Got "nurse face"? How'd you get it? - page 3

by Cinquefoil 8,558 Views | 41 Comments

"Nurse face" = the calm, collected expression that a nurse wears I am a BSN, graduated Sept, no job yet (but looking hard), 2 years experience in LTC, and right now doing temporary caregiving/sitting work in an LTC (private... Read More


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    Relaxing your face is a good thing but better yet is to feel relaxed internally. Ounce you achieve that your face will naturally relax. How do we relax? Not an easy thing sometimes we all have the things that makes us afraid. I think it comes with time as you repeat over and over those same things until we become just OK to be there with that strange situation we encounter so many times in nursing. Give your self a break first, nursing is not an easy thing and I think part of how we relax is to understand this, that is OK to feel scared and tense sometimes.

    Good luck
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    I agree with others. It comes with time. I can look pretty stone faced on the outside and be ****** as heck on the inside, lol.

    What annoys me are those that need to keep their mouth shut while in a pt's room. It drives me NUTS!

    1)OMG, this stupid computer keeps telling me it's the wrong dose/med.
    2)Wow! Look at all this blood!
    3)I have NO idea how to do this project, task, dressing change, IV
    4)Bear with me. This is only my second IV/NG I have ever inserted.

    UGH...really? I always tell my students to never let the pt see you sweat. If you don't know how to do anything, then bring somebody that does, or stop what you doing, and find help.
    Last edit by tokmom on Dec 29, '12
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    While I am still in nursing school... My kids have presented me with a vast array of medical emergencies throughout the years. Just last month, my son had a DEEP laceration under his toes that sorely needed stitches. He was at a friends house so as soon as he called about the situation, I went into action. Crutches from the closet, towels and check for insurance card. When we were in the truck on the way to the hospital he tells me "Geez mom, you don't even act like it is a big deal that I almost cut off 3 toes!" He is 14yrs old so I asked him how he would feel about the situation if I was freaking out? Then he tells me, "You never freak out... But I guess that is what you are supposed to do. You just always know what to do." Later that night, I heard my daughter and him talking about the very same thing. Both wondering how I keep calm. Then my daughter said it right. "It would have to be real bad for Mom to freak out. If that ever happens, we are doomed."

    I am hoping that I will be able to maintain the calm, focused thing going on while in nursing.
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    I've been told that, during debriefs, my "nurse face" and deadpan way that I readback orders/information to other providers is hilarious (we had a simulation videotaped and I had half of the room laughing, not because I was acting ridiculous or obnoxious, but because of the apparent transformation in my persona upon entering the room). I'm naturally very energetic and hyper, but go on "autopilot" during crisis situations and tend to respond in very short, clipped sentences and lack patience for nonsense.

    I grew up in a home where my family and I, unfortunately, were the patients who suffered from the "one-in-a-million" ailments. My parents and siblings have had multiple close calls with the Big Guy Upstairs, partly because of bad luck and partly because they're too stubborn to seek medical attention before it's too late.

    I have a vivid memory in middle school of my dad walking into the house and asking my mother for a Band-Aid. I came downstairs and followed a trail of perfect bloody footprints going through the kitchen to my father, who had gashed his leg outside. He needed so many stitches that the doctor stopped counting after 47.
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    Quote from Anoetos
    I'd like to see a thread on nurses who flip out unnecessarily. I dont mean nurses who get terse and sharp in high stress situations. i mean nurses who havent learned to keep their emotions in check.
    I work with one. Worst co-worker ever. Destroys morale left and right.

    As for my nurse face, I stopped shaving. There are times though where no matter what you do, a good laugh comes out.
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    I was raised in an environment where a poker face was very necessary for day-to-day interactions. When my brain is busy, my face automatically forms itself into a pleasant expression with a half-smile.

    I actually have had to learn how to lose the "nurse face" so that other people are aware of my emotions.

    Sometimes, however, (and always at the MOST inappropriate times) my poker face completely fails. When that happens, I have songs that I will sing in my head to get myself composed. It helps me tremendously.

    If I am about to have a laughing fit, I sing a sad song; if I'm about to cry, I sing parts of "Stand By Me"; if I'm about to lose my temper, I sing "I Want A Hippopotamus For Christmas." Works like a charm, every time!
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    The trick to having a good "nurse face" is having a safe spot/confidant where you DON'T have to have a "nurse face" afterward!
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    Quote from Anoetos
    "freaking out" is, at best sub-therapeutic and unprofessional and at worst a guaranteed ticket to corrective action.
    This is brilliant--do you mind if I use it?
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    Confidence. After a while, you see enough stuff that you learn not to judge what's around the next corner. Once you accept that, they could throw anything at you and you won't freak out. People who aren't confident eventually find something to freak them out.
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    its my protection! Its the thick skin you develop during the course of your work. Otherwise you leave yourself open. Watch the some doctors how they talk to patients & other staff. Learn from them. When your trying to get stuff done, you have to ignore people around you otherwise, you will get behind. Its not all flowers and chocolates, its work you have to do.


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