Judging Nurses or Is It Just Me? - page 2

by kiyasmom

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I think I allowed my feelings to be hurt this evening in class and I want opinions from other nurses as to whether I am just being oversensitive. I am in a class for foster parents looking to be approved to care for special... Read More


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    Sounds like this Mom has had some bad experiences in the healthcare world. Maybe she doesn't know any other way to express herself. At any rate, it's not your fault and it's nothing you did (or your classmates did) you all just happened to be there and it gave her an "oppurtunity" to vent.

    If you can, take this and run with it. Take it and let it help you build upon yourself and your own nursing skills. Let it help guide you into being the BEST nurse you can be. You can't change the experiences she had but you can take her perceptions and advocate for her and all the pateints you ever come in contact with. You know why you are a nurse. We alll know why we are nurses and that is all that matters.

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    Well, I suppose she thinks people can give their services for free??
    Did she ever stop to think that nurses don't get rich doing nursing, but they do have to eat and pay the bills??

    What a jerk. They should not have had her up to speak.
    That's just rude and uncalled for.
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    I come from both perspectives here.

    First as a parent of a medically fragile child. We had home nursing for 16 hours per day. We had both wonderful nurses and nurses that I am not sure how they even became nurses. Examples: Calling 911 because oxygen concentrator unplugged. Wanting to check placement of NG tube by injecting 10 cc's of water and listening for placement, telling new nurse that she just sits in living room and waits to hear footsteps of parents then she gets up and looks busy. Numerous other bad experiences also.


    At the time I was not a nurse, but I knew my daughter. She is alive today and doing well because of her pure determination and a real persistent and at times ****** mom and dad! She is also no longer medically fragile.

    Now as a nurse, I can relate to feeling judged. I have been judged by both families and other nurses and it is frustrating. But we never know what is going on in the others person's lives to make them act like they are.
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    The woman sounds like she has some serious issues which unfortunately color her behavior, even in public.

    But that is her responsibility, not yours. You've never had any contact with her, or cared for her family. This is only about you personally if you let it be that way.

    I commend your commitment to foster care. :angel2:
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    ah.....
    another satisfied customer.

    seriously mom, this is sooo not about you.
    take it from the source, pity her experiences and aspire to your personal and professional best.

    hugs to you and your little ones.

    leslie
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    I would try not to take it personally. If a person has a series of bad experiences with a certain entity, may it be doctors, nurses, bakers or teachers, they tend to automatically lump everyone in the catagory. If I only met 10 policemen in my entire life and they were ALL abusive, it may be impossible for me to consider in my limited world that the other 9,000,000 (not an accurate number-just speaking figuratively) are better?

    I would certainly speak my mind at the next meeting, but just keep in back burner of your mind that this woman may have a limited experience or limited view (and that her mind may never change). You are as much of a participant in this as the mom is and deserve to be heard. Maybe that would be a great time to share what nurses experience by trying to be the best that they can be under stressful situations.
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    My first thought after reading the first post was WOW, how can she really be doing well by her foster care/special needs kid if she is so hung up on the obvious help needed to care for the child (the woman defaming the nurses profession and un-employed mom).

    I agree also, it would be better for you to write a letter. This would probably/hopefully let you move on in your mind and heart and also address a very important part of caring for children in this area. Maybe she sent a message to the head of the class? You'll never know until you address it as well.

    I think your concern is valid. Chin up, there is a reason you are involved in this class!

    Best of luck.

    Sharona
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    Is there a next class?

    I'm a quiet person, but with this subject, I would feel the need to do some...re-education

    She was judging, and im sure she may have had bad experiences..

    I did pedi private duty for a while, including the monthly supervisory visits. I have no clue how some of those nurses had their license. Its also very hard to have nurses in your home 24/7, and personalities do clash and things do get blown out of proportion. Its all part of the business..

    Yea..re-education is needed. A nice lil' presentation to the whole class..by the nurse
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    Yes the lady was WRONG!! Some people might say that you took it personally and that she was not talking about you. Like you said, she was looking directly at you and the wep lady and you watched her body language and I think that indicates that she was talking about you. Everybody knows when someone is talking/throwing hints at them because you can feel it. I can understand why you got upset. Just look over her because you can't judge one nurse by another nurse's mistake.
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    It's funny. It seems like "outsiders" think nurses are either heroes or monsters. However, I've only met two monsters and lots and lots of heroes.
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