Originally posted by slugirl
Is there anything wrong with becoming personally involved with a client? How do you as a nurse maintain professional relationships with your patients? What are some warning signs that the professional relationship is becoming unprofessional?
Your question sounds like you may have already crossed this line.
Ask your self this.
Does this patient compliment me a lot about things that do not concern my professional care, and do I find I have strong emoational feeling about these compliments?
Do I find myself telling this patinent about my personal life and he/she is very
interested? Most patients are not interested or only politely interested
Do I try to fix everything for this patient?
Does he/she occupy my off duty thoughts beyond 5-10 minutes a day every day?
Do I look forward to going to work just because this patient is there?
Would I be very disappointed if I was not assigned to this patient?
Do I feel I give this patient better care than anyone else?
Do I feel no one else cares about/for this patient as I do or as well as I do?
If I were not assigned to this patient would I make a point of spending time with him/her anyway? More time than I would spend with another patient who is not mine?
Does being in this person's presence give me a special kind of happiness, more than anyone else?
Do you spend more time with this patient than others even when others may have greater or at least equal needs?
If so, then you may have a problem. Since you are a student talk with your instructor about this. You may need to be reassigned.
Limit what you reveal about yourself to patients. Realize this patient is not your loved one. Treat them with respect. Learn that flattery is just that. Look at situations in a professional analytical way.
Back off when you feel you are getting too involved. Ask to be reasigned if necessary and then stay out of that room. When you are assigned to this patient do what you have to do and leave, don't linger in the room.
Give your other patients the same care attention. It sounds like you have too few patients to keep you bussy enough so this won't happen. Students often have only 1-2 patients and so you have a lot of time on your hands. Ask to watch or do procedures with other patients, ask to accompany another patient to the OR, or x-ray for some other proceedure. Find out how you can help the nurses on the floor in ways that take you away from this patient. You have a job to do either as a student or a nurse. That job suffers if your time and thoughts are on this one patient. Do things for the nurses, doing all thier vitals, or running an errand, make beds etc.
Whether a nurse or a student, there are more patients than yours. If you have enough time to get involved with one patient than some other nurse could use your assistance, as you obviously have too much time and she does not. While you are helping her you could discuss your concerns about involvement.