this may be controversial and I am hoping I will not be flamed.
would not have a male: labor nurse/ob/midwife.
I have had 3 children, one with a cnm at a hospital and 2 at home with a direct entry midwive. Both women had given birth to children of their own, which to me was also important as birth is a very subjective experience.
For me birth is a very primal thing, it's spiritual and transformative. I believe it is a sacred right of passage. I believe in the tradition of sisterhood and the wisdom of women helping women.
Yes, there are many men who sensitive and can emotionaly tune in to women, I happen to be married to one. I am not anti-male nurse. For me though, with my personal philosophy surrounding birth it just wouldn't work.
I also question the ability of women who, due to years of subordination would be even capable of objecting to a male labor nurse.
Just a few thoughts...I wish you luck in your chosen profession and in no way are questioning your abilities to be emotionaly available to women in labor.
Any statement but the last re: subordination refer to my personal choices only.
just thought i would repost my op with emphasis on what some people have taken issue with...
this is my personal culture. if your personal culture accomodates male L&D nurses...i have no problem with that. I respect your point of view, beliefs and the emotional life that has brought you to where you are.
What I have a huge px with in this discussion is what I percreive to be a lack of respect for my personal culture.
Yes, I view birth as a right of passage. A poster chose to pull that statement out and use it in a context that sounded unkind. This is not cool. :stone
There are some wonderful anthropological studies on birth, and the culture of birth across the centuries. I would be glad to site some refrences for anyone who wishes to further understand this issue.
as a whole other conversation we could discuss the medicalization of birth as a new phenomenea and how women have been helping women have babies for millenia. the male, as assistant, at the bedside is - in a timeline a new event.
peace out -