Judging Nurses or Is It Just Me? - page 2
I think I allowed my feelings to be hurt this evening in class and I want opinions from other nurses as to whether I am just being oversensitive. I am in a class for foster parents looking to be... Read More
1Jun 11, '08 by Altra, BSN, RN GuideThe woman sounds like she has some serious issues which unfortunately color her behavior, even in public.
But that is her responsibility, not yours. You've never had any contact with her, or cared for her family. This is only about you personally if you let it be that way.
I commend your commitment to foster care. :angel2:
2Jun 11, '08 by leslie :-Dah.....
another satisfied customer.
seriously mom, this is sooo not about you.
take it from the source, pity her experiences and aspire to your personal and professional best.
hugs to you and your little ones.
1Jun 11, '08 by pagandeva2000I would try not to take it personally. If a person has a series of bad experiences with a certain entity, may it be doctors, nurses, bakers or teachers, they tend to automatically lump everyone in the catagory. If I only met 10 policemen in my entire life and they were ALL abusive, it may be impossible for me to consider in my limited world that the other 9,000,000 (not an accurate number-just speaking figuratively) are better?
I would certainly speak my mind at the next meeting, but just keep in back burner of your mind that this woman may have a limited experience or limited view (and that her mind may never change). You are as much of a participant in this as the mom is and deserve to be heard. Maybe that would be a great time to share what nurses experience by trying to be the best that they can be under stressful situations.
1Jun 11, '08 by sharona97My first thought after reading the first post was WOW, how can she really be doing well by her foster care/special needs kid if she is so hung up on the obvious help needed to care for the child (the woman defaming the nurses profession and un-employed mom).
I agree also, it would be better for you to write a letter. This would probably/hopefully let you move on in your mind and heart and also address a very important part of caring for children in this area. Maybe she sent a message to the head of the class? You'll never know until you address it as well.
I think your concern is valid. Chin up, there is a reason you are involved in this class!
Best of luck.
3Jun 11, '08 by TexasPediRNIs there a next class?
I'm a quiet person, but with this subject, I would feel the need to do some...re-education
She was judging, and im sure she may have had bad experiences..
I did pedi private duty for a while, including the monthly supervisory visits. I have no clue how some of those nurses had their license. Its also very hard to have nurses in your home 24/7, and personalities do clash and things do get blown out of proportion. Its all part of the business..
Yea..re-education is needed. A nice lil' presentation to the whole class..by the nurse
1Jun 11, '08 by meyun06Yes the lady was WRONG!! Some people might say that you took it personally and that she was not talking about you. Like you said, she was looking directly at you and the wep lady and you watched her body language and I think that indicates that she was talking about you. Everybody knows when someone is talking/throwing hints at them because you can feel it. I can understand why you got upset. Just look over her because you can't judge one nurse by another nurse's mistake.
2Jun 12, '08 by BlueEyedRNIt's funny. It seems like "outsiders" think nurses are either heroes or monsters. However, I've only met two monsters and lots and lots of heroes.