"Honestly it happened to a friend". Advice?

  1. One of my colleagues has been having big time issues with her manager. Borderline harassment, documented all interactions including follow ups.

    Today it happened "by accident" She was with a colleague who was helping her with a "training" on new paperwork. The collegue was directed by the semi hostile supervisor to teach the paperwork etc.

    While chatting through the boorish paperwork it was disclosed accidently by the colleague that the supervisor stated "you need to watch out for susie nurse" "She will bowl you over with her dominant personality, bosting on her knowlege and taking over".


    I told "the friend" this is more then unprofessional and should be documented and reported to her supervisor. I know that there has been other concerns regarding this addressed with not much response.

    Is this harassement? Or is it just bad managment. What should she do?
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  2. 16 Comments

  3. by   xtxrn
    Stay out of it.
  4. by   Noey67
    I offered no advice. But curious how would one proceed in a case like this? Call an attorney? Just kidding.
  5. by   hiddencatRN
    The paperwork was "boorish"? As in rude and clumsy?
  6. by   Noey67
    LOL more like clumsy.
  7. by   vanburbian
    Wow, I am confused:

    you're asking if your work colleague should report to her supervisor something her supervisor told another nurse?
  8. by   nursel56
    Which one is susie nurse? :spin: So your friend's boss told a new employee to watch out for your friend because the boss thinks she runs over people like a steamroller?
  9. by   caliotter3
    Agree with the first poster, stay out of it.
  10. by   nola1202
    trust other nurses like me who take everything said about another person with a grain of salt. I often will tell people who say such things that I prefer to make my own judgements about my co-workers, and it takes a little while for me to get to know everyone.
  11. by   kool-aide, RN
    He said, She said, blah, blah, blah…..
  12. by   rnspark
    Dude, I don't understand this post one bit. Who said what to who?
  13. by   caroladybelle
    MYOB

    Stay out of it.

    Person A and Manager B don't get along. Person C says that Manager B "said something" about Person A.

    First, it reads like the plot line of "Real Housewives of Medical County", with a petty catfight about to ensue after the commercial break.

    Person A does not know what was actually said, nor how it was said. Person A (in most cases) can be fired at the whim of Manager B. And in most cases, HR is more likely to believe the manager over the employee. And as this is something that was not heard "first hand", it is utterly worthless.

    In addition, by reporting it, what does your " friend" accomplish. Well, she gets Person C in hot water, and your "friend" gets a very hostile manager who, if s/he is smart will be more discrete in behavior, which is often more dangerous and underhanded. Your "friend" discredits herself by relating a "C told A that B said this about A", making A look really foolish and catty, to HR.

    Does it do any good for your friend? The odds are against it.
  14. by   xtxrn
    Quote from caroladybelle
    myob

    stay out of it.

    person a and manager b don't get along. person c says that manager b "said something" about person a.

    first, it reads like the plot line of "real housewives of medical county", with a petty catfight about to ensue after the commercial break.

    does it do any good for your friend? the odds are against it.


    nothing good can come of the "real" anything from anywhere- :d

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