Gets up on one knee

[mario_ragucci]

It's been a little over a month since my drop from nursing year. Since I work with great people, everyone is supportive of me to be an RN. Thats what makes it so hard to accept failing over paperwork.

I spoke about depression and am curious about chemicals and emotions. Over the last month my neuro-chemicals got a massive burst of saddness. I not depressed; I feel intensely sad because of this set-back. I ws so on track with everything, including financial aid. Help me with any tips or advice with how to get back on track.

The school that droppped me says I can come back next year. It's not garenteed, and I have to consider worst case with them. So that means I can attempt to get into science classes that are really full, as I remember. I want to take chemistry, as it is required by another nursing school I want to attend.

I am super-duper motivated to get on with doing the work to be an RN and take the big NCLEX. I am willing to relocate, but that would mean forgetting the seat I probably will have at the program I failed clinicals at.

There are other schools in the area, but I am wanting to get on with my dream now, and other schools are swamped. Someone mentioned an on-line way to receive RN. I have a job as an RN as soon as I become one. Help me if you can with some way to be an RN, or LPN on line. For me, it's not a question of if I can do it. It's a question of getting there. I have a hard time finding information to become an LPN. I would love to be an LPN if the opportunity for me to learn to become one is there.

I appreciate all the help so many people gave me after I sang the blues hard. I remain positive and am coming out of the blues and want to start marching to my goal again. Is there a way to go to RN online? Or to relocate to an intense training school?

[Mattigan, RN]

I responded to the facts as Mario presented them, this is not a light- hearted subject and I watched my wording very carefully, also- you have no idea of what I was tempted to say.

[nightingale, RN]

My choice of words are to keep the discussion factual and not make it personal; I felt, as the Moderator, the conversation was starting to get too personal.

Yes, I think we have been fair. Mario is choosing to not answer and that is his choice (or maybe he is just busy).

Yes, same here Mattigan.

[ShandyLynnRN, BSN, RN]

Mario,

I am not sure that I have ever responded to any of your threads, just because I had nothing to add that hadn't already been said. But I, too, have followed them from time to time.

I am not sure that I have anything to add that hasn't already been said on this thread, but I wanted to let you know that you do have my support.

That said, I have to agree with many of the above posters that have said that you need a reality check. I think counseling would be great for you. To learn how to deal with people in the world of nursing/school that you are obviously oblivious to.

I think you must have some very supportive co-workers, and that is great. But just because they like you and support you doesn't mean that everyone will.

You need to take into consideration that noone in the real world is going to give you special treatment or special counseling to learn to deal with female co-workers, or those who are gender biased. If you want to learn these things, then it is up to you to find your own counseling and not expect the school to do it for you.

Just from reading your previous posts, I have also noticed that you tend to pass the buck as far as blame for why things went wrong in school. You admit that you screwed up in giving meds without your instructor present, and that you turned in papers late. Then you turn around and say that the school owed you special treatment because you are a male, or because you work, or whatever. Life doesn't work like that.

I too, think that you have the compassion and intelligence to be a great nurse one day, but ocviously there are lessons that need to be learned here, and you have to stop talking about what the school, or peers, or anyone else should have done differently, and start saying, "yes, I screwed up, and I have learned that school is much harder than I thought, and working while in school is even harder, and now I know what *I* have to do to get it right this time."

That being said, I still encourage you to get counselling. I think it would be great for you to get an outside opinion of what exactly the problem in your life is, and why you ultimately failed at school this go-round. Yes, you have these boards, but I don't know that it is really a non-biased opinion you are getting from any one of us, as we "know" you just from your previous posts. And also, obviously, talking to someone in person is much different.

As for school, I encourage you to get back in there, and go all out for it! Is is possible for you to get a student loan or grant to help fund you while you are in school so that you wouldn't have to work, or could go part time?

Good luck to you. Don't give up on your dreams.

Shandy

[portland_guy]

Mario,

What program were you in in Portland?

[Rustyhammer]

I gotta admit....Some folks can throw a helluva pity party.

Brush yourself off and persue a nursing career if you think you can do it. If not then choose another path.

Time to let it go and DO SOMETHING!

I don't want to get personal or flame or anything like that but brother, you sure do seem to ask for it.

SNAP OUT OF IT!

I am now done with this thread.

So let it be written....

...So let it be done.

-Russell

[nightingale, RN]

Originally posted by Rustyhammer

SNAP OUT OF IT!

Well said.... (and I did like the pit party thing too)

Wow.. I actually hit the right quote button this time!

[nurs4kids]

It's your choice...

spend your life blaming others for your failures securing your own failure OR learn from your failure and grow stronger and succeed. Looking on a bb for sympathy and for someone to validate your excuses will do nothing toward obtaining your goals.

[kids]

Throwing my ditto in on what Rusty, Nightengale & Nurs4kids had to say.

[JMP]

Originally posted by Rustyhammer

I gotta admit....Some folks can throw a helluva pity party.

Brush yourself off and persue a nursing career if you think you can do it. If not then choose another path.

Time to let it go and DO SOMETHING!

I don't want to get personal or flame or anything like that but brother, you sure do seem to ask for it.

SNAP OUT OF IT!

I am now done with this thread.

So let it be written....

...So let it be done.

-Russell

Agree.

[TNcanNURSE]

My nursing instructor was a BEAST. She seemed to love to hand out write ups and push people toward failing or quitting. During most of that time period I honestly believed that she "was out to get me" for some unkown reason. I got over it and decided that I was going to complete my assingments and graduate whether she liked it or not.

At the very end of the program when we had "proved ourselves", she became sort of a cheerleader for us. You could tell that she was very proud of us all. I got to know her better after graduation and she turned out to be a nice person. The thing was that she did her job and she did it well. She does not turn out bad nurses. She had to be tough to do that.

I the adult world having a Pre-school teacher to hold your hand is not going to make you successful.

My childhood best friend went through the RN program all the way to the last few days and failed. She failed one class for not turning in a paper and that kept her from graduating. Her stories about mistreatment and why it was her instructors fault got old fast.

[RNinICU]

Originally posted by Rustyhammer

I gotta admit....Some folks can throw a helluva pity party.

Brush yourself off and persue a nursing career if you think you can do it. If not then choose another path.

Time to let it go and DO SOMETHING!

I don't want to get personal or flame or anything like that but brother, you sure do seem to ask for it.

SNAP OUT OF IT!

I am now done with this thread.

So let it be written....

...So let it be done.

-Russell

Succinct and to the point.

[mario_ragucci]

I said OK ! I have to admitt, I love allnurses.com and cry the blues to you and want sympathy, but enough now. You are a big friend when it comes to nursing. i could not have come this far w/o you. Your all right. You all have helped a friend (me) get through. I accept, and only felt bent out of shape for so long because I defaulting to thinking the instructors are our friends and nurture and all that. So now I know. I promise you I know because I go over and over what happened in my mind, but now it is getting better. No more pity party and no more crying about this. One more time, thank you for being here to give me all great advice and inspiration. I swear to you and myself that I will Never again talk about how this was not my fault. I turnt in rushed paperwork late and figured I would be okay doing that. I failed. Next year they will start me over where I left off. So I will be that much wizer, with all your help, and will still be myself, so much wizer.

I swear to you and myself not to bring myself down over what happened and i accept my mistakes and keep marching to RN and beyond. So it is written and so it will be!