Life after quitting first job as RN

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    Hi all. I've posted here before..new problem. I worked in a hostile environment....nurses were nasty and ate their young. I stuck it out for as long as I could. I quit last week. Advised by many to do so including this forum. anyway...I was put back on orientation for a short period (which I didn't finish) to help me with "organizational skills." I was singled out by some nurses who seemed to be gunning for me for whatever reason? They would run to my director with any tiny thing they could find.......so in an effort I suppose to upease them I was put back on orientation. I had my fill because I was called on the carpet for things I have seen every nurse on the floor do.........I was damned if I did and damned if I didnt when it came to things such as asking questions when I wasnt sure. I was told to ask and did, then when I asked I was told I was passing on responsibility?????? I dont have a lot of confidence as anew RN and thats why i would ask before doing something......they seem to talk out of both sides of their mouths. So...I quit! what will this mean for me when trying to find another job? Will it bite me in the butt? I have only worked as an RN for 4 months and this was my first and only job. do I HAVE to list it on my application? what will my director say about me? will I get a good review or whatever? I was told I'm excellent with patients and their family but needed better organizational skills. which by the way I was told would come with time. I was also told I wasnt expected to know everything...but was treated like I should know when i asked? I was so frustrated and upset everyday...I felt like I didnt know what was expected from me???? HELP! Is my career over when it has just begun? I never missed a days work or was late and I never griped about my shcedule......I am VERY easy going.........that almost seemed to be part of the problem! I was TOO nice! Any advice out there? I was told I could use my director as a reference.........but what will she say? I was the 6th nurse to quit the unit in a 2 month period.......how bad will it look for me? I felt like it was too much for me as a new grad. Very busy floor with high acuity of patients........I need something slower paced..... HELP!
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    Lorabel, I am so sorry you are going through this. I would put the job on an application and say the reason for leaving is that it wasn't a good fit. I have read many threads on here of people switching jobs within their first year. My friend quit her first job after 6 months (she stayed to get her sign on bonus) and came to my hospital, where she is much happier. Good for you for getting out of a toxic workplace. Keep us posted.
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    Thank you! I accepted a sign-on bonus in agreement for 2 years of working for this corporation.....I have to pay it back plus $250. It's worth it in the long run. I couldn't see myself ever being happy there. I was losing weight, not sleeping, and stressed all of the time. I know there's a place for me in nursing...I just have to find it! I thought about saying it wasn't a good fit but i'm not sure what my director will say....I was hoping since i was so new to the profession, it wouldn't look too bad........I don't know where I want to work.....I always saw myself in the hospital environment but this job has left a bitter taste in my mouth. i'm sure not all places are like where i worked. I know someone who works as an aide on a different floor where ?i worked. she told her director how i was being treated and she was actually mad and said I was new and they were supposed to HELP me not make me feel like an incompetent nurse. The nurses on my floor ate their young for sure! some of the docs had me for snacks now and then.....I called a urologist once to let him know that one of his patients was bleeding from his penis.........I thought this was important. He was angry and not nice at all...he said can he pee? I said yes, but I bladder scanned for PVR and got 200cc. He told me he didnt care if he was bleeding from his urethra...all he cared about was if he could pee..so strait cath him! I did, but I didnt think he should have been so nasty with me! I know I have alot to learn and it will take time to learn organization and even critical thinking skills...but as you say, my floor was toxic to me. I cant learn in a hostile environment filled with backstabbers.....So I continue to look for a job. I will keep you posted. thanks so much!
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    Lorabel sorry to hear about the problems your having. Unfortunately some places are just not supportive and encouraging to new nurses.....believe me i know! From reading your posts it seems that your very keen to stay in nursing and love your job....just not the culture you have worked in...

    Just out of curiosity did your old workplace do an exit interview with you and what was the outcome?

    I would agree that you just need to tell any new employer that you felt that it wasn't the right environment for you. If they press the issue maybe just mention that you felt unsupported and wished to work in a supportive environment where you can expand upon your nursing skills to gain confidence.

    Anyway good luck and let us all know how things get on
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    I 2nd the exit interview if you get the chance. If you experienced this horrific work environment so did many others I'm sure.

