Are nurses unsupportive spouse magnets??

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Hey just taking this to the people. What's your opinion? Are nurturing types like us often attracted to the wrong types? Do you do "everything for everyone" at home as well as at work? How do you cope with the situation? Where do you draw the line? Any advice?

Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

"Theoretically self-employed" That's a new one.

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Specializes in L&D.
"Theoretically self-employed" That's a new one.

uh, should have included definition:

fixes computers/builds systems...

a genius at repairs

but

lousy businessman, charges very little, declines to advertise so doesn't bring in much $$ at all.

therefore, self-employed...

but doesn't earn much so I say, "theoretically".

Shouldn't have been so hard on him.

Haze

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Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

Shouldn't have been so hard on him.

Haze

Is that the 'enabler' in you talking? ;)

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Specializes in L&D.
Is that the 'enabler' in you talking? ;)

oh, heck YES!!!

:roll

Haze

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I was pretty picky when looking for someone who could be a friend and possible husband material (after some less than great unsupportive relationships)

We have similar education, religion, core value and socioecomic backgrounds which keeps us grounded. He had to be passionate about what he does for a living,even if the income isn't huge. 13 years of marriage and it is give and take but those 4 "must haves" are the glue that keeps us a happy, thriving couple.

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Specializes in LTC, Med/Surg, Peds, ICU, Tele.

[bANANA]So I thought[/bANANA]

oh, heck YES!!!

:roll

Haze

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I have a wonderful husband. Most of my other coworkers are the same way. Not much divorse on our floor. I do know alot of nurses who are on both ends of the spectrum though. Such as the fireman and medics on one end and the other not keeping a job on the other. Possibly this is in all professions and we do not know it. Something to think about I guess! :idea:

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Specializes in long term care.

I got started in my nursing career later in life in my 30's. One of my reasons was to use all of my nuturing energy towards people that would benefit and appreciate it. I have used nuturing energy towards people my whole life (mainly family) and generally there was a lackluster of appreciation or sense of reward. Now that I am a nurse I see that appreciation in the small things. I work in geriatric care and many people consider the elderly to be toss away and when I get a smile from one of my patients it makes my day. My family is still dysfunctional (as is everyone's I believe) but I feel as if I get back what I need which is helping people that for the most part appreciate it.

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Hey just taking this to the people. What's your opinion? Are nurturing types like us often attracted to the wrong types? Do you do "everything for everyone" at home as well as at work? ?\

Not here. I'm in school full time and work full time. DH works full time and does all the laundry and cleaning while I'm in school. I cook sometimes, whoever has a chance does the shopping.

He's always been like that. He's cleaner than I am, so he does most of the cleaning. I'm pickier than he is, so usually I do most of the shopping and cooking. We split laundry and we've always been equal on child care (except he didn't lactate).

I don't think it has anything to do with the type of person who is a nurse. I think it is more an individual personality thing. I'm appalled at all the women who say they work full time and do all the housework. My dh would never even think to shove it all onto me; not because I am assertive (thought I can be), but because he is thoughtful and respectful, and wouldn't think that was fair. Don't hook up with someone who isn't respectful, I guess.

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Specializes in IM/Critical Care/Cardiology.
Not here. I'm in school full time and work full time. DH works full time and does all the laundry and cleaning while I'm in school. I cook sometimes, whoever has a chance does the shopping.

He's always been like that. He's cleaner than I am, so he does most of the cleaning. I'm pickier than he is, so usually I do most of the shopping and cooking. We split laundry and we've always been equal on child care (except he didn't lactate).

I don't think it has anything to do with the type of person who is a nurse. I think it is more an individual personality thing. I'm appalled at all the women who say they work full time and do all the housework. My dh would never even think to shove it all onto me; not because I am assertive (thought I can be), but because he is thoughtful and respectful, and wouldn't think that was fair. Don't hook up with someone who isn't respectful, I guess.

Sounds like you have a keeper! Good for both of you!;)

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Specializes in ER, ICU, L&D, OR.

My spouse. My wife. She is absolutely wonderfull.

This winter we are celebrating 30 yrs together.

And going on a second honeymoon for 3 weeks.

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Specializes in Hospice.
My spouse. My wife. She is absolutely wonderfull.

This winter we are celebrating 30 yrs together.

And going on a second honeymoon for 3 weeks.

CONGRATUALTIONS! You are she are absolutely wonderful people! God Bless!

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