Will things get better as I get educated?

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Not to sound vain, but so far in life, I've usually worked in environments where I've been smarter and more edcuated than many of my coworkers (retail, CNA, waitressing). Even if I try to simplify my everyday rhetoric, I still get blank looks and demands to "speak English," like the time I used the word defecate the other day. I think that this is one of the reasons why I've encountered a lot of drama, and it's been discouraging me from nursing as a career choice. After a particularly stressful day at the LTC facility where I work, I was pulled aside by a nurse, who said, "Don't worry about them. They're intimidated by the fact that you're young, smart, pretty, and you have a chance to move on. It'll get better once you're surrounded by your intellectual equals." Will a portion of this drama pass as I advance into my career? I hope so. I've worked different jobs in which I the majority of coworkers were fellow college students, and the work environments were much nicer than those that employed mostly lay people. I know that drama will always be present, but do you think that things will at least improve beyond people snapping at me to shut up if I ask them to please help with trays while they're talking on the phone while on duty?

Specializes in Acute Care Psych, DNP Student.
While I agree with all the above posters, I must say this....

I love multicollinarity's blunt honesty. :)

Sugar coating may make things easier to swallow/hear, but it may not help someone understand your message.

Well, actually I posted here again with the intent to soften my tone. Then I got even more snippy. This is a pet peeve for me, lack of respect for those without college degrees. *sigh* It's too easy to say things on the internet that I would never say in person. My post is an example of violating basic EQ principles. By being too castigating, the other person's sense of ego and 'face' is lost and then