Womens interest in male nurses

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I am a nursing student, currently studying to be an RN. I am really enjoying the experience, however I have an issue that is concerning me.

When chatting up women and the conversation comes up about what I do, and I reply studying nursing, their eyes widen and the mood seems to change. This is not related to women in the field but those outside. As soon as I utter the word nurse, I seem to go from a confident manly guy to a nice guy to them. I know women want confident manly sort of men, but women also say they like a man to be sensitive and caring. Can’t a male nurse be sensitive and manly? Do these women see nurses as somewhat effeminate, at worst gay?

If a woman is able to climb the corporate ladder and make big money in business and still have sex appeal, does a man need to limit himself to traditional masculine roles to prove his maleness and be attractive to women or can he do a traditionally feminine job of helping and caring for people.

I understood that when women refer to equality, it is for both men and women. They it’s a great idea for men to be nurses, but individually, their actions seem to speak louder than their words.

I would be very interested in your opinions on this both guys and girls

Specializes in Surgical Critical Care/Trauma.

Hey guys,

I'm a woman, a nurse and single. I love having men around and I don't care if they are nurses, doctors, resp.therapists, xray techs or anything else. I think we need more men in nursing too, as someone else said, to "balance out the estrogen and testosterone". I work with mostly women who get catty and back-stab the minute you leave the room. When men are around they tend to curtail that behavior probably because they are more aware it will make them look bad. As far as dating men in the workplace...I wish I could find one that's not already married. I think if I found a man who was a nurse and single I would be super lucky. They are real men who know the fragility of life and good health. The problem I have found is that they are really good people and have been grabbed up by someone already! I'm still looking though...

Specializes in ICU.

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what does that have to do with the original topic.

Specializes in ICU.

yeah, sorry about that, I was trying to reply to something in the middle of the conversation.

Specializes in ED, CTSurg, IVTeam, Oncology.

LOL, this thread's three years and going strong. So I'll just add my two cents; in regards to the OP question, I'm 100% straight guy, and while in school, and even afterwards, got much more action when women found out I was a nursing student or RN. Even after almost 20 years of marriage, when my wife's friend's find out that her husband's an RN, they immediately ask all sorts of questions about me (and I mean ALL sorts).

Go figure; but hey, no complaints from me ;)

Haha! Great to hear to hear that, EmergencyRN!

I'm starting nursing school this January. I look forward to all the attention from the ladies, but most of all, the extra attention and notice from the teachers, haha. Hopefully gettin Letters of rec. will be piece of cake bc of that. AAAh i love being in the healthcare environment so much. There are many beautiful womens in the hospital and especially in my current class of like 85 students. I think i am going to die from excitement!

-Mojo

'at worst gay' sounds bigoted. Nothing wrong or questionable about being a gay nurse, male or female. However, if a woman thinks all male nurses are gay then she probably thinks all female doctors are lesbians? Same logic. Think about it.

I would totally agree with you! 24 and just graduated in MAY. I've never "met" so many new girls in a span of 2 years in comparison to all my college years I loved it haha. (18 was my tally)

You know,I think its the same thing with a lot of steriotypes,most people dont really know what its all about or never bothered to be educated about it,so,they live in ignorance.I had a friend and we were at a Christmas Party,and we met another guy,who happened to be a male cheer leader at some college.My friend started making comments about being manly and what kind of guy would be a cheer leader,yada,yada,yada.

I didnt see it that way,because I know what goes into being a male cheer leader.power,strength,agility,stamina.To be able to do repeated back flips and summersaults and catch a 110 lb girl flying through the air and into your arms,without an accedent, takes quite a bit of "man power"in my book.And once I pointed that out to my friend,he began to take on a different tone with the guy,probably because he could never hope of being in that kind of shape,and the fact that if that guy wanted to,he could twist my friend into a pretzle.

And the average person,hasnt got a clue about nursing other than what they see on TV,they have no idea what its like in a burn unit(the hospital BU I went to had a 3:1 ratio of guys vs gals) or whats involved in advanced practice like CRNA.

So I just smile and let them be blisfully ignorant and think one day they may show up in an ER,and be looking up at a guy who's going to make it all better,then they may know what males in nursing is all about.

Specializes in Mental Health.
I always said that when I get old and I'm in the nursing home or hospital, I'm going to pinch all those cute male nurse butts I can't pinch now!

If I end up divorced, which it looks like I will, I would definitely look for a male nurse to hang with!

H-O-T-T!!!!!

hahahaha.. I'm a 2010 graduate RN, 41, single.. call me.. :D

Specializes in Emergency Nursing.
I always said that when I get old and I'm in the nursing home or hospital, I'm going to pinch all those cute male nurse butts I can't pinch now!

If I end up divorced, which it looks like I will, I would definitely look for a male nurse to hang with!

H-O-T-T!!!!!

I just want to point something out here. Please don't think I am scolding you, I am not. I absolutely do not take this personally or as some kind of sexist slight. My own opinion is that this sort of thing should not be the big deal that it often is, and that clearly, there are differences in male and female attitudes toward this sort of thing, but...

That said...

...It occurs to me that if something like this were said by a man about female nurses there'd be no end of hell to pay...

Specializes in Mental Health.
I just want to point something out here. Please don't think I am scolding you, I am not. I absolutely do not take this personally or as some kind of sexist slight. My own opinion is that this sort of thing should not be the big deal that it often is, and that clearly, there are differences in male and female attitudes toward this sort of thing, but...

That said...

...It occurs to me that if something like this were said by a man about female nurses there'd be no end of hell to pay...

I found it quite amusing.. lol.. and totally appropriate for a post titled "Womens interest in male nurses" .. :D

Yeah.. you're right though, lots of double standards for men/women, all ridiculous in my opinion. Seems to me the vast majority are perpetrated by men though. Women are always the ones getting the raw deal in nearly every double standard. I think it's getting better though.. slowly but surely.

Society has created these stupid rules that are suppose to define what we are, who we can be and where we can work based on our genitalia? Whatever.. Society can pinch my butt.. :rolleyes:

I'm a man.. I'm a nurse.. yay me.. but mostly, I'm a kind, caring, compassionate human being, the end.

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