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- Feb 5, '12 by griffinchetMy advice has already been offered in the first post. You should schedule for the 3 hour shadow, work with the manager as you have said the other nurse holds no clout to threaten you with being fired. Either that, or you can avoid the entire situation by calling in sick.
You have stated your mantra is: "I work to live, not vice versa." Take note this is a job, and likely you don't plan on making a career or it. Therefore, take the time off to do the shadowing & cross your fingers the other deprived nurse will survive without you.
- Feb 5, '12 by Ruby Veei don't understand all this drama. call out sick for the day you're shadowing if they won't work with you about using personal time. i've never worked office hours and never aspired to. i've never worked with all of this drama, either. one of the benefits of being a straightforward communicator, i guess.
- Feb 5, '12 by MarisetteYou should go to the real manager and ask him to give you the needed time off. I dislike management that hides behind their desks and never take any accountability. This is the real reason this woman is in charge. I've worked in similar situations.
Unfortunately, I left and got into another situation, that was worse in terms of working hours, stress, and so on....
I now believe, that I should have gone to the "real manager" voiced my issue and gotten it resolved. If you go to the manager and make your request known, and this mad woman is angry at you, approach the top manager again. If management fails to address her behavior, then it's clear you have to move on. Perhaps, the real manager relies on this employee to do what he/she really wants done.
This nurse will continue to abuse other employees because she can. If she is a workaholic, that runs the facility with no authority, perhaps little compensation, she may be more costly to replace then the training of new nurses in the short run. However, in the long run, she will be very costly to keep employed. I think there is a "wanna be manager, indispensabel bully" in many work environments. I've yet to discover the best way to deal with them because they get their unofficial power and authority somehow though either seniority, favoritism through friendships, performing a work task other can't or won't do and so on. They can create very stressful work environments.
- Feb 5, '12 by GitanoRNUndoubtedly, you have received very good feed back on your situation, now it's up to you to confront the dragon and grab it by it's tail. In addition, hopefully you have kept a log on this issue, also you have informed your boss regarding this situation. Having said that, you owe it to yourself not to work in environment where you feel the need to answer to someone that's not your boss. Moreover, in the long run if you continue in this situation, not only your performance will be affected, but also your health & mental status. Wishing you the best in all of your future endeavors~
- Feb 5, '12 by BlueDevil,DNPThe OP reminds me of someone I work with. Both of you are going to fret yourselves into an early grave over things totally outside of your control. Why do you care if she "pitches a fit" that you are "sick?" Let her. Go to work, do your job, be pleasant, let her pitch all the fits she likes and make herself look like a fool in the process. You keep smiling, keep doing your work until the other job offer comes.
With respect, you are making a mountain out of a molehill here. I watch my co worker do it everyday. I don't understand how either of you can live with this kind of manufactured anxiety. If this woman really steps out of line, then step into her and tell her to step off. Until then just work and smile, both to the best of your genuine ability. Later, rinse, repeat.
- Feb 5, '12 by hey_suzQuote from Kitty HawkThink about this statement- you are lying to yourself. You think he is excellent with people? Really?BC she has a lot of clout with knowledge and the doctor's office, being a liason, getting denials from insurance over turned stuff like that. He was a field manager he has no idea on the office politics, but he's excellent with people as he believes in the whole work life balance.
OK, so this co-worker of yours has some skills. A lot of people have skills, and still are able to respect their co-workers and their bosses! No boss has all the skills, that's why they hire people to do the work, but it's the boss's job to do the managing. Plain and simple. (well, not really simple, but...)
I do feel your pain. I work with someone who is very very similar to the lady you are struggling with...and try to just deal with it. It is not easy.