I don't understand this profession.. - page 5

I have been a nurse for almost 8 years. During these years, I have worked in many different areas at two different hospitals. What I do not understand is the bitterness, bickering, and unprofessional... Read More

  1. by   Diahni
    Quote from chadash
    ah yes! vitamin P.....should be instilled in water fountains thoughout LTC facilities~

    Oh, by the way, dominant codependent is a code word for bully...
    Neurontin is better if you're hyper....
  2. by   AMARTIN1
    Quote from Tweety
    I'd say 90% of the time we are o.k. But every once in a while we have a meltdown. I had a hissy fit myself just the other day. I was very unprofessional but it just came out of me due to overwhelming stress and poor staffing.

    Later we all got over it and had a good laugh. Someone on the sides who didn't know me or us could come here and say the same thing you did.

    I don't generalize the 10% of the times we're not at our best and judge my unit.

    Good luck to you.
    Very well put!! I've caught myself doing the same.
  3. by   chadash
    Quote from Diahni
    Neurontin is better if you're hyper....
    specially if you have those pesky hemifacial spasms, so common in healthcare workers....
  4. by   bethin
    I'm a CNA on a med/surg floor and a pre-nursing student. I have actually had a change of major form in my hand ready to turn in to my advisor. I have been told to dig through trash cans because a nurse accidentally threw away a narcotic. When I said no, I didn't have time, I was told that I was there to serve her. When I asked if her hands were painted on she turned away from me. I dumped the trash but didn't find the med. Turned out it was in her pocket.

    I have seen a nurse manager, nursing supervisor and a seasoned RN in the hall screaming and cussing at each other. And we should follow their command?? I think that's part of the problem. When the so called professionals can't keep it together how can anyone else?

    Does everyone else have problems with backstabbing?? I feel so guilty when I hear someone say something nice to someone only to turn around and say something nasty when they walk out of the room. I hate office politics.




    Quote from smg
    I have been a nurse for almost 8 years. During these years, I have worked in many different areas at two different hospitals. What I do not understand is the bitterness, bickering, and unprofessional behavior that happens on the floor.
    I think this has always been a problem, but it seems to have become increasingly worse. Yesterday I witnessed a colleague rip apart another nurse, the director, and a nursing assistant. The other nurses on the floor then began to tear into the first nurse and it became a very tense working environment.

    Nurses are in such great demand and I see why. Unless you have thick skin and can take being harassed by coworkers, you will leave the profession too.

    Nurses not only eat their young, but also their old, strong, weak, and whoever else.

    Yesterday, I was ashamed to call myself a nurse. I am a second career nurse and I have never witnessed behavior in coworkers in my life. The incident yesterday was just one example there have been many others of nurses bring each other down.

    I needed to vent about this because it makes me sad. I have a niece and nephew that both were thinking about the nursing profession while in school. Thanks heavens that I was able to talk them out of it. They deserve more out of their career.
  5. by   Diahni
    bethin, if you don't like office politics, a friend who does per diem says it's the cure - everyone is glad to see you as most times you're doing someone's shift for them. and no unit meetings!

    chadash - I'd say it's more like a full body spazz.

    Diahni
  6. by   chadash
    Quote from Diahni
    bethin, if you don't like office politics, a friend who does per diem says it's the cure - everyone is glad to see you as most times you're doing someone's shift for them. and no unit meetings!

    chadash - I'd say it's more like a full body spazz.

    Diahni
    I was picturing .... Chief Insp. Charles Dreyfus reacting to the hapless Insp. Jacques Clouseau....which produced a onesided facial tic of global proportions....I have been know to have this effect on some nurses....
  7. by   FroggysMom
    Quote from bethin
    I'm a CNA on a med/surg floor and a pre-nursing student. I have actually had a change of major form in my hand ready to turn in to my advisor. I have been told to dig through trash cans because a nurse accidentally threw away a narcotic. When I said no, I didn't have time, I was told that I was there to serve her. When I asked if her hands were painted on she turned away from me. I dumped the trash but didn't find the med. Turned out it was in her pocket.

    I have seen a nurse manager, nursing supervisor and a seasoned RN in the hall screaming and cussing at each other. And we should follow their command?? I think that's part of the problem. When the so called professionals can't keep it together how can anyone else?

    Does everyone else have problems with backstabbing?? I feel so guilty when I hear someone say something nice to someone only to turn around and say something nasty when they walk out of the room. I hate office politics.

    And for this we all need to get BSNs or better??????
  8. by   NYCRN05
    Quote from lisa41rn
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I too am a second career RN. I've been working an entire three months and feel like crying more than feeling happy when I leave work. I had more patients today than other nurses, many 20 years of experience. I don't mind working hard, but when it's time to leave, the leave. They don't bother to help me out. I ended up leaving 75 minutes late today!! That's the latest I've ever left. While staying late, I get the feeling others from the next shift have the attitude I dont know anything. They have no patience at all. I hate my job even though I feel I'm doing okay. I make some mistakes, but nothing earth-shattering, but I'm a perfectionist, so it always appears worse than it is in my mind. To make matters worse, I'm fed up and now I found out one of my patience has tested positive for TB and I have to be tested now. Reading your post makes me realize I'm not alone. By the way, I don't expect any job to be perfect, but this is crazy!!
    Hi Lisa! I'm Lisa too! And I totally understand what you mean. I was a secretary and stay at home mom for many years before I decided to give my "Dream" of nursing a try. I've been on the job for two months now and there are times when I really wonder if I made the right decision to become a nurse. I'm feeling very confused right now and I don't want to give up (I hear that the feelings I'm experiencing are normal for a new grad.), but there are moments when I just want to run for the hills! I'm the type of person that want's everyone to like her and wants everyone to get along. But I'm slowly beginning to realize that that isn't going to happen. I've come to the point that I just want to do my job for my eight hour shift and go home. Once upon a time I wanted to make a difference in nursing...amazing what a couple of months can do to a person. Thanks for letting me vent :-)
  9. by   NYCRN05
    [QUOTE=BamaBound2bRN]
    Quote from bluemesa
    I too believe the root of this evil work enviroment is related to stress.

