I lied...a story of how I outright LIED to patient's family. - page 13

I got the call on the EMS radio around 5 am. This is the usual time we get calls from EMS responding to nursing homes- The nurses are rounding on their patients to give am meds, and they find their... Read More

  1. by   kjb_lpn
    What you did might have been consiered bad or wrong in some circles, but as you say; we sometimes have to blur the lines. You gave them some comfort in what you knew would be a terrible time. I like to think I would do the same for the husband's sake.
  2. by   Dragonnurse1
    You did great and rest assured many of us have done this. Also know that as time passes this pain on your heart will ease, getting it out like this will help but time is the best healer for these things. Thank you for the way you handled this from someone that has done this very thing when working and also had a husband that did not understand.
  3. by   nurse2033
    Nice job! You clearly get nursing, in fact you rocked it.
  4. by   jaderook01
    I understand why you did what you did and that your heart was in the right place. However, personally, I would not want to be lied to and I would not do what you did. As someone who didn't make it in time to a loved one's death, there is still peace to be had and I found it.
  5. by   Doughboy7112
    You my Dear,

    You are a nurse of honor. As an nurse, I have done this with only the family and patient in mind. Yes, the pain inside is not burden, it is an unrecognized act of heroism, one you should be proud of. These are the unknown acts of humanity, love, selflessness, and honor that makes you that special nurse. You are now someone in a family's life that no one there will ever forget you for. You are a story in their heart, you have carried it on without even the realization of how eternal you are to them. It is an honor to have read this, know that you are not alone. Do not feel bad for being a hero in the Dark, for that is what we do.
  6. by   Bizyfe0415
    What you did was the living embodiment of nursing, the heart and soul of US. Put your mind at peace. If you want to be technical, just because her heart had stopped, how do you know she was truly dead? I believe her spirit knew her husband was coming and stayed until he gave it permission to leave. And THEN she was truly dead. Not until. Not before when her heart stopped. Then and only then. Thanks to you.
  7. by   rianne_w
    WHOA. Emotional. Great read, and great job as a nurse-- you gave her husband closure and a sense of calm that he would have never had if you had pronounced her before he arrived. You are a great person.