Just a 'butt-wiper' - page 2

Anyway, I have this 37 year old friend who, along w/ her 10 year old daughter, always refer to me working as a 'butt-wiper'. They both get HUGE kicks out of it. "Do you have to go to work and wipe... Read More

  1. by   yajaira21
    Quote from Piquarius
    Anyway, I have this 37 year old friend who, along w/ her 10 year old daughter, always refer to me working as a 'butt-wiper'. They both get HUGE kicks out of it. "Do you have to go to work and wipe butts tonight?", or "You don't mind wiping people's butt's all night?", sometimes the mom will say to the daughter "Stop it, she went to school to learn to wipe people's butts" etc. There are many, many more degrading ways they phrase their questions. I can't really tell them off 'cause the 10 year old is best friends w/ my daughter, and I don't want that friendship to end. I've mentioned my job involves other things too, like vital signs, washing, dressing, I even had to do the Heimlich Maneuver the other night. Any ideas on some tactful ways I can say 'knock it off'. Any links I can post on my facebook page about how valuable CNA's are, the mom will see it and maybe get the hint.
    Thanks in advance,
    Wow she sounds like a total B and teaching her daughter to do it too thats disgusting.

    She will soon find out how important cnas are just wait.....her parents will grow old one day and she wont know what to do I bet then she'd be thankful for us " butt wipers" to come help them.
  2. by   yousoldtheworld
    You know, the more I think about it, the less the "butt-wiping" is the point here. Even if we did nothing but stand and have butts line up to systematically walk by and be wiped, it STILL would not give this person the right to disrespect you. (LOL at the mental image, though...)

    Please tell this person off, this really irks me.
  3. by   Poi Dog
    She is allowing her daughter to be disrespectful. Her karma will be the day that her daughter tells her to go pluck her feathers.
  4. by   MissMcCoy
    Good poem!! Post that for sure!
  5. by   Hygiene Queen
    I just had to go through and kudos all the post concerning the mother's encouraging hateful and rude behavior in a child.

    How unfair for a mother to set her child up to fail like that.

    Perhaps this child and her Girl Scout troop can pop in for a nursing home visit and see that it's no joke.

    Note: If that girl could, indeed, even be a part of something so decent as the Girl Scouts!
  6. by   Joey_Boy, LPN
    I'd rather be wiping butt than kissing butt!
  7. by   caregiver1977
    Frankly I think this 37 year old (who is acting about 8 years old) would be someone I would be slowly working out of my circle of friends. I have known people who were absolutely dumped in LTCs and really love and appreciate their CNAs and anyone else who will help them. Some people in LTCs have no family or friends (or none who will visit them). I hope this Mom doesn't end up like that! She will thank God for the "butt-wiping CNAs."
  8. by   wanttoteachRN
    You might enjoy some new friends.
  9. by   Weezy24
    The mother is obviously not setting a good example for her daughter. I understand it is a delicate situation what with the two girls being best friends. But when your daughter grows up, she will understand that her mother was being made fun of by a very obtuse person.

    Keep doing what you do. It is a very noble job.
  10. by   LaterAlligator
    Try saying something so awkward/disturbing that they're afraid to bring up your work around you. "I don't just wipe butts, I brush the teeth of corpses as well. Do you want to hear about that? Well, let's not talk about my work then." or "Did you know that people can get sores so deep you can see their spines? Let me tell you about the colors and smells when that happens! Oh, what, you don't want to hear about it? Huh."
  11. by   LadySalubrious
    Very nice poem! I start my first CNA position this coming week and this is making me even more inspired. Beautiful.
  12. by   JSlovex2
    i'm late responding, but this is insane! that being said, there will be a time (and i'm not wishing it on anyone) that this lady will need, want, and value a "butt wiper" greatly. sadly, and i was guilty of it before going into nursing, people tend to think of all the "gross" things that nurses and CNA's have to do. in fact, i became a CNA before nursing school just to see how much "butt wiping" was involved and if i could stomach it. NOW, that seems silly to me. did i have to clean up poop? yes. i still do. however, that was a very small part of my job - surprisingly. that being said, my own husband made jokes about me "cleaning up poop." i don't think they realize that it's disrespectful. it's simply ignorance. furthermore, lots of people think that CNA's make a lot of money (and nurses). yeah, that CAN be true, but i think they have a lot of misconceptions about the pay scale and a lot of jealousy. someone who couldn't handle "cleaning up poop" wouldn't be thrilled at the thought of a "butt wiper" making more money than them. i even used to say, "i wish i could be a nurse. they make good money. i just couldn't deal with the blood, poop, etc." only your friend knows why she feels this way or why she says the things she does, but time and karma are your friend. let it go and know that you are important to the people whose butts you wipe.
  13. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Great poem! Thanks for sharing that; what a gem.

    I'll just add: Some of the most important jobs in society are often not held in high esteem and offer little to no monetary rewards. Judge your value as a person on your contributions to humanity, not by your paycheck or the esteem of the label placed upon you.

    To all the "just a ____" out there....just a mom, just an aid, just a nurse, just a whatever......kudos to you for making a difference in the world one person at a time!

    Edit to add: Just came across a great quote...

    "To laugh often, to win the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch... to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded..." - Emerson
    Last edit by radicalsenseofhope on Jun 11, '11