I p****'ed off a coworker


  1. I feel so terrible about this, DH says I should just forget about it...
    Towards the end of one of those 12 hr shifts where you never sat down, admissions til unit was full, VERY 'demanding' pts etc., I was charting for the whole shift and getting ready to leave when yet another iv starts beeping. I tapped her on the arm to let her know it was hers(she has some hearing deficit), and she stomped away all huffy puffy. It's not like I was just lounging, I had been answering iv's all night and honestly just needed to go home before losing it! She is a very sweet person, great nurse, who was having a bad day at the start of the shift, and had just gotten a pretty complicated admission. I always try to help out and don't do the "it's your pt, you do it" thing, but my back was killing me and I just wanted to go home. She had time left in her shift so I figured it wasn't a big deal. Was I wrong to not do it for her? She is someone I consider a friend, so I feel horrible about upsetting her. Please tell me what you guys think..
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  2. 24 Comments

  3. by   jetsetter
    No, you were not wrong. She was probably in a "bad"place before this. The key is to fix things, fast. Find her favorite candy bar, cookie, snack... something. Offer it as a peace treaty.
    Life is just so much easier when everyone gets along, know what I mean?
  4. by   jnette
    Quote from jetsetter
    No, you were not wrong. She was probably in a "bad"place before this. The key is to fix things, fast. Find her favorite candy bar, cookie, snack... something. Offer it as a peace treaty.
    Life is just so much easier when everyone gets along, know what I mean?

    I agree... don't be so hard on yourself... we all get tired, we all have our limits. You just had yours.

    Next time you see her, explain to her just how you told it to us... that you don't usually pull the "it's your pt." thing... but you were at your limit that night, and that you hope she didn't think badly of you for asking her to take care of this.

    If she's a friend, as you say... I'm sure she'll understand... after all, she has HER limits as well !
  5. by   rollingstone
    Take your husband's advice and forget about it.
  6. by   RNKPCE
    This kind of thing happens everywhere. Don't feel bad. Would your manager want you to put in for overtime to stay over and fix the iv problem? Nursing is a 24hr job there is no end. At sometime you have to pack up and go home.
  7. by   Scotty
    Clear the air. It's obviously bothering you so you can't forget it yet, even if you try. Let your co-worker know you feel bad about it, but explain why at the time you didn't sort the IV for him/her. And tell them what you told us about them being a great nurse. I second the candy bar idea. Hugs may be appropriate. Hopefully then you'll both feel better.
  8. by   sharann
    Don't feel bad. We all would stay and help if we could, but we would never leave. There is just always so much to do. It isn't like baking cookies...there is always something wlse to do when you finish this chore.
  9. by   fiestynurse
    Let it go! It sounds like you both had a very busy shift. She had no right to stomp off all huffy and puffy. You just couldn't respond to another beeping IV and she should understand that. You don't owe her an apology or cookies or anything else. You were about ready to lose it and you had a right to take care of yourself. You don't always have to be taking care of everybody else.
  10. by   nurseygrrl
    Scotty said clear the air...I agree. Just tell your co-worker that you feel bad about the exchange and didn't mean to upset her when signaling her to go for the beeping IV. Tell her it seems like you both had a bad day and chalk it up to that. It happens to everybody
  11. by   BadBird
    I agree with your husband, forget about it.
  12. by   Agnus
    Quote from jetsetter
    No, you were not wrong. She was probably in a "bad"place before this. The key is to fix things, fast. Find her favorite candy bar, cookie, snack... something. Offer it as a peace treaty.
    Life is just so much easier when everyone gets along, know what I mean?
    sorry the candy bar cookie etc. sounds like you are a child and reguard me that way too. Also sounds manipulative. I Hate it when someone does this to me. Talk to me instead. I don't need your candy. And chances are I don't even want it. I can buy my own if I want it. Talk to me like an adult let me know you regret what happened and that you were stressed at the time. I can understand and forgive that.
  13. by   canoehead
    You both were having a stressful day. She'll forgive being asked to get the IV, just as you will forgive her huffiness because you both know it was just a rotten, crappy, thankless day. Just make a point to do something nice (like get her IV) the next shift you work with her. I will bet that she feels as bad as you do- or has forgotten the whole incident.
  14. by   Agnus
    Quote from canoehead
    You both were having a stressful day. She'll forgive being asked to get the IV, just as you will forgive her huffiness because you both know it was just a rotten, crappy, thankless day. Just make a point to do something nice (like get her IV) the next shift you work with her. I will bet that she feels as bad as you do- or has forgotten the whole incident.
    YES, YES. get my IV now that is a very good. Demonstrates you are willing to help and support her, and you both were just over burdened humans.

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