How are you judgemental?

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I was reporting off this morning on a rule out chest pain pt. He was a 49 yr old guy who had an extensive family cardiac risk hx, he had had a CABG in his 30's, had been an alcoholic until 8 yrs ago, when he gave it up. He had abused recreational drugs. He previously had smoked 4 pks a day, but now was down to 1/2 pack a day. He still occasionally indulged in pot, was married for 30+ years, had had stents, was not overweight, had early COPD, and was just about to get on disablity for his multiple problems. He also had had some esophegeal surgery secondary to his previous ETOH dependence.

The guy was actually very nice and really above board and honest. He had been a traveling worker who had worked on railroads. He had made the effort to quit drinking for 8 years, had cut back to 1/2 pack a day, was not pestering me for morphine, and was really nice.

So, one of the nurses in report was pretty judgemental. Let me just say that this nurse tends to give a pass to all the out of control diabetics who are 100 punds overweight, and is a only too eager to point out how judgemental I am if I comment on that.

This all made me realize how each of us has something that makes us judge our pts. For some reason, this guy seemed up front and honest. He didn't mind my remarks like "How in the world did you manage to smoke 4 pks a day!?". I saw him as someone who WAS making an effort. Yes, I think that whiny, overweight pts who have complications from their food overindulgences bug me.

So, what is it that particularly sets you off about your pts? For me it's the overeating, abdominal chronic pain pts, they really aggravate me. :uhoh3:

Specializes in ICU, ER, Surgery, Med-Surg, Pediatrics.

I get tired of patients who are dead set on having an antibiotic for their runny nose. Even worse, they don't want to come in to be seen. They want you to call it in for them. The doctor I work for was formally know to call an antibiotic in when asked. NO MORE! He doesn't say anything. I think he may be alittle scarred of me! :wink2:

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Er, Tweety, I see you misspelled judgmental :eek: Did you miss the spelling lesson?

Regarding spelling, I definately think that some have an inate ability to visualize words in their heads, and I'm not one of them. No, I don't take the gentle correction personally, it was done with good humor...

There are some words my fingers are just going to spell incorrectly all the time, guess that's just one of them. I used to have it in my sig line something of the effect "please forgive misspellings and typos".

Thanks for forgiving me.

Specializes in Utilization Management.

re: the spelling lesson.

from definition of judgment - merriam-webster online dictionary

judgment

one entry found for judgment. main entry: judg-ment audio.gif

variant(s): or judge-ment audio.gif /'j&j-m&nt/

function: noun

1 a : a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion b : an opinion so pronounced

2 a : a formal decision given by a court b (1) : an obligation (as a debt) created by the decree of a court (2) : a certificate evidencing such a decree

3 a capitalized : the final judging of humankind by god b : a divine sentence or decision; specifically : a calamity held to be sent by god

4 a : the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing b : an opinion or estimate so formed

5 a : the capacity for judging : discernment b : the exercise of this capacity

6 : a proposition stating something believed or asserted

synonym see sense

Specializes in Utilization Management.

So either judgement or judgment is correct, ok? :)

Specializes in Gerontological, cardiac, med-surg, peds.

I have difficulty with families who insist that "everything" be done for their 90+ relative with many comorbid conditions, dementia, etc. I have to stand back and think that I'm not just taking care of the patient, but the whole family and this is a process that many families require in letting their beloved relative "go." Of course, we do our best to educate in a sensitive manner. Often families just aren't ready to hear what we have to say. It is very sad to see a dying elder coded or put on a ventilator, multiple pressors, etc, while the family goes through this process.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

I agree whole heartedly that the long-winded gossipy reports are out of line.

I also agree it's not fair to judge someone's pain. As I said before I've seen bad outcomes on those labled "whimps" when it was really a change in their condition.

Again, we'd only be human to not be effected by some of what we witness in our careers and it always doesn't just slide off our backs, as long as it doesn't affect our care and professional care of the patient.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
So either judgement or judgment is correct, ok? :)

Thank you! I was noticing the same thing in MSN Dictionary. So there...neener neener neener!

Specializes in Utilization Management.
Thank you! I was noticing the same thing in MSN Dictionary. So there...neener neener neener!

:Present2: Merry Christmas, Tweets.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
:Present2: Merry Christmas, Tweets.

I'm so easy aren't I??

Yes, the English language can be frustrating since it is a conglomeration of so many other languages and rules . . . you can say " I before E except after C" to help remind you of how to spell some words like "receive" but the rule breaks down for other words.

and I have purposely educated myself on all aspects of addiction so I could at least intellectually understand even if emotionally I want to throttle someone.

steph

i agree with the english language being a pita......and i think i "gotcha" on the "purposely".....hmm perhaps it should be purposefully?....lol

and to the poster with a question on learning spelling......some indeed can be memorized.....but apparently there is a small subset of person...i think the study was on men, that CANT learn it...it is a minimal brain disfunction..not affecting the intelligence.....hm one l or two....lololololol

Specializes in ER.

OMG can we get over the spelling thing?

OMG can we get over the spelling thing?

That would be my fault . . . mea culpa . . . :bowingpur

Yes, Merry Christmas Tweety! :icon_redface:

steph:lol_hitti

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