How to shut up people who gossip !!!!!! - page 3

A very wise person swears that printing out the following and posting it around the workplace will drastically cut down gossiping and backbiting, or at least tick them off: Great people talk about... Read More

  1. by   blueyesue
    Quote from mercyteapot
    Reminders can be verbal or email without cluttering up what is supposed to be a professional setting and airing dirty laundry in front of patients/clients.
    Agreed.
  2. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from GardenDove
    Was Peach Pie accusing me of being a whiney nitpicker?
    I thought so. Maybe I read it wrong??? At any rate, she's calling someone a whiny nitpicker. IMO, telling someone to shut up or calling them names is no better than gossip and in most cases is probably worse (unless the gossip is malicious).
    Last edit by mercyteapot on Jan 5, '07
  3. by   Barb101
    Ouch the truth not very many people can handle the truth. It tends to cut to the core of the person.
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I have found ignoring annoying people works wonders. Both online and in real life.
  5. by   Rme4life
    Quote from EJM
    Good question. How I personally define that line is this:

    If I would feel comfortable saying what I was saying about the person in front of them, then I have not crossed the line into gossip.

    If I would never say what I said in front of the person I was talking about then I am gossiping or backstabbing.

    Please don't get me wrong, I have been guilty of gossip many a time. I just know when I am doing it by those parameters
    I really like this and I agree, but what do you call it when you are willing/and do say the mean things to someones face and what is more hurtful? i try really hard not to ever say anything I would not want someone to overhear me say and when I hear someone else do it I have tried responding in a way to stop the conversation. but just like everyone else, if you find out some really good stuff on someone you know, you can't wait to share it with someone. I try to keep my gossiping to my husband.
  6. by   kitty=^..^=cat
    Quote from EJM
    Good question. How I personally define that line is this:

    If I would feel comfortable saying what I was saying about the person in front of them, then I have not crossed the line into gossip.

    If I would never say what I said in front of the person I was talking about then I am gossiping or backstabbing.

    Please don't get me wrong, I have been guilty of gossip many a time. I just know when I am doing it by those parameters
    In my neck of the woods, the more times the term, "bless her heart" is used, the worse it is...:icon_roll
  7. by   blueyesue
    Quote from Rme4life
    I really like this and I agree, but what do you call it when you are willing/and do say the mean things to someones face...
    Being a *****. (rhymes with itch)

    or for a male, an ass.
  8. by   blueyesue
    Quote from kitty=^..^=cat
    In my neck of the woods, the more times the term, "bless her heart" is used, the worse it is...:icon_roll

    Ooh those words can be used so snidely can't they.
  9. by   Tweety
    Quote from GardenDove
    Was Peach Pie accusing me of being a whiney nitpicker?

    Let's drop it and take the mature high road and not talk (gossip) about the OP back and forth within this thread, use the PM system to work it out with the OP, or if you feel personally attacked the reporting system , if you guys don't mind. Thanks.
    Last edit by Tweety on Jan 6, '07
  10. by   Tweety
    Quote from Tweety
    I'll ask an administrator to change the title of the thread, so your original point won't be lost, which was to highlight the quote.

    Sorry, apparently this can't be done because each and every post has the original wording in it. Lesson learned eh?
  11. by   rn/writer
    Originally Posted by PeachPie
    After posting, I did try to change the title, but it only let me change the subject in the initial post.

    You've never heard of a gossip hag? Trying to nitpick?

    Hmmm...
    Great people see the goal/main idea and strive toward it.
    Small people nitpick, whine, and otherwise trip up progress.
    Quote from mercyteapot
    So we're right back to where we were originally. You think calling people small, nitpickers, and whiners is lofty and mature? What was the point of changing the title if you were going to respond like this?
    There is a big difference between describing behavior and calling names.

    It's an important life skill to be able to separate who people are from what they do. If you can master this, you can stay loyal to the person even when they do/have done something that drives you bonkers.

    Even when you don't feel all warm and fuzzy about someone, having this ability can allow you to retain some sense of connection when they frustrate you. Sometimes that is your only passport to communication. Or toleration, when solving problems isn't one of the choices.
  12. by   CseMgr1
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    I have found ignoring annoying people works wonders. Both online and in real life.

    Amen.
  13. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from rn/writer
    There is a big difference between describing behavior and calling names.

    It's an important life skill to be able to separate who people are from what they do. If you can master this, you can stay loyal to the person even when they do/have done something that drives you bonkers.

    Even when you don't feel all warm and fuzzy about someone, having this ability can allow you to retain some sense of connection when they frustrate you. Sometimes that is your only passport to communication. Or toleration, when solving problems isn't one of the choices.
    Sorry, but she specifically said ''small people'' engage in those behaviors. That is name calling, pure and simple.

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