It's Christmas Day & as I logged on to the site as a newcomer and got lost between boards, I saw your message and wanted to say I'm with you. I'm a student nurse, a 44-year old CWN...committed wannabe nurse...pursuing my original vocational goal/dream as a teen. I'm with you today in spirit. God Bless You. Lolly

I just read this thread today as I have been working a really long work week due to christmas. I just want to add my thoughts to those who have already stated exactly how I feel. I am sorry for your loss and am thinking of you from miles away. Thank you for sharing your love story with us, despite the fact that its overwhelmingly hard to lose the person you love, its heartwarming to read that true love can and does exist and that it found its way into your life

we are here for you anytime you need us!!!

Wendy

Specializes in cardiac, diabetes, OB/GYN.

I am in tears.. So very sorry..He is with you in heaven now...Hugs and sincere thoughts to you....

Thank you all for your very kind messages. I received such comfort reading all the posts. I appreciate the time you took to respond with such warmth and concern. Christmas was difficult -hanging up our special ornament of 'first christmas together 1997' was tough.But, today is Boxing day, and I have made it through another day. What gets me through the day is remembering how much we loved each other. Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength. Loving someone deeply gives you courage.

Specializes in MS Home Health.

I am glad we could help you feel better.

renerian

I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope your holidays are going well for you considering your loss. I must say you were a strong wonderful woman to this man. You both had some great years together and that dream was for a higher purpose. God bless you.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers...I am really sorry for your loss...know that your husband is looking down on you and giving you strength.

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