We are a blended family of 6
teenagers; 3 girls 16, 17, and 18, and 3 boys 14, 14, 16. My husband and I decided (wisely) to not have any kids together because we felt it would not be fair to the ones we already had. He had 2 girls and 2 boys and I had one of each.
The kids get along pretty good for the most part--they act just like brothers and sisters that have grown up together, and we never refer to any of them as "steps". His kids live with their Mom about 8 blocks away and are welcome anytime as well as for the traditional visitation weekends.
The biggest problem is that with 3 girls in the house, someone is always pre-menstrual. Also the boys are at the age where the testosterone surges sometimes get the best of them!
We think that the reason things have worked so well for us so far, is that we both come from large, working-class families and have a strong work ethic. We have the same standards of behavior for all the kids and never have had an argument about whether or not a punishment is warranted, or appropriate.
It does take alot of communication though to keep us on the same page...they do
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