No, I have never had any dealings with a BON in any disciplinary matters - but, I was at the board on an unrelated matter on a "day" that they were having disciplinary hearings. I did learn several things that day.
* First - I hope, pray and try to practice in a manner that will keep me out of that situation.
* Second, I would never go before any board with just "right" on my side. I will go with a LAWYER.
It seems to me that your situation is not a result of deliberate action on the part of your hubby. I think many nurses here have had to "restrain" patients - often it is a true life/death matter. It is so unfortunate that "someone" (I'm guessing that info is confidential, so far...) decided that "reporting" must be done. Now here you are. I will concede that to some, restraining a patient can appear a bit, ...brutal - but it appears that you have been a victim of someone that may not have enough information to make a realistic charge/complaint. But, here you are - just the same.
First, if you have not secured legal counsel - NOW is the time to do so. If you can locate a lawyer with a nursing background that would be best. Call your state bar association and ask for their help. Also google nurse/attorney, there are many out there. I don't know what state you are in, so I'm a bit limited here.
I know that lawyers are expensive, but you have a lot on the line. I am so sorry that you are in this situation - but it is essential that you not let the emotions rule at this point. (Believe me, I know that this is TOUGH!)
I think an attorney is your best bet - and then after full disclosure, they will be in the best position to help you. And the "dirty tricks" that seem to be taking over, well - a good attorney will bring those to a stop. And witnesses that are participating in "irregular" statements need to know that they can and will be held responsible for their actions! (An attorney is essential here!) And before ANYONE takes ANYTHING from me, you better believe that I will fight! And any hearing/statement/investigation that can not or does not take place in an open atmosphere is just suspect.
You may get some help from your states office of the INSPECTOR (not ATTORNEY) GENERAL, but, I think that would be limited and I maintain that a lawyer is the best option!
I am so sorry for what you all are going through, I pray for a quick and positive outcome for you both.