still having trouble.

[britmansf18]

I have previously posted about losing my first nursing position after only 2 months and some change. This was back in October 2013. I graduated May of 2013. Since then, and because of being terminated, I have lost my confidence that I will find a position in nursing and have even run through scenarios of leaving the profession for good. This is heartbreaking to me! Everyone tells me that new nurses have bad transitions, I am smart, and that I am definitely meant to be a nurse. Ive tried explaining this situation to prospective employers and each time ive been without a job. I was offered by HR before they terminated me to apply for other positions in the network. I did just that. I got terminated and then got a call for an interview on behavioral health, something I was passionate about. This was an internal application, but I had to tell them at my interview that I had been terminated. My reason being was that there were not enough full-time positions to be had by new RNs, which was true in a way because some of the new RNs were being hired into temporary positions for people who were on leave since the network overhired. My real question is can I legally leave this job off of my history/resume? What are my options? However, then I have to explain that I did not seek employment for 9 months??? I am currently 5 months pregnant and I took a job as a caregiver at a home health agency because I wasnt finding work as an RN fast enough and my fiance needed help paying the bills...that looks worse than trying to form some kind of positive out of this bad first experience. Please help! I am really passionate about behavioral health and believe I would excel. What I learned from my first experience in the hospital was that the pace was not good for me. I think I would also do well in a long-term care facility because the pace may have to be pretty quick, but patients do not change as often and the patient conditions often are similar from door to door. I would be able to focus on time management and getting to know my meds.

[aeris99]

Sometimes things just don't work out. If it were me if say I was laid off due to lack of available hours an that I intended to reapply at a later date after gaining floor experience.

Side note: there is no way to tell through written messages the tone or attitude a person means to send. Your response seemed to be defensive and the post before it seemed, to me, to just be another opinion. Emotion clouds a situation. Maybe re-read the post and reassess your initial response to it? It's hard to see the painting when you're in the picture.

Best of luck on the job hunt!

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

What stands out to my in your original post is that you stated you got offered another job within the same health system and that offer was withdrawn once it was discovered you were terminated. You gave them a reason for termination that was "true in a way", which basically admits it wasn't the whole truth or maybe even not really true.

With the above, it is impossible to tell what really happened when you were let go and whether you are eligible for rehire and messed up by not being completely honest about why you were let go or whether you just aren't eligible for rehire due to why you were let go.

It is hard with the vagueness of your post to tell what is really going on here. Perhaps the story is in a previous post and I will go look for that, but it sounds to me like you aren't getting nitty gritty honest with yourself. This means you aren't really any better off than you were when you were fired.

In terms of letting it off your resume, you can, sure. But being pregnant and with no experience at all, it makes the likelihood of your getting into another job pretty slim. You will essentially be a new grad again with a baby on the way. Nobody can discriminate against you, but given how many new grads are out there climbing over one another for a shot at a job, it won't be difficult at all to choose others over you without it looking suspicious.

It would be better by far to leave this job on your resume and get humble about why you were terminated and your story straight about how much better you are doing now that you have done XYZ to deal with it and improve.

I vote for being honest -- and the place to start is being strictly honest with yourself about why you were terminated. I agree with not.done.yet: your post is somewhat vague, and I'm not entirely sure that you understand the circumstances surrounding your termination or your responsibility/accountability in the whole debacle. Until you accept, understand and process your part of the failure, it's going to be really difficult to learn from it and move on.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

I thought this was supposed to be a site for advice not to belittle people !

You've gotten some really good advice here, and I must have missed the post where you were belittled. Please do some self-examination. Until you thoroughly understand and accept your responsibility in the termination, you cannot move on in a productive way.

[Nurse SMS, MSN, RN]

Who belittled you?? Certainly nobody in this thread and most definitely not me. What a bizarre response.

[Nola009]

I 'self-terminated' from my first RN job after working at this place for only a month due to TOXIC work environment. I spoke up to the ADON and scheduler on day 3 of being racially bullied and absolutely NOT mentored by this embittered, indebted LPN turned BSN who was in a guff about me, a new grad ADN RN making the same salary as she (idrk bc I didnt tell the lady what I made)!! Anyways, when I interview, I never speak of this month of full time RN work... I'm even supposedly rehireable by this hospital group, (have tried and havent been rehired though!), but ive just gone on to get two other jobs like nothing ever happened. Sometimes we dont give certain info.... and neither do they (believe that)!!!

[LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN]

You are not the first nurse, nor will you be the last, to be let go from a nursing It varies how closely an employer will look into your background. You can always just say "not a good fit."

THIS.

A year later, I have two jobs; one in a leadership position; another similar specialty; they have approached me to be a shift supervisor.

You will need redeem yourself in due time; examine everything, and set yourself on your own path-that's the only way you will get that next job and carve a niche in this business-trust me, I know; for now, congrats on the addition to your family!