I think I'm done with nursing. - page 4

by MBrickle

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I've had a tough few weeks of self-reflection. My mind has gone back and forth over my preferred career path, and, ultimately, I think I'm going to bow out gracefully. I am a career-change RN. After receiving two bachelor... Read More


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    Quote from MBrickle

    I just wish I could more easily get into the hospital. It's honestly next to impossible, I feel! This is what is really getting me down...and resulted in my bacon grilled cheese, french fries, and mint chip ice cream for dinner :-)
    Oh no! Sorry to hear that... someone suggested to me to review the BLS and BON here in Dallas, TX area close to where I live. I saw how there were over a 1,000 unemployed.... I am sure there are more teachers unemployed right now since I resigned two years ago and can't seem to go back with too much competition. So I am hearing how nurses need to get acute training when they are NEW grads, right? Or is it just highly recommended? Reading your post, I am surprised how hard it is to get into a hospital especially after you graduated! A cousin in law who is a nurse informed me how retired nurses are returning to work due to their husbands getting laid off....I just hope there is HOPE for you and the rest of us. I can't wait til the job market grows.
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    MBrickle,

    I totally get what you're saying. Sometimes you just have to know when to hang in the towel. I was a nurse for 20 yrs. and soooo idealistic in the beginning. Though nursing can be one of the most rewarding jobs out there. It could be one of the most physically and mentally and sometimes emotionally demanding jobs out there. Sometimes you go on an on with very little kudos but that's not why we do what we do. It's not to get recognition. It's our patients well being that's enough. I've always felt that and I am sure every good nurse out there feels the same.
    Nursing is a career that is an excellent field to be in but it can also take the best out of you. I have no doubt in my mind that you would be a stellar ICU or NICU nurse. Sometimes you have to know when it's time and enough is enough. Trust your good instincts. They are your best guide. For me it happened after the birth of my fourth child 2 yrs. ago. That's when I decided to retire from nursing. I am only 40 years old and I still love people and love to help. Now I do it on a bigger scale, working the hours that I want and I work from home. I have my own business and I love it. I still have my close friends in nursing and every time I miss working at the hospital, I just phone one of them up and hear their stories then I feel so good for making that decision. I love working with my baby on my lap. It's the best feeling. So kudos to you!
    Last edit by TheCommuter on Jan 6, '13
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    Nursing is my life but I branched into social services because many of my patients in the clinic had medical treatment but no treatment for their mental health. So their lives fell apart because they had no where to turn, did not know what effective coping skills were or a good support network. When I started a group at the clinic, a few came at first then more. Now I have 3 groups going and now the patients are more compliant with their care and treatment. I love nursing but love it more from a holistic perspective. M next project in nursing- obesity - reducing the numbers through education and support.
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    Thanks for the replies. I was kind of in a rough place when I wrote the post. I'm also grateful to hear the accounts from nurses with back injuries. I was lucky enough to heal well after months of the most horrible pain I've ever felt. While I still suffer with nerve damage, I am vigilant about taking care of my body. I sleep well, I eat largely whole foods and I work out at least 5 days/week, including weight training. I also stretch for 45minuts 2-3x week. I will also be seeing a personal trainer with a DPT to help strengthen me further.

    I really want to be a nurse. I have decided to pursue my BSN to see what doors it will open, while I pursue leadership courses and other certifications such as PALS. I'm going to stick with it and give myself a shot this next year (while obtaining my BSN) before deciding whether to stay in home health while going to NP school, or continuing to work towards my dream of working in an ICU.

    To SionainnRN: First of all, I do have experience in the ICU, just not as a nurse. I am a quick thinker, I have forever been a problem solver, I excel under pressure and in emergency situations, taking the lead. I'm smart. I understand underlying pathology in a way that most of my classmates didn't. I'm incredibly observant and analytical. I'm not saying this as a cocky person (I could write a novel on my flaws) but I'm saying this to highlight the personality characteristics I possess that are in line with that of any critical care nurse. I have had exposure to the ICU, understand it, and truly love it.

    To britt_student: To say that I love the "idea" of nursing, but not the hard work is catty and downright untrue. If you read my post correctly (which obviously you didn't) I have expressed that my frustration is rooted in the fact that I HAVE worked hard. INCREDIBLY hard to even get where I am in nursing today and it doesn't really help. I'm frustrated because I'm stuck - in my area I don't even know if there is anywhere else I could get a job right now, or at least anywhere soon. My frustration is because I have SUCH a desire to work harder and prove myself, yet no outlet to do so. I am the exact opposite of what you accused me of.

    I'm going to stick with it because it's what I really want to do. I'm nervous about my back, but am hoping with proper body mechanics and some assistance I can do well. Time will tell.
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    I feel pretty stuck too, and I have my BSN. But because I graduated right when economy took a dive, and without a year of acute care experience, I became a stale old grad in California. Every year that goes by looks even worse on my resume. I am giving it one more year. Best of luck.
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    I'm curious where you live? You stated northeast, where exactly? I work in PA, live in upstate NY, we need nurses like you so bad at my hospital. I work on a high acuity floor and love it. Fast paced is all about our floor. Good luck in your adventure no matter what you ultimately decide.
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    [QUOTE=Ruby I've encountered some really wonderful people who happen to be nurses when I've been a patient (as I've been for most of this year) or my family members have been. [/QUOTE]

    I'm a wonderful, warm nurturing nurse to my patients. However, I am seething on the inside with the unbelievable, unrealistic demands placed on us. But you know what? My patients would NEVER KNOW I feel this way. So those nurses you had whom you are speaking of may very well be the same ones coming to this site venting about hating their job.
    Last edit by Orion81 on Jan 6, '13 : Reason: error
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    Rhi007: you are lucky that you have co workers that are so supportive. I have had job where they are less than friendly.Same with the patients.
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    The VA hires LPN's and ADN's and they do work them in the units - or at least the VA I was at did..things may have changed...anyway try here:
    www.usajobs.gov

    You never know - maybe there is an acute care job out there just for you
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    Quote from Rhi007
    If nursing is so awful....why are you in it? To the OP: it is frustrating when import nurses get the jobs and locals don't and I'm also a career change nursing student; I did child care and found that was much harder on my back. Ultimately you need to put yourself first and because you've seen both worlds.

    To the user that said there are no positives in nursing, I beg to differ! We work our ass off yes but there are only no positives if you think that way. I've found that I have a whole new family I can lean on for support or talk things over, go out for drinks, clubbing etc I enjoy the interaction with different cultures and I'm continuously learning...how are these not positives? Maybe it's just the US but Australian hospitals are very positive environments.

    Your job is what you make it.....I have a tattoo that says 'what doesn't kill me only makes me stronger' yes it is a thankless, work your ass to the bone job but there are the LOL's and parents that are greatful for what we do
    We? Who is we? You are a nursing student. Have you even worked as a nurse's aid? I worked as a sitter for fifteen months and now have two jobs as a PCA (nurse's aid), and let me tell you, nurses have HARD jobs. The TV is broken? Ask the nurse. Wrong food tray? Complain to the nurse. I have chest pain? Talk to the nurse. So much falls onto the nurse, even issues that are not relating to nursing practice, but because healthcare has become a business, nurses are forced to become super nurses and do anything and everything to get great patient satisfaction ratings.

    Until you have worked out in the field as a nurse or have had lots of healthcare experience working closely with nurses like I have, you are in no position to really comment about the state of nursing. Sorry.
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