Anyone Else Experience Mobbing? - page 3

Hi~ I have been at my new job for over a year now and have become the victim of mobbing by my peers in the ICU where I work. I have tried every approach with this but nothing has helped my... Read More

  1. by   FireStarterRN
    Quote from smithbc1
    it's happened to me. i was in a position to totally separate myself from others in department. i stopped having lunch with them, going to christmas parties, having the monthly birthday cake, and the total separation has worked. now the bullies wonder what i up too...i will speak to them, but only say "hello" if they do first, but i do not communicate with them at all. if the building was on fire, i would not inform them. this has worked for me. not everyone can do the above. i was told by a psychologist that it is ok to cut people out of your live if they drain you.

    now i see another nurse in my department going through the same thing
    how sad. human beings are inexplicable at times. i'm glad you found something that makes your situation bearable, but your post made me so sad.
  2. by   Dalzac
    About 5 yrs ago I had to leave my position from a hospital I had planned to retire from its ICU. It was bought out by a big hospital chain and they closed my little haven. I was transferred to the big hosptal ICU. I hated it. The staff there did mobbing as well. But I was experienced enough I just didn't care. I knew what they were doing and stayed above it.
    One night the charge nurse walked up to me and asked me if I liked her. I told her the truth and I told her no. I knew she and her cronies didn't care for me and when I was off work i didn't hang with people like her that she was childish and petty and I really had better things to do than with her and her "Peeps" and I had plenty of friends that I knew loved me and I for them. For half of the crew I was their new best friend. You know the "uncool" people The ones I did enjoy being with. As soon as I could I transferred out of there Those "cool" people all left within 6 months and I went back.
    Any way I hate bullies and have most of my life. I know its hard not to care about what others think of you. But think about this; If you were not working would you hang out with people like that and in the end do they sign you check? If no is your answere then you are on your way to just not giving a hoot at anything they say or do.
  3. by   Medic/Nurse
    i am certain that it happens in other workplaces/occupations.

    but, when it occurs in nursing - it is different.

    this is a tough job. we do not have to be so tough on each other. but...it happens.

    i think the difference in nursing and other workplaces is this:

    the stakes are higher. we (nurses) are responsible for human life.

    sure, there are bullies/abusers/mobbers at your bank, insurance office, school and even at church. society has let it happen and little is done to stop it. as bad as it is in other workplaces - it is worse in an environment that holds itself to being made up of compassionate healers.

    think it over.
    never participate. never just "go along".
    commit to stopping it when you see.
    call it what it is.
    help hold the offender accountable.

    we play the way we practice.
    practice safe!
  4. by   CHATSDALE
    i have witnessed this several times but was usually too new to job or too far down on the totem pole to do much intervention
    it is a sad situation
  5. by   ebear
    The nurses in that O.R. poisoned every surgeon there against me (the supv. told me). A lot of the docs went to the supv. to tell her they didn't want me in their rooms! I never EVEN MET most of them! It was impossible! A regular closed witches coven!!!
  6. by   FireStarterRN
    Quote from ebear
    The nurses in that O.R. poisoned every surgeon there against me (the supv. told me). A lot of the docs went to the supv. to tell her they didn't want me in their rooms! I never EVEN MET most of them! It was impossible! A regular closed witches coven!!!
    I've heard that ORs tend to be brutal and dysfunctional type places, is this accurate? A friend of mine had very strange experiences when she trained to OR, she said they are all nuts, but that's hear say, although I've heard that before.
  7. by   ebear
    Uhhh...I don't know if they're "all nuts" hahahaha!! But, yes, it is a very difficult place to work. One has to have a thick skin to work in the O.R. not only due to arrogant, screaming surgeons, but bossy territorial co-workers. Not for the faint of heart or timid. The O.R. is probably the only area of the hospital where being called a b**ch is a true compliment!
  8. by   FireStarterRN
    Quote from ebear
    Uhhh...I don't know if they're "all nuts" hahahaha!! But, yes, it is a very difficult place to work. One has to have a thick skin to work in the O.R. not only due to arrogant, screaming surgeons, but bossy territorial co-workers. Not for the faint of heart or timid. The O.R. is probably the only area of the hospital where being called a b**ch is a true compliment!
    Sounds just as she described it. She's thick skinned and has worked in many different areas of nursing. She always ends up bored and fed up so changes depts.
  9. by   Medic04
    I have seen it at the hosp I am with, not pretty had it happen to me.
    Too tired to fight want to just finish RN school and get out personally.
    I am sorry to hear this is going on with you, best bet, leave while you can before they pull something to "make" you leave other then your free will.

    Saw what mobbing did to a co worker and so not pretty, and still saddened of the outcome they had on this person.
    HUG
  10. by   canoehead
    It happened to me personally once, and I have seen it in about 50% of the workplaces I been in. Now when I do a job interview I ask specifically about supportiveness of staff to new people.
  11. by   CseMgr1
    It happened to me years ago, when I was working as an LPN at a small community hospital. I would come into work to find that my time card had been vandalized with profanity written on it, my nursing notes crossed out, and was even physically assaulted once by the ringleader of the group who was trying to get rid of me. It only stopped after the DON was asked to resign (she knew what was going on, yet did nothing to stop it), and I finally confronted the nurse who had assaulted me. That was over 30 years ago and if the same thing happened to me today, I wouldn't HESITATE to file a workplace harassment suit.
  12. by   nan1993
    Yes, I too have experienced mobbing; even though I did not know the word existed. It was five years ago I needed a change from nights after 9 1/2 years I was exhausted. I would at a great hospital with my peeps. Anyway a brand new CVICU was opening in a smaller hospital close to my house. I took the position and was so happy. But then after my first year the nurse manager called me in and stated I was basically the most horrible nurse in the unit. The reason came from a nurse who made up a lie about me. I left, I fortunately moved, but the nurse manager sent me emails and funny jokes and a beautiful card saying she was sorry. We still write from time to time.

    My advice move on, this is your only life, enjoy it. And if possible pray for the people you work with and forgive them.

    nan1993
  13. by   Medic04
    Quote from nan1993
    Yes, I too have experienced mobbing; even though I did not know the word existed. It was five years ago I needed a change from nights after 9 1/2 years I was exhausted. I would at a great hospital with my peeps. Anyway a brand new CVICU was opening in a smaller hospital close to my house. I took the position and was so happy. But then after my first year the nurse manager called me in and stated I was basically the most horrible nurse in the unit. The reason came from a nurse who made up a lie about me. I left, I fortunately moved, but the nurse manager sent me emails and funny jokes and a beautiful card saying she was sorry. We still write from time to time.

    My advice move on, this is your only life, enjoy it. And if possible pray for the people you work with and forgive them.

    nan1993
    You know that is the sad thing, management KNOWS it goes on 9/10 times and does NOTHING! They know it is one person where I am at, continues to mob the new folks or even a few older ones and you watch and see it happen again and again and again. But management is"What do you want me to do?"
    FIRE THAT PERSON! Do your JOB.:angryfire
    Last edit by Medic04 on Nov 14, '07

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