A Father's Tears - page 4

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I received his mother, AA, to a room on our floor shortly after midnight one night. She had presented to ER at 15+ weeks gestation with ruptured membranes and intermittent vaginal bleeding; the OB staff suspected chorioamnionitis... Read More


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    What a touching, beautful, heartbreaking post. I truly am at a loss for words.
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    very sad, but thank you very much for sharing
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    Thank you for sharing this very touching story,it helps to reminds us to consider everyone in their grieving process.
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    Thank you so much for pointing out that two people are involved in the process of making and/or loosing a baby. As a guy I am always dumbfounded by the lack of awareness people show for the father's feelings when a baby is lost pre -term. The cry for child support of shared responsibility has always been prefaced with " it takes two to make a baby you know" but I have never heard someone express support or sympathy to any father of a miscarried baby. It always seems "they" make a baby but only "she" looses it. Thank you for recognizing the fathers' feelings and allowing him to grieve. I do not want to diminish the profound loss any woman must feel when the life she felt inside her is lost- it must be devastating, but dad does have a relationship with this tiny child as well and I so pleased to see a nurse that saw it.
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    This is a very well written article -- I am in tears!
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    I cried the most with the last part of your story.
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    Am just now getting around to replying here - thank you all so much for your responses. I still think about this family, and this baby every day.
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    Dear Elvish,
    So truly fascinating story , it moves me , so much , i can imagine to the point of feeling his anguish , of losing a tiny innocent soul . I was crying when i was typing these message to you . GOD BLESS HIM AND THE BEATIFUL TINY ANGEL BOY!!!
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    thank God for nurses like you. When I was 17 I had a premature birth my baby was 14weeks early. The nurses were great about letting my family and myself hold him after he died. This was very important We didn't get to hold him when he was alive,they took pictures,footprints and gave me a lock of his hair. granted one never gets over the lost of losing a child but,it's been 25yrs now and I still look at those picture ,footprints and his lock of hair. if it had't been for the nurses i wouldn't have those precious items.
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    elvish,

    thanks for such a powerful story that showed that both parents needed closure . thanks for being able to allow this father to say good-bye to his son and taking the chance of the dad!

    like others have said, sometimes the father is left out because dads don't have the bond that a mom does when carry the baby.

    thanks!
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