Just Another Statistic - page 2
by VivaLasViejas Guide
It had been a good weekend, full of sunshine, relaxation, great food, and even better companionship, and I was still in a cheery mood when I walked through the door at work this morning. In fact, I was even whistling as I put my... Read More
- 5Sep 18, '12 by SarcasticLVNBeautiful words.. I'm truely sorry for your loss.. My facility lost one of our most loved residents on my shift about a month ago.. I cried that whole day- ran into the bathroom, every time so I could collect myself and focus on my other 24 residents. Every staff member on that day walked in and paid their respects, I cried and held the family members as if they were my family, even the city fire department shows up to pay respects to a well loved retired fire fighter. I still think about him during mde pass (he was always one of my first on the shift), I'd ask him for a finger to check his 02 sat and he'd flip me the bird as a joke. All my some of the other nurses say you will get used to it and it'll get easier.. I'll learn and be prepares but I will always show emotion. I wish the best to you and the family. Take care!
- 5Sep 18, '12 by VivaLasViejas GuideI've always said that if I ever "got used to" seeing people die, it'd be time to hang up my steth for good. I haven't reached that point yet.
Some deaths, of course, are harder than others. This was one of them. But Hanali's brave insistence on returning to work today reminded all of us that life does go on, and that there are eighty-six other souls who depend on us for care as much as Ellie did.
- 4Sep 19, '12 by hindsight2020RNWhwn working LTC there are some patients (residents) for whatever reason are closer to our hearts than others. I agree with you Viva. The moment I "get used to it" is the day this profession isn't for me anymore. At times you pray with patients and loved ones when the end is in sight, at times you sit quietly and just "be" there, sometimes you just sit back and give loved ones space, as death is more private to some than it is to others and then there are those special times when our hearts truly ache, we embrace and cry with those family members and friends we have come to know. It seems our nurse's intuitive side knows what grieving loved ones need and unselfishly we give it. It is not something one ever "gets used to" because each death we encounter is as unique and deserving of respect as the individual themselves who are passing.
Loved your beautiful post Viva and am so sorry for your loss, You restore my faith in the fact that there are still awsome, caring and worthwhile nurses who give a darn! Thank you *
- 6Sep 19, '12 by imintroubleI didn't see that my Dad was dying. I've always thought that it spoke to the kind of nurse I was. Maybe I wasn't smart enough to see the obvious. How could I not see the obvious?
Thank you for that one line in your post that makes me like everybody else. I wasn't a nurse, I was a daughter. I didn't see because I loved him. Now I'M going to cry
- 3Sep 19, '12 by sapphire18 GuideWith tears on my face, I thank you for writing this and sharing it with us. (((hugs))). I had a dying patient's sister ask me the other day if I ever get attached to my patients and I answered "yes, sometimes." She told me to never lose that compassion. I hope I never do.
- 1Sep 19, '12 by VivaLasViejas GuideAnd then there are days like today........I've got Corporate in the building auditing our charts, a resident in the hospital I have to go evaluate, and the second death in four days. Makes me wonder for the thousandth time what the fritz I signed on for. Watching a scared, sorrowful woman become a widow and then having to pronounce her husband dead is so incredibly sad that I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around it. Thanks, all, for your comments and support....this has been one TOUGH week.
- 1Sep 19, '12 by CheesePotatoI hear you, ma'am.
Is it a full moon? Is there something in the air?
It's funny....I don't remember punching a dolphin in the face, so the karma police shouldn't be after me......
And you don't seem the type to assault aquatic mammalian life....
::taps mat:: Just....uncle already!Last edit by CheesePotato on Sep 19, '12 : Reason: I don't....I don't even know.