I really need advice from someone who is not family and doesn't feel like they need to tell me what I want to hear.
I am a 30 year old single mom with two boys ages 10 and 8. We have been on our own for 7 years and it has been great but it has been a struggle. I decided to go back to school in 2005 and graduated with an accounting degree in 2009. Needless to say, 2 years later the thought of accounting makes me want to cry and so I am working as an adminsitrative assistant for $14/hour and just can't imagine doing this for the 35 years that I have left before retirement. I really want to go back to school and take the Bachelor of Nursing program because it is something that I always wanted to do I guess I just didn't believe in myself enough. I am second guessing it though because my children have already had to deal with me going to school and having to make sacrifices financially and I don't know if I want to put them through that again. We are doing pretty well financially and I am scared that they will look back at their childhood and think that it could have been better. I guess another issue I am having is trying to tell myself that this is what is best for them when my oldest will already be 14 and I will have cheated him out of the great life that I wanted him to have.
I know that this all probably sounds ridiculous but all I want is to be the best mom that I can be but at the same time do something that is going to make me happy. I would be greatful for any insights or words of wisdom anyone can offer. Thank you!!
I agree with you, time goes by so fast and your boys need you right now. A divorce, separation is hard on children and to not have the custodial parent available when needed is too much for them. Remember, they already heard, "mommy is going to school to get her degree so we can have a good life." They sacrificed for four years. Now you are about to tell them the same thing again. When is it enough? I say this from their view, "I thought we were going to be fine when you finished the other school?" You said you are financial stable and the boys probably love their life now. Do you really want to disrupt it now? Can you wait till the youngest goes to college? What if you do this and in five years, hate nursing? I am telling you this with all sincerity, and I think you already know. Sometimes we as parents have to push aside our wants, for their needs. Peace!
Last edit by Chin up on Apr 26, '11
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