Would you marry any medical professional

jlcole45 · Dec 25, 2008

I am married to a RN - he actually went to school because of me. We make a good living and have plenty to talk about. We love that schedules are flexible and that most days you can walk away and feel good about your work.

He's been a nurse ten years, I've been one for twenty.

pagandeva2000, LPN · Dec 25, 2008

I am married to a RN - he actually went to school because of me. We make a good living and have plenty to talk about. We love that schedules are flexible and that most days you can walk away and feel good about your work.
He's been a nurse ten years, I've been one for twenty.

You are fortunate to be able to say that you influenced your hubby to become a nurse:yeah:. Mine gets leery each time I rub his hands because he has bulging veins. I'm trying to be affectionate and he tells me "I'll NEVER be you practice pin-cushion". He hates the medical documentaries that I love (he tolerates them enough, however, because he usually likes to cuddle with me), but tells me that he'd rather see a Freddie Kruger slash picture any day than to see the real things that can happen to people that are so horrible.

I adore my husband...it's not his fault that he is not a nurse...he can't be perfect...LOL!

pagandeva2000, LPN · Dec 25, 2008

What a person does for a living would not figure into whether or not I would want them in my life. Compatibilty, understanding, that initial heart throb happens when it happens.
My only rule has been, can't be a former of a friend, can not be currently married, cannot be working on my unit.

Oh, most definitely, he can't work in my unit! Imagine the argument in the morning and then I'd still have to look at that guy?? Sometimes, I don't want to be the mature, civil one! :clown:

rph3664 · Dec 25, 2008

My only rule has been, can't be a former of a friend, can not be currently married, cannot be working on my unit.

That applies to people in ANY job of any kind.

rph3664 · Dec 25, 2008

What a person does for a living would not figure into whether or not I would want them in my life. Compatibilty, understanding, that initial heart throb happens when it happens.
My only rule has been, can't be a former of a friend, can not be currently married, cannot be working on my unit.

I forgot to mention that for me, Deal Breaker Numero Uno is that he cannot ever have been divorced, for any reason. Please do not tell me that I'm unreasonable because I've already heard it lots of times.

dreamon · Dec 25, 2008

I forgot to mention that for me, Deal Breaker Numero Uno is that he cannot ever have been divorced, for any reason. Please do not tell me that I'm unreasonable because I've already heard it lots of times.

I won't tell you that, we are all entitled to seek out whatever 'type' of significant other we want. That is our human right. As long as you know that with every year that passes, the amount of men in the 'never been divorced' pool will get smaller and smaller. But they are out there. Good luck!

I wouldn't mind marrying a medical professional. I'm more concerned with their personality than their field. As long as they are gainfully employed in a steady career- they are free to turn in an application! :up:

rph3664 · Dec 25, 2008

I won't tell you that, we are all entitled to seek out whatever 'type' of significant other we want. That is our human right. As long as you know that with every year that passes, the amount of men in the 'never been divorced' pool will get smaller and smaller. But they are out there. Good luck!
I wouldn't mind marrying a medical professional. I'm more concerned with their personality than their field. As long as they are gainfully employed in a steady career- they are free to turn in an application!

My reasoning behind that is, "If he had treated his wife better, he would probably still be married to her." And this is something I have heard WAY more from men than I have from women! Keep in mind that I have known quite a few women about whom I have thought, "What if I meet the perfect man, and it turns out he's divorced from a woman like this?"

Some years back, I had a brief relationship with a man who once had a fiancee who dumped him for another woman. Several people said to me, "What if he had married her?" He didn't, okay?

When I was growing up in the 1970s, if someone got divorced, most of the time within a matter of months, the mom and kids were living in a fleabag apartment and she has to work two full-time jobs to pay off all his debts in addition to supporting the kids, while he's acquired a stable of girlfriends and uses the money he should be paying in child support to buy them furs and jewels, and fly them to exotic destinations. And a few years after that, Mr. Wonderful came along and adopted the kids, and they considered him to be their "real" dad. I saw this over and over and over again.

