Anyone Else Experience Mobbing? - page 5

Hi~ I have been at my new job for over a year now and have become the victim of mobbing by my peers in the ICU where I work. I have tried every approach with this but nothing has helped my... Read More

  1. by   RN1989
    Quote from jlsRN
    I've heard that ORs tend to be brutal and dysfunctional type places, is this accurate? A friend of mine had very strange experiences when she trained to OR, she said they are all nuts, but that's hear say, although I've heard that before.

    Yep - reading ebear's experience was like reliving my own. Friend went to OR at a different facility and found the same hateful attitudes.
  2. by   teeituptom
    I dont believe in mobbing
  3. by   ebear
    No, Tee, you'd just beat the crap out of them with a golf club!
  4. by   GadgetRN71
    Happened to me too-I didn't want to leave at first because i didn't want the jerks to win. But, I am happy where I am now and make more money(plus, they're union)so guess what, I won! Go elsewhere where you are appreciated.
  5. by   gonzo1
    Tom, please tell us why you don't believe in mobbing. I respect your opinion and am dying to know how you feel about this.
    I have seen nurses do this to other nurses. And I have had it done to me, but I waited it out and had a good outcome. They got fired.
  6. by   GadgetRN71
    Quote from RN1989
    Yep - reading ebear's experience was like reliving my own. Friend went to OR at a different facility and found the same hateful attitudes.
    We're not all hateful in the OR...I think it's more a generational thing and you have to have a strong manager who doesn't tolerate this behavior(they are out there) and yes, the OR can be a tense atmosphere.. You learn quickly not to take things personally-when a patient is going down the tubes, you don't always have time to monitor everyone's feelings. But if I realize I may have been terse or snappy with someone in the heat of the moment, I do seek that person out and apologize. PS..I'm also NOT nuts.
  7. by   GadgetRN71
    Quote from ebear
    It happened to me too several years ago. I was in orientation (O.R.) at a new hospital for 3 weeks. It was a rural hospital and apparently the nurses there felt extremely threatened by a "city" nurse. They made my life a living hell! I turned in my ID badge at lunchtime one day and walked out. I later found out that this happens all the time for any newcomers at that facility. I still cringe if I have to drive by the place!! HR sent me an exit interview to fill out--boy, did I FILL IT OUT! I understand that this issue can be addressed by an attorney these days. I was just too whipped to pursue it.
    ebear
    I went from a small community hospital to a teaching hospital and what a difference! I'm loving the challenge and it's nice to be in an OR where being enthusiastic and willing to learn and try new things is encouraged. Are there snippy people there? Sure. But so many more have been willing to teach and were very accepting. When I did my clinicals in school, I found many of the med/surg nurses to be beeyatches. But I know better than to think they're all like that. If I seem a little sensitive about this, it's just that I have worked with some really competent, compassionate and nice OR nurses in my day(I was a tech before). Just sticking up for my peeps!:spin:
  8. by   ebear
    Witchy,
    I've worked with some GREAT O.R. nurses, too! There's a comradery among the staff that is not found in other departments. I guess the beeatches just stand out in a person's mind, especially when those attitudes are totally unjustified.
  9. by   Scrubby
    WeakAnkles-I'm very sorry to hear what your going through.

    I've been pretty lucky so far... I haven't felt that way from the nurses where i work, mainly the surgeons. I agree that if you can't change the workplace culture then your better off finding a better place to work. Long term stress can lead to all sorts of health issues, why place yourself at risk?

    If i ever see someone being bullied at work (and it's normally the surgeon) here is what i do. I loudly in front of everyone tell the person being bullied what a great person they are to work with. It may sound silly but it does two things. It lets the person being bullied know that i'm on their side and they have my full support. And it lets the bully know that i'm going to stand by my workmates.
  10. by   GadgetRN71
    Quote from ebear
    Witchy,
    I've worked with some GREAT O.R. nurses, too! There's a comradery among the staff that is not found in other departments. I guess the beeatches just stand out in a person's mind, especially when those attitudes are totally unjustified.
    I know, it's such a shame that the bullies are allowed to behave this way. All it takes is a few rotten apples, and they can do great damage. Funny thing is, these are the same people that will complain about short staffing and how they have to take more call because of it. I think the younger people can have a big hand in changing attitudes. I'm not slamming the older people because some of the older nurses have been very protective and caring. We just need to change that deep rooted perception in nursing(not just the OR) that hazing someone makes them a better nurse.
  11. by   teeituptom
    Quote from gonzo1
    Tom, please tell us why you don't believe in mobbing. I respect your opinion and am dying to know how you feel about this.
    I have seen nurses do this to other nurses. And I have had it done to me, but I waited it out and had a good outcome. They got fired.
    For them to mob you, you would have to empower them to do so. If you dont empower them, then it cant happen and it doesnt exist. Dont give them the power.
  12. by   WeakAnkles
    Sorry, I have to disagree with you.

    That's like saying someone's who's stoned to death in Iran had the power to stop it? Or, they empowered the mob to do it? Are you serious?
  13. by   nightmare
    Quote from teeituptom
    For them to mob you, you would have to empower them to do so. If you dont empower them, then it cant happen and it doesnt exist. Dont give them the power.
    Once you have a mob trying to get rid of you it would take a mega strong personality to stand up to the constant ,negative,******** comments every day.Even the strongest person can be worn down by constant negativity.

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