Heinous or Forgivable??? - page 3

I was doing a 1:1 observation with an elderly confused woman who tends to wander. So I was in the room with her and the 19 year old unit clerk came in with a piece of paper that said " My name is... Read More

  1. by   JAYNE :DANCE:
    I AM DISGUSTED BY THIS....AND TO THINK THAT THIS GIRL IS GOING TO NURSING SCHOOL.....IT IS JUST NOT A THING I LIKE TO THINK ABOUT....SOMEONE NEEDS TO SLAP A SIGN ON HER BACK...........SAYING "I AM NOT WITH STUPID, I AM STUPID".....YES I UNDERSTAND THAT SHE IS JUST TAKING THIS BEHAVIOR (SP?) FROM OTHERS, BUT DOES SHE NOT HAVE A BRAIN OF HER OWN TO REALIZE THAT THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR (SP?)????????????????
    SOME PEOPLE MUST HAVE BEEN AT THE BACK OF THE LINE WHEN THE BRAINS WERE BEING GIVEN OUT....
  2. by   nimbex
    having worked geriatric psyc....



    your facility obviously had safe and HUMANE practices... hence the one to one. We would take a polaroid picture (after family consent) and post one of the wanderers in the other two units, just in case a resident visited. Exit doors LOCKED.

    As everyone has stated.... not acceptable anywhere.

    This person can learn alot from your compassion....but you can't pay people to care... just show them the way OUT!
  3. by   GPatty
    No. No one would ever dare put a sign on my Mom. Never.
    And to act that way as a nurse is deplorable.
  4. by   Agnus
    I'm with you Sr. Margaret. She needs to be educated. She has obviously been misled.
    This kind of behavior lacks compasion and is childish. However, as much as I would like to, attacking her will only put her on the defensive. Lead by example and use some compassion in teaching her the how and why. By using some compasion in teaching her she will be more receptive. Then if she doesn't get it fire her for cause.
  5. by   MollyJ
    Okay, folks, she's nineteen.

    I think I've grown a little compassion since 19 BUT I probably had a few things to learn. (Though I don't think I would have done THAT!)

    The most important thing that happened here is the interaction you had with her. You let her know that what she was doing was way out of line.

    And the good news was that she had enough humanity to be embarassed by her own behavior, hence the ripping up the note and stomping off.

    I would tell this to the Charge nurse or NM, but probably if I were a NM, I wouldn't necessarily act on it unless it was part of a pattern.

    And if she was disrespectful or tacky with clients again, I'd be on her like a dirty diaper.
  6. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by hapeewendy
    that little idiot
    This sums it up the best. Let's just hope the nursing school she is attending is good at weeding out the undesirables.

    Heather
  7. by   Sleepyeyes
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN
    All that would have needed to happen was that resident's family to walk in and see that. If I saw one of my loved one's with a sign on their back like that, someone would have to hold my purse.
    And mine too.... (hubby calls it my "flight bag")....heh heh
  8. by   nrs2bme
    I must agree with everyone else... This put tears in my eyes and hits close to home... my dad is 82 but thank God shows no signs of dementia,or alzheimer's BUT if he ever did.... and something like this happened I personally would have seen to it that this person lost their job!!! I'm just strarting pre-req's but I would not want this person to be in any of my classes let alone call herself a nurse... this is the kind of person who gives nursing a bad name...You did well by telling her she was wrong...hope you said something to the supervisor.
    Sharon
  9. by   JailRN
    (sigh)< well we must forgive her, for she know not what she does.

    She's 19 that pretty much sums it up, and she must have some pretty bad role models.

    Now YOU get the awsome responsibility to explain to this poor, misguided youngster what is meant by a 1:1.

    If that doesn't work, Vegas will hold her own purse, and I'll keep my fannypack(That's where my gun is holstered) .

    Thank you. Thank you very much.
  10. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by JailRN
    If that doesn't work, Vegas will hold her own purse, and I'll keep my fannypack(That's where my gun is holstered) .

    Thank you. Thank you very much.
    :chuckle Pistol packin' Mama. I LOVE it!!!
  11. by   mihi
    How awful for that patient. We all deserve some dignity.

    Michelle
  12. by   CATHYW
    originally posted by nurseleigh
    okay, i have to play devil's advocate here.

    she stated that "everyone else does it". now i agree with all of you that is is wrong, degrading, and ultimately unneccesary, but this young girl obviously learned this behavior from someone else and from the looks of it does not have the mental capacity to understand why she was wrong.

    still, i would probably not have been so nice with her!!

    nurseleigh
    i understand that the girl needed someone to play devil's advocate for her nurse leigh. but, this was simply not acceptable. i agree that she should be educated. perhaps the suggestion of one of those "hello, i'm" labels that folks use at conventions and reunions would be more tasteful, especially if worn on the person's front. i understand that the resident might pull it off if put on the front, but that goes back to the fact that this facility should know their residents, and should know which room is theirs!
  13. by   HARPUA
    That is crazy. I am a nursing student and would never dream of doing that to a patient. I would not want to be treated like that so why would I do that to someone else. I agree with you. I would have taken that sign off and told the clerk what I thought about it. You are right, if they were doing their job she wouln't need a note!!!!!!

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