Anyone have cheese? I need to whine !!!

BBFRN, BSN, PhD · Apr 3, 2003

It sounds to me that you are a very good night nurse who IS indespensible. Good luck in your job hunt- I'm sure you will find a new job where you feel appreciated.

nimbex, RN · Apr 3, 2003

Good wishes on your search, the wonderful thing about making a move is you can to choose to do it on YOUR terms..... maybe after you visit the grandbabies......don't let some inappreciative bunch of know-nothings push your hand...... you already know what "bad" is so wait for the good to come....you deserve it!!!!

wish ya the best

colleen10 · Apr 3, 2003

Hi Suzanna,

I just wanted to let you know that I really understand where you are coming from, the feeling stuck part and not feeling appreciated or compensated for your experience and dedication.

I work in an office as a secretary right now and I went through a similar thing a few months ago with my "review". I got reprimended not once, not twice, but 3 times for missing the very last two days of the year because myself and hubby both came down with the 48 stomach flu and I didn't have any sick or vacation time to use because, you have to use it all up by the end of the year or you loose it. I didn't even get paid for those two days and they still got their panties in a tizzy.

I have been feeling better about everything and being stuck here to pay for nursing school since I found out that I'll start clinicals this Fall. I think, that if you really feel that things won't get better and that you should move on to other opportunities you'll start to feel better about everything. Once you start progressing towards a new goal, like you have been with your job search I think everything will look a lot brighter. Even if you do end up staying at your current job for a couple more months so that you have the time to visit your grandbaby, just knowing that you have other options will put things in a new light for you.

At least that is what has been working for me.

Good Luck in your job search and with your new grandchild!

Col

nurseandmom · Apr 3, 2003

Another good thing about job searching and interviewing is that it is a good ego boost. People really do want you around!! Good luck

KnitRN · Apr 3, 2003

no cheese, but I'll dial WHINE-1-1 and call the WAAAmbulance for you! Good luck on your job search. As far as time off for the new grandbabe, if you tell your employer about it going in, you should be able to take unpaid leave. I live in Charlotte and I'm getting recruitment letters from hospitals as far away as Atlanta so I know there are plenty of unfilled positions in this region!

katscan · Apr 3, 2003

Your complaint is exactly why I am so frustrated with the nursing profession.PEOPLE DO GET SICK!!! and they get medical conditions that require more than one day off to figure out, test for, remedy etc. You can't even take time off when you have a particularly sick year or your kids are sick without someone judging the appropriateness of the action. Thank god I work in a school and belong to the teacher's union! They fought years ago for rights that nurses can't even realize exist. I get 15 sick days per year, 2-3 professional days and 3 personal days. I just wish hospital administrators would realize that we are people also, and while they are making money off of us, our families and ourselves are living on the edge. Suzannasue got counselled for missing 6 days for perfectly good reasons. Why? I'm sure she would not have CHOSEN to be ill...That's terrible-what was she suppoesd to do, and FORGET IT if your kids get sick.

ERNurse752, RN · Apr 3, 2003

I would say that someone with experience who willingly inconveniences herself and comes in when staffing is bad, and who is willing to make the effort to teach new nurses, is quite certainly indispensable.

Maybe you could just start a new job after you get back from MI? You could use the trip as a vacation in between jobs. :)

Sounds like your manager is a real dipsh*t.

Does your IBS flare up with stress? Maybe you'll even feel better physically if you leave!

Good luck finding something better...you deserve it!

ERNurse752, RN · Apr 3, 2003

Originally posted by katscan
Your complaint is exactly why I am so frustrated with the nursing profession.PEOPLE DO GET SICK!!! and they get medical conditions that require more than one day off to figure out, test for, remedy etc. You can't even take time off when you have a particularly sick year or your kids are sick without someone judging the appropriateness of the action. Thank god I work in a school and belong to the teacher's union! They fought years ago for rights that nurses can't even realize exist. I get 15 sick days per year, 2-3 professional days and 3 personal days. I just wish hospital administrators would realize that we are people also, and while they are making money off of us, our families and ourselves are living on the edge. Suzannasue got counselled for missing 6 days for perfectly good reasons. Why? I'm sure she would not have CHOSEN to be ill...That's terrible-what was she suppoesd to do, and FORGET IT if your kids get sick.

AMEN!!!!!

colleen10 · Apr 3, 2003

You know what? I'm gettin' a little fired up the more I think about your situation Suzanna.

The reason is that it never ceases to amaze me how most employers view their employees like indentrured servants, children almost.

It's a kind of one sided mentality/relationship. Like they think that because they pay you, you are beholden to them, that you should be grateful even that they let you work for them, that you have to do whatever they say. That because you have to be absent from work (for circumstances beyond your control ) you need a "talking to" as if you were a small child that just got caught with your hand in the cookie jar.

I think more of us have to be more conscious and more vocal about the way the relationship should work. That I am not your servant and I am not here to merely be paid my weekly pittance. That you, as an employee and individual, have certain career and personal goals that you would like to meet and you are there working for them because at this time you can attain those goals you have set for yourself. That you shouldn't be just grateful that someone pays you but that you provide a good and quality service that deserves payment and respect.

And with that and a snap of my fingers in Z formation is the way it should work. So, if you don't find it there you are doing a diservice to yourself to stay and I hope you soon find a new place to work that does respect you and appreciate all of the hard work that you do.

P_RN, ADN, RN · Apr 3, 2003

COLLEEN don't hold back now kiddo!

colleen10 · Apr 3, 2003

I best just "simma down na"!