Friend tells me she is diverting

[Flennigan]

I have a friend who was married to a physically/mentally abusive man for 9 years. She needed to get out of the relationship, so when her H.S sweetheart came back into her life and told her he would take her from this life of hell that she was living, she thought she was finally saved. She ended divorcing the lunatic and married her H.S love.

She was excited to start her new life and put the past in the past. She had enrolled in a LPN program and couldn't wait to start her new career.One evening her present husband started to drop subtle hints about"how easy is to get access to oxycontin/oxycodone?" She told him that it was very difficult. He kept persisting. One night he was going thru withdrawals and confessed to her he was a addict begged her to get some pills . He was very sly on also mentioning to her " remember what I did for you, and who was there for you when you needed it the most". She gave in. Then he asked again and again. Until he was asking her to get 20-25 pills per week. She reached her breaking point and told him he needed to go to rehab. He refused to do what she had asked and she felt what she had been doing was so wrong. She felt ashamed to be a nurse, depressed, no self worth, no self esteem.

She left him 3 times and each time went back to him. I did not understand why?? Until she told me this story I'm describing now. He came to visit her the first time she left and showed her several medication slips he had saved with pts names on them and said to her " you have 24 hrs to gather your things and come back home or I'll destroy you!

Presently she lives in her own apt, but he continues to control every aspect of her life. He has also extended the court date for their divorce and will eventually comply as long as she comes thru with pills.( I don't think he will ever sign) He needs to know everything that she is doing at all times and the main reason is for the pills. She recently was told at work she will be filling in for a new position, where she will off the med cart and his answer to her about this " that's not gonna work, you need to find a way to come thru, figure it out or you know what is going to happen to you!"

What would you do if you were in this situation?? What options if any??

To me, he is a predator, who preyed on a severely damaged woman coming from a abusive first marriage and knew he could manipulate her

I guess I am sort of confused as to what she is doing to divert medications and why he has copies of the slips. 20-25 pills a week is a lot and someone is bound to notice the pills are missing.

Ummm how is it possible that she hasn't been caught yet?... Odd.

That's crazy! How does one get away with taking 20-25 pills a week?!

I'm confused about the slips with patient info on them. What are they and how did he come to have them?

I'm always suspicious about dramatic posts, which contain holes in their narratives, which are the first and only post by the author, and which appear to be the only login by the poster.

I've worked at some places with pretty loose narcotic controls but would never have been able to divert such large amounts of narcotics for any length of time at all.

For several reasons, I question the veracity of this story as posted.

[chevyv, BSN, RN]

Sounds like she is taking whole cards. Normally in ltc, pharmacy sends a card of say 30 pills. This card will have the pt name and info on it.

I still think it's a fake post. Too many holes to not have gotten caught. 1 missing card and suspicion would fly especially because someone signed that the meds were delivered and were present. Doesn't take much to check who had access.

[sissiesmama, ASN, RN]

If this a real post, - if u work with or even have the knowledge of the crimes she is committing, u need to be prepared for the fact that this secret may come back to bite u in the butt when she is found out.

Anne, RNC

[sissiesmama, ASN, RN]

Sorry, I feel like an idiot!! I'm stuck in NP application mode myself, didn't think twice. But, snap!! That's crazy! How does one get away with taking 20-25 pills a week?!

Most don't. I've been a nurse almost 25 years and I've NEVER worked at a facility that would not notice this amount of narcotics come up missing- unless they suspect and are trying to gather evidence, ect.

For the sake of the patients that aren't getting the meds, i hope this is a troll post.

Anne, RNC

[jadelpn, LPN, EMT-B]

Is this your "friend" is this you or is this some inflammatory reactive thing?!?!?!

Apparently your "friend" has significant issues she needs to deal with. Nothing like spilling your soul to your RN friend, who then has the duty to report.

"But my friend caught me, and SHE reported, I did not".....to get off with the addict--but then guess who this sociopath addict is angry at--YEP, you. How wonderfully convenient for your friend in that realm of things.

If your friend is in her own apartment, then she is away from the situation. A restraining order is in order I would think. She needs to get her own act together. And stop involving other licensed professionals in her drama as to not take responsibility for her actions.

She needs some serious therapy. You need to report this situation to the BON. Unfortunetely, you are now caught in this twisted web of drama.

In the future, I am of the thought process of "do NOT tell me a thing, I do not want to know. I am sorry you are having personal issues, however, here's some information that could help, the website and phone number of the domestic abuse hotline."

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women | Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women

Otherwise, steer clear of wounded souls in your personal life that require you to have to report them. Because NOT reporting them could come back on you. That your "friend" I am sure knows, and hopefully, when she goes down she will not take you with her.

[sissiesmama, ASN, RN]

Right, jade! And the friend doesn't really seem to be cherishing your friendship, surely she knows you would have the duty to report.

And since she does have an apartment, there really shouldn't be much holding her back from a restraining order.

Anne, RNC

[LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN]

Is this your "friend" is this you or is this some inflammatory reactive thing?!?!?!

Apparently your "friend" has significant issues she needs to deal with. Nothing like spilling your soul to your RN friend, who then has the duty to report.

"But my friend caught me, and SHE reported, I did not".....to get off with the addict--but then guess who this sociopath addict is angry at--YEP, you. How wonderfully convenient for your friend in that realm of things.

If your friend is in her own apartment, then she is away from the situation. A restraining order is in order I would think. She needs to get her own act together. And stop involving other licensed professionals in her drama as to not take responsibility for her actions.

She needs some serious therapy. You need to report this situation to the BON. Unfortunetely, you are now caught in this twisted web of drama.

In the future, I am of the thought process of "do NOT tell me a thing, I do not want to know. I am sorry you are having personal issues, however, here's some information that could help, the website and phone number of the domestic abuse hotline."

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women | Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women

Otherwise, steer clear of wounded souls in your personal life that require you to have to report them. Because NOT reporting them could come back on you. That your "friend" I am sure knows, and hopefully, when she goes down she will not take you with her.

I second THIS....if this is a true post...

[LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN]

Right, jade! And the friend doesn't really seem to be cherishing your friendship, surely she knows you would have the duty to report.

And since she does have an apartment, there really shouldn't be much holding her back from a restraining order.

Anne, RNC

Exactly...unfortunately, this is the OP's only post.

[xoemmylouox, ASN, RN]

Hopefully this is just a troll post..