Gets up on one knee - page 4

It's been a little over a month since my drop from nursing year. Since I work with great people, everyone is supportive of me to be an RN. Thats what makes it so hard to accept failing over... Read More

  1. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    (pssst... baseline.... there's a cuervo with your name on it at the bar)
    Last edit by OBNURSEHEATHER on Mar 19, '03
  2. by   Hardknox
    Mario--you got the boot from nursing school because you gave medication without your instructor and your papers were not passed in on time. Make a sign with these words on it and put it on your mirror and look at it every day.

    You want to be a nurse? Apply to a new school , get a clean start and look at the sign and DON'T DO these things again or you'll never be a nurse.

    We have beaten this subject to death. You've gotten advice from nearly every regular poster on the board, but you won't OWN you errors. Anyone who doesn't say "Poor Mario" or "Gender Bias" is harsh in your mind. Don't keep asking for advice if you don't want to hear it. I think you've had people bend over backwards here. There is real wisdom in many of these posts.

    Enough already!!
  3. by   RNinICU
    Originally posted by Hardknox
    Mario--you got the boot from nursing school because you gave medication without your instructor and your papers were not passed in on time. Make a sign with these words on it and put it on your mirror and look at it every day.

    You want to be a nurse? Apply to a new school , get a clean start and look at the sign and DON'T DO these things again or you'll never be a nurse.

    We have beaten this subject to death. You've gotten advice from nearly every regular poster on the board, but you won't OWN you errors. Anyone who doesn't say "Poor Mario" or "Gender Bias" is harsh in your mind. Don't keep asking for advice if you don't want to hear it. I think you've had people bend over backwards here. There is real wisdom in many of these posts.

    Enough already!!
    Some people never learn.
  4. by   Lausana
    Thanks Hardknox! No matter how many times the story gets brought up it's not going to change

    I guess I'm not following why going into an LPN program will be different than the RN. Do what you want. Either program still requires you to do your work. Perhaps I wasn't following the logic??
  5. by   scrubs70
    Originally posted by mario_ragucci
    Thank you very kindly for the excellent advice. I don't have much to say I guess. With allnurses.com I have been a complete person and presented to you myself. I'm sorry for going through a bad time and asking to discuss my feelings. No one likes to be jeered and I appreciate you help always.
    BTW, when I put in lol, that is just to lighten thnks up and start a dialog. Also, I did not ask to be critisized to the bone. If you aren't somebody, you are nobody.
    Mario, whether you are somebody or nobody depends entirely on you and your outlook on life, we are all somebody if we chose to be, our worthiness is judged by ourself alone, what other people think of us makes us no less a person, but self pity certainly does
  6. by   FullMoonMadness
    Mario,in one post you say that you don't want preferential treatment,yet in another post you say that you should get slack on your paperwork because you had to work. You say that you failed because you are male and the instructor was anti-male. Make up your mind.
  7. by   Mattigan
    Originally posted by mario_ragucci
    Thank you very kindly for the excellent advice. I don't have much to say I guess. With allnurses.com I have been a complete person and presented to you myself. I'm sorry for going through a bad time and asking to discuss my feelings. No one likes to be jeered and I appreciate you help always.
    BTW, when I put in lol, that is just to lighten thnks up and start a dialog. Also, I did not ask to be critisized to the bone. If you aren't somebody, you are nobody.
    Oh come on... the bad time you went through was brought on by you - you did it to yourself. You made the choices to give meds without an instructor and to turn in late papers. Now, accept the responsibility for your own choices.Until you can learn from this and accept responsibility for your own actions and stop blaming others you should not (IMO) go to ANY nursing school. Nothing about you is any more special than any of the other students- you should not expect "Rules for others and rules for Mario".

    Listen to people. This has nothing to do with gender bashing. You are being your own worst enemy.
  8. by   nightingale
    I do want to remind posters to keep it light... I have worked very hard on my own wording to not seem like I was bashing; I am not saying anyone is, exactly, at this time. I do want to emphasis caution in being reasonable and appropriate.

    Mario is not obligated to answer to these posts. I can understand the posters feelings in not being acknowledged but let's keep it factual and light hearted.
  9. by   JMP
    Light hearted? Meaning... opposite of heavy hearted?

    I feel many on this board have gone out of their way to give Mario honest and factual representations of the REAL nursing world.

    Considering what this is all about, nursing student failed nursing school for failure to do some basic things, like have meds checked and have paper work on time, I think we have been, if anything, light on this guy.

    I think some of my irritation comes from Mario's continued request for input and then scoffing of remarks when made in good faith and coming from valid, experienced posters.

    However, I think the thing that has bothered many of us is his "not taking ownership" for what he claims happened.

    I frankly see nothing light hearted about any of this.

    All of this, of course, is just my own honest opinion. However I would say almost ALL of us, certainly myself, worked all through nursing school ( I worked evenings and weekends and went to school during the day) and managed to do it.

    I think we have been fair, especially considering the topic.
    Last edit by JMP on Mar 20, '03
  10. by   Mattigan
    I responded to the facts as Mario presented them, this is not a light- hearted subject and I watched my wording very carefully, also- you have no idea of what I was tempted to say.
    Last edit by Mattigan on Mar 20, '03
  11. by   nightingale
    My choice of words are to keep the discussion factual and not make it personal; I felt, as the Moderator, the conversation was starting to get too personal.

    Yes, I think we have been fair. Mario is choosing to not answer and that is his choice (or maybe he is just busy).

    Yes, same here Mattigan.
    Last edit by nightingale on Mar 20, '03
  12. by   ShandyLynnRN
    Mario,

    I am not sure that I have ever responded to any of your threads, just because I had nothing to add that hadn't already been said. But I, too, have followed them from time to time.

    I am not sure that I have anything to add that hasn't already been said on this thread, but I wanted to let you know that you do have my support.

    That said, I have to agree with many of the above posters that have said that you need a reality check. I think counseling would be great for you. To learn how to deal with people in the world of nursing/school that you are obviously oblivious to.

    I think you must have some very supportive co-workers, and that is great. But just because they like you and support you doesn't mean that everyone will.

    You need to take into consideration that noone in the real world is going to give you special treatment or special counseling to learn to deal with female co-workers, or those who are gender biased. If you want to learn these things, then it is up to you to find your own counseling and not expect the school to do it for you.

    Just from reading your previous posts, I have also noticed that you tend to pass the buck as far as blame for why things went wrong in school. You admit that you screwed up in giving meds without your instructor present, and that you turned in papers late. Then you turn around and say that the school owed you special treatment because you are a male, or because you work, or whatever. Life doesn't work like that.

    I too, think that you have the compassion and intelligence to be a great nurse one day, but ocviously there are lessons that need to be learned here, and you have to stop talking about what the school, or peers, or anyone else should have done differently, and start saying, "yes, I screwed up, and I have learned that school is much harder than I thought, and working while in school is even harder, and now I know what *I* have to do to get it right this time."

    That being said, I still encourage you to get counselling. I think it would be great for you to get an outside opinion of what exactly the problem in your life is, and why you ultimately failed at school this go-round. Yes, you have these boards, but I don't know that it is really a non-biased opinion you are getting from any one of us, as we "know" you just from your previous posts. And also, obviously, talking to someone in person is much different.

    As for school, I encourage you to get back in there, and go all out for it! Is is possible for you to get a student loan or grant to help fund you while you are in school so that you wouldn't have to work, or could go part time?


    Good luck to you. Don't give up on your dreams.

    Shandy
  13. by   portland_guy
    Mario,

    What program were you in in Portland?

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