Would you sacrifice to be able to go to nursing school

[vintagemother]

I'm taking prereqs, but want opinions from those who've been through the grueling prereq process:

If your spouse asked you to leave the home, and you have 2 kids that were biologically yours and not his, (plus one more kid between the 2 of you) would you make finishing nursing school a priority or would you make earning an income your priority? For example, would you consider living in a small apartment to save on money so you could finish school? Or would you focus on getting a well paying full time job even if it meant quitting school?

I've been unemployed since April, but have been working my whole life and have managed to provide the majority of the financial support for all of us while working at home and not placing our kids in daycare. I wasn't able to keep my business going while finishing up micro this last semester. I'm highly confident that I can develop some income to be able to support my family, I just don't know if I can continue taking classes. It takes a lot of study time for me to be able to earn the grades that are required to get into the competitive BSN program in my area.

It's getting harder and harder to get the classes you need-and I got into great class times for Fall that work with my kids school schedule and everything.

I'm confused and sad. for so many reasons.

[Chapis]

i'm sorry your husband is not being supportive of you and i'm sorry he showed you the way to the door

i would sacrifice now, because the time you are planning on taking off will pass, but the difference will be if you'll have a degree or not.

my situation isn't easy right now. we are on a budget, strict budget, but if there's no pain there's no gain.

i would do what cbsjmommy told you to do, take that jerk court, make him pay you for child support and apply for all grants available out there for single moms, you'll get the help necessary to pay for school.

i have a friend in nursing school that is a single mom and has four kids. it's not easy, but you gotta do it for your self, and for your kids.

i only have one son, and i couldn't imagine having more kids right now or doing school later. i wanna be in good standing financially if i want more kids. it would be irresponsible of me right now to get pregnant (willingly trying to conceive) knowing in the situation my husband and i are at this time.

this must be hard for you, may god bless you and guide you through, but i definitely encourage you to finish school sooner rather than later, as you and your kids will be better off financially stable sooner.

hugs,

chapis

[chellevonne]

How old are your children?

[chellevonne]

I personally waited until my children finished school and moved out BUT I had a husband that acted like a husband. He is the larger provider in the house where as I supplied about 33% of our income. I felt like my children should come first . You have a little different story. Thats why I asked how old your children were. The LPN program is only a year and the RN program is designed to work around working people. Sounds like you can not depend on this guy for stability and support. In your situation, I would consider finding a way to finish so that you and your children can rely on you. If I have your guy pegged. He is going to become jealous of your independence and try to pressure you to quit. He isn't going to handle your success very well. If he were a good provider it would be different. He isn't so you have to step up and do what is best for you and your family.

[vintagemother, BSN, CNA, LVN, RN]

To everyone who responded: Thanks! At the time I first posted, I just wanted to know if people really could/did work while in school. And I also wanted to know if single moms went to nursing school. Now that I know it can be done, I'm definitely not going to quit just because my marital status or place of residence will change.

Since I first posted, I've been doing tons of research on how to fit in full time work, college and kids. I am also going to refine my study habits to see if I can become more efficient.

Chellevonne: :)Thanks for the advice. He hasn't been a good financial provider and I think he has become jealous that I'm trying to better myself. Our children are all in school, ages 6, 12 and 16 and they go to school while I go to school and study, so I have that all worked out.

Chapis: Thanks you for the kind words. :redbeathe I appreciate them. I have been researching my options at school and other forms of assistance available. There are a lot of programs available to help us.

Mommy22Many: The kids are definitely coming with me. I wouldn't leave without them.

CBs Mommy & MeghanTK: The kids don't attend public school either, so it doesn't matter where I live, which is why I'm looking at all neighborhoods that are safe, even if I have to live in a smaller home or an apartment.

Prior to this circumstance, I didn't know any moms in school in my situation, but now I know, I'm not unique. So many people get through situations like this, and I feel confident that my situation won't limit me, only I can limit myself.

[inthere]

Wow your making most of the money and he is asking you to leave? Really? Am I the only one thinking community property and I got your kids...no your the one leaving...yes and now a days it doesn't matter who the house belongs to cause technically you are his common law wife and you have a right to assets. Anyway I would get my career going ASAP. Instead of going to a university go to a community college or if you already hav a bachelors do a second degree nursing program....then when your financially secure take your kids and leave his sorry #$$. Sounds like when times are tough he wants you gone. You would be better off with someone who will be supportive in your life. Best of luck..there is light @ the end of the tunnel: )

[inthere]

@ miss hygiene queen...your lawyers sucked, there is no way you should not have had full custudy just because you were in school....but don't feel ashamed you don't have full custudy. Family court is like war...it is horrible....I have been there. Anyway if you have to take the kids full time again you can doit...you did it once and you will be able to do it again if need be....if their dad is sick they will need you more than ever. God be with you and your kids through this time...having a sick parent is a scary thing for children.