    Yes, but stress is relevant. After combat, nothing stresses me...............................................I thought, then came Chemistry

    TOO FUNNY!!!! I agree though, I thought raising a husband and three kids was rough...but nursing school and now being a floor nurse is a PIP!!!!!!
  10. by   Mona Mona
    Quote from NYCRN05
    Hi Lisa! I'm Lisa too! And I totally understand what you mean. I was a secretary and stay at home mom for many years before I decided to give my "Dream" of nursing a try. I've been on the job for two months now and there are times when I really wonder if I made the right decision to become a nurse. I'm feeling very confused right now and I don't want to give up (I hear that the feelings I'm experiencing are normal for a new grad.), but there are moments when I just want to run for the hills! I'm the type of person that want's everyone to like her and wants everyone to get along. But I'm slowly beginning to realize that that isn't going to happen. I've come to the point that I just want to do my job for my eight hour shift and go home. Once upon a time I wanted to make a difference in nursing...amazing what a couple of months can do to a person. Thanks for letting me vent :-)
    Wow. This totally mirrors my situation--except I do not have kids. I want to get out of secretarial work and have a "career". I can only hope I don't have to move around too much to find a good position.

    I just have to say that where I volunteered for 4 months I saw NONE of this. Do they just not show bad things in front of volunteers??? Maybe I was on a good floor?

    These stories are So. Scary. To. Me.

    Just do your job, and go home. Why cause all the drama?? I'll never understand it. I know Nursing is not the only field this happens in, it happens EVERYWHERE, believe me. But, some of these stories are HORRIBLE. I guess some people are miserable and have to make everyone else feel their pain also??
  11. by   Diahni
    Quote from NYCRN05
    Hi Lisa! I'm Lisa too! And I totally understand what you mean. I was a secretary and stay at home mom for many years before I decided to give my "Dream" of nursing a try. I've been on the job for two months now and there are times when I really wonder if I made the right decision to become a nurse. I'm feeling very confused right now and I don't want to give up (I hear that the feelings I'm experiencing are normal for a new grad.), but there are moments when I just want to run for the hills! I'm the type of person that want's everyone to like her and wants everyone to get along. But I'm slowly beginning to realize that that isn't going to happen. I've come to the point that I just want to do my job for my eight hour shift and go home. Once upon a time I wanted to make a difference in nursing...amazing what a couple of months can do to a person. Thanks for letting me vent :-)
    Lisa,
    I'm not Lisa, too, but boy can I relate. And I'm not even done with school yet. Isn't it funny that the posts seem to have one theme - no, it's not the grosser aspects that's bothering people, and let's face it, not a whole lot of people can deal with that. These folks get filtered out early. No, it's the stalwarts who hang in there, wondering how long their egos and sanity can deal with the abuse. I am extremely allergic to abusive people. Are you consdiering any other options? After all, there are options with your hard-won RN.
    Diahni
    P.S. I haven't even taken the NCLEX and feel ready for a support group: "Hi everybody, I'm Diahni, and I'm an RN...."
  12. by   Diahni
    [QUOTE=NYCRN05]
    Quote from BamaBound2bRN


    TOO FUNNY!!!! I agree though, I thought raising a husband and three kids was rough...but nursing school and now being a floor nurse is a PIP!!!!!!
    This is scary, everybody. You just commented that raising three kids (husbands vary) is hard, but nursing school and working is harder. Someone else compared the course work to pst from combat. Maybe I'm heading for the hills, too. Actually, I'm already in the hills, but hospitals are more or less the same everywhere.
    Diahni
  13. by   BlueYYsRN
    Quote from DianeMyra
    Here's what has worked for me in these situations. I act the same way, whether dealing with people who seem out to get me as I do for those who are pleasant. I make it a point to give them a salutation, ask how they're doing, and say have a good weekend/night/day when they, or I, are leaving. It's amazing how many REALLY grumpy people show nicer colors in a very short time. I think that their bad behavior causes those around them to become grumpy themselves, in turn making the initiator even more miserable. This has worked well in all aspects of my life, including 25 years as a hair stylist (another hot spot for this kind of bad behavior from co-workers and customers). I started doing this when I was 16 as kind of a game, a challenge to myself to see if I could persuade this one waitress to be more pleasant to me; the results amazed me, and still do to this day. The more spiteful one is, the more of a challenge I have, I kind of enjoy it, keeps me on my toes! Of course my form of enjoyment is spending a weekend over a chessboard trying to solve problems there, so I'm prolly just weird! I know now that I wrote this I'll meet an unchangeable, cantankerous cuss that'll cause me to bang my head against the wall in defeat; if I do, I'll be back to ask for advice ~ Diane
    I do this also. It works in other situations too. I can tend to get stressed out while driving. Aggressive drivers make me nuts. My daughter suggested that if someone is being especially mean that I should not let it get to me but to anticipate their reaction when I blow them a kiss and smile...the results have been priceless and so much more gratifying than other gestures or words!

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