Knowing what I do now, I wonder how many of those Mr. Wonderfuls had previous families they had abandoned and most of us didn't know about.

pagandeva2000, LPN · Dec 25, 2008

I forgot to mention that for me, Deal Breaker Numero Uno is that he cannot ever have been divorced, for any reason. Please do not tell me that I'm unreasonable because I've already heard it lots of times.

That may be a difficult one...the older we get, the more of a chance of divorce, children, etc... My husband had been divorced. He married at an age where he, nor his first wife were mature enough to work in a marriage. I remember him saying he was 22 when wed, divorced when 24. He seemed to have learned so much from it that I wasn't afraid to take the dive with him. We've been married close to 10 years, now, and don't anticipate a seperation (although I might throw him out of the door occasionally when he comes in with muddy shoes like he did 15 minutes ago... :no: :banghead: ).

pagandeva2000, LPN · Dec 25, 2008

My reasoning behind that is, "If he had treated his wife better, he would probably still be married to her." And this is something I have heard WAY more from men than I have from women! Keep in mind that I have known quite a few women about whom I have thought, "What if I meet the perfect man, and it turns out he's divorced from a woman like this?"
Some years back, I had a brief relationship with a man who once had a fiancee who dumped him for another woman. Several people said to me, "What if he had married her?" He didn't, okay?
When I was growing up in the 1970s, if someone got divorced, most of the time within a matter of months, the mom and kids were living in a fleabag apartment and she has to work two full-time jobs to pay off all his debts in addition to supporting the kids, while he's acquired a stable of girlfriends and uses the money he should be paying in child support to buy them furs and jewels, and fly them to exotic destinations. And a few years after that, Mr. Wonderful came along and adopted the kids, and they considered him to be their "real" dad. I saw this over and over and over again.
Knowing what I do now, I wonder how many of those Mr. Wonderfuls had previous families they had abandoned and most of us didn't know about.

As mentioned, you do have the absolute right to search for what you want with no exceptions. However, I just wanted to introject and suggest not to group everyone...some people grow out of love, grow apart, are not mature enough, or a host of other reasons to just seperate. And, one thing that you did state that makes sense...do not take what anyone says as face value, investigate for yourself. I guess I am just trying to say that nice, well intentioned people make mistakes as well, and mature into great potential mates.

rph3664 · Dec 25, 2008

That may be a difficult one...the older we get, the more of a chance of divorce, children, etc... My husband had been divorced. He married at an age where he, nor his first wife were mature enough to work in a marriage. I remember him saying he was 22 when wed, divorced when 24. He seemed to have learned so much from it that I wasn't afraid to take the dive with him. We've been married close to 10 years, now, and don't anticipate a seperation (although I might throw him out of the door occasionally when he comes in with muddy shoes like he did 15 minutes ago...).

My sister's 7 years younger than me, also has never been married, and her Deal Breaker Numero Uno is children. That surprised me because she's always wanted to be a mom and cannot have children of her own. I don't think it's so much the children as having to deal with the ex and her (or his, if it's a man marrying a woman with kids) family, which can be problematic and I understand is a common reason why second or later marriages fail - and this includes marriages where the bio parent died.

Thing is, so often when a man marries a woman with kids and the "bonus grandchildren" are embraced by the extended family, the biodad isn't in the picture, nor is his family even if they were married for many years, so that isn't an issue. One often wonders, however, how much of that was the mom's doing, and it wasn't justified, which doesn't make a lot of sense to me when women who have sons do it. How would they like it if he got divorced and the scales were tipped more in her direction, and they lost their grandkids just for being related to him? Happens all the time.

Iam46yearsold · Dec 25, 2008

I really am 46. I really have never married. I love life as it is. I cant see having a relationship that might mar perfection. It is as simple as that for me/ Nothing complicated at all.

Kim O'Therapy, BSN, RN · Dec 26, 2008

Yes. As long as I did not have to work directly with them during my shifts.