    List the job and make it about you and not about them. It wasn't a good fit for you. Gently list examples but only if push to do so. List your manager, chances are they won't say anything bad about you.....you weren't a good fit for the cracked department for whatever twisted reason they gave, but that doesn't mean she doesn't want you to excel somewhere else.

    My 1st nursing job lasted all of 8 or 9 weeks. There was an entire list of things that just made me cringe...namely toxic co-workers. My 2nd nursing job lasted 9 months and I left due to beyond toxic manager(s) and then general hateful attitude that plauged that facility.

    Before applying for the next job, really think about the unit and things you liked as well as didn't like. Research the next unit you apply for and see if it meets you expectations. I contacted everyone I had ever known to work for my current employer and drilled them down. I wanted all the ugly and bad up front.

    Just think of it this way - you know what you DON'T want for an employer and you know what questions to ask at the next interview to help ensure that you don't get in that same situation again.

    Good luck!!!!
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    Quote from lorabel
    Hi all. I've posted here before..new problem. I worked in a hostile environment....nurses were nasty and ate their young. I stuck it out for as long as I could. I quit last week. Advised by many to do so including this forum. anyway...I was put back on orientation for a short period (which I didn't finish) to help me with "organizational skills." I was singled out by some nurses who seemed to be gunning for me for whatever reason? They would run to my director with any tiny thing they could find.......so in an effort I suppose to upease them I was put back on orientation. I had my fill because I was called on the carpet for things I have seen every nurse on the floor do.........I was damned if I did and damned if I didnt when it came to things such as asking questions when I wasnt sure. I was told to ask and did, then when I asked I was told I was passing on responsibility?????? I dont have a lot of confidence as anew RN and thats why i would ask before doing something......they seem to talk out of both sides of their mouths. So...I quit! what will this mean for me when trying to find another job? Will it bite me in the butt? I have only worked as an RN for 4 months and this was my first and only job. do I HAVE to list it on my application? what will my director say about me? will I get a good review or whatever? I was told I'm excellent with patients and their family but needed better organizational skills. which by the way I was told would come with time. I was also told I wasnt expected to know everything...but was treated like I should know when i asked? I was so frustrated and upset everyday...I felt like I didnt know what was expected from me???? HELP! Is my career over when it has just begun? I never missed a days work or was late and I never griped about my shcedule......I am VERY easy going.........that almost seemed to be part of the problem! I was TOO nice! Any advice out there? I was told I could use my director as a reference.........but what will she say? I was the 6th nurse to quit the unit in a 2 month period.......how bad will it look for me? I felt like it was too much for me as a new grad. Very busy floor with high acuity of patients........I need something slower paced..... HELP!
    Hi Lorabel, I too went through something similar on my first fob as an RN. It almost made me quit nursing. But if I would have quit nursing the A-holes would have won. Instead I did some soul searching and went to a smaller hospital. I stayed there for 4 years until management became intolerable. Try to get a year's Med-Surg experience under your belt. This will be invaluable. As far as the references from your previous employer go, legally they can't give much more than your hire and departure dates. A good way to check this is to have a friend call your former employer as if to check on you as a prospective employee. Good luck and be good to yourself.
    Last edit by bigredrn57 on Jan 7, '08
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    Lorabel - I second the figure out what you liked about this unit and try to find something along those lines. Also, at the next interview, I would ask to shadow a nurse for a few hours. Or, if that isnt' possible, then I would ask to be put in touch with some new grads recently hired and talk with them.

    Good luck. There are good nursing jobs out there.
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    Lorabel,
    Oh my gosh, I think you walked right into the very position I vacated! Oh boy, can I relate. I'll be tracking this thread closely for some advice as well as you have so accurately described my own position right now.
    What area do you live in? Are there good job prospects for new grads? That is my biggest hurdle right now.

    Good Luck to both of us. PM me if you want!! I'd love to chat
    Chloe
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    Quote from mom2michael
    My 2nd nursing job lasted 9 months and I left due to beyond toxic manager(s) and then general hateful attitude that plauged that facility.
    Did we work together and not realize it? This describes my current unit pretty accurately! I'm chairing a meeting tomorrow to see what can be done to improve our working conditions (read: "relationship with managment and administration"), not overly confident that anything will come of it in the end, but figure we have to start somewhere!
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    There are so many avenues out there...I would not feel one bit bad!!! I think you read my story...somewhat similar :angryfire....you need to do what's best for YOU!!!


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