Quote from chenoaspirit
But imagine if that patient HAD asked what the test was for. I always ask when Im the patient. I dont know if what the doctor did was legal or not, but imagine how that woman looks to the medical team around her and how she would feel if she found out, or how she would feel about that doctor knowing he had with-held info that pertained to her health and life. I just couldnt be involved in such a situation as a nurse. I would feel like I was betraying the patient. But I would also want to ensure the health of her and the baby too. Its a no-end situation no matter how you look at it.
Maybe the woman would not want to know. Ignorance truly is bliss. She might have suspected something already but maybe can't deal with it just now. Maybe by telling her, you'd cause a divorce and maybe she doesn't want that. Being told that your husband had an affair is not a good way to spend the way. Bitterness, unforgiveness, betrayal all enter in. And for what? Hopefully, he will transgress no more and his wife doesn't have to be burdened with knowing that he cheated.
You say you could not be involved in a situation like this but what would you do if you worked for this doctor? Would you tell the patient? Would you refuse to participate in her care? Would you report the doctor to his licensing board? What exactly would you do or not do?
I think consulting an attorney is in order to find out if he did anything illegal. If not, then it's an ethical issue only. Not to minimize it but, as Maxine said today on "Judging Amy", "I've learned the value in not knowing."
I think sometimes we have to just ponder things in our hearts and then keep quiet and leave it alone. Which is the lesser of 2 evils?