Am I ever going to get this?

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    Hello,

    I am about three months into my first job post grad, and it seems I can't do anything right. Am I ever going to get this? I just feel like throwing in the towel, but I've worked so hard to get here. I guess I am just very discouraged today. I just feel so slow, I still have so many questions and the paperwork is....ye gods and little fishes.

    Not sure what else to say.
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    I think that your first year or so is always hell. The good news is that it gets better with time and practice. Everyone can probably relate. Do what you can to relieve your shredded nerves and take care of yourself. You're on your way to being a good nurse.
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    Yes you will eventually get it. You have been doing this for only 3 months now, so be kind to youself. Nursing school only gives you the basics and you are expected to fill in the rest throughout the course of your nursing career. You are not suppose to have all of the anwsers and you are expected to ask a lot of questions. There is a lot to learn. I get nervous when a new grad does not ask a lot of questions and seems to have it all together.

    I have been a nurse for just over four years now and I still ask a lot of questions. The more experienced nurses just tell me that they are glad that I asked and they are happy to anwser my questions.

    Just hold your head up and keep on learning everyday. Eventually, you will find that you are asking fewer questions and you are the person that the new grads come to when they do not know something. Good luck with your new career.
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    ditto the above post. I feel for you, learning a new job and feel the same. I think it takes about 6 months for me to feel like I have a clue and at 1 year I realize I know phone numbers and the right dept to call by heart.
    Go get a pedicure in one of those massage chairs or splurge on a massage, it makes a huge difference in attitiude...or if that's to girly find something you've always wanted to do but think it's to extravagant
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    woops..thought my first message got eaten by the internet zombies
    Last edit by nola1202 on Jul 20, '11 : Reason: double post sorry please delete...
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    At 7 months in and just as I was starting to feel some sort of flow to my overwhelming 12 hr shifts, I was just audited by the most anal retentive RN on our unit (awesome nurse but with no social life and who is suspected by some to be a bit on the spectrum and touched with OCD so everyone is dreading her audits....and as the new RN on the block I am under the microscope).

    I want to be open to the learning she can provide me but after being audited by her I have zero confidence and am feeling like I will always suck. Am so tired of hearing about everything I am doing wrong -- I work too fast, I need to take it slow and be more careful yet I'm not supposed to work any OT and am not supposed to clock out and still keep charting and on and on.....

    The humiliation is ongoing and the rewards so few and far between; Feel your pain and am really considering quiting.
    KianaM, xtxrn, and jlynn2303 like this.
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    I have been a nurse since 2003. I started in a very busy and large ER. I went home crying after every shift for the first 9 months!!! And then one day, it just got a little easier. And the next day was even better. Dont get me wrong, we all have bad days and there are still days I want to cry but I promise you will get there!! Keep your chin up and remember, if you can survive nursing school, you can and will make it!!
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    First job is hell. You're not alone.

    Don't compare yourself to poeple who've been qualified longer than you. It serves no purpose.

    Everybody's nervous and underconfident at first even if they don't always show it. The seemingly hyper-confident new grad is often compensating for inner insecurities.

    The second job is heaps better. You've gained confidence and got some core skills behind you - skills that you don't pick up in training but only in the real world of being an RN.

    As the years go on you will do the job with more and more ease and confidence. Don't be hard on yourself. Questions are good even if you've been qualified 100 years. They show interest, an inquiring mind and a desire to do the right thing as opposed to just guessing (guessing = dangerous nursing). Slow and thorough is better than speedy and careless.

    I bet your colleagues and patients don't think you're half as bad as you do. Press on - it does get heaps better.
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    Only thing I would add to all the responders comments, which I wholeheartedly agree with, is this - when someone is only speaking about the things you do wrong, calmly say, "I appreciate your input, but please understand that for me, this is easier to take if you can at least point out some of the good things I am doing also." I have said this to bosses, co-workers, peers outside of work, friends, partners, etc. It is a good rule of thumb to keep in mind for everyone, and when the time comes for you to be offering feedback to anyone else, also make sure you include the good with the not-so-good.

    Best wishes.
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    Nursing school gives you the basics, but no real life experience. (the students I had follow my nurses into the room during my leukemia admissions didn't even DO anything but follow- that was weird)... it takes a long time to put it all together, and there will always be patients who have some combination of diagnoses that throw you another wrench.

    If you stop learning, THEN throw in the towel- you're done... 3 months is like the length of a fart in the overall life of a nurse- ... (though I'm sure it feels like a prolonged food poisoning at this point!!).

    You'll get it! It takes everybody time, and then there's just more to learn (one reason why I like nursing- there's always more to discover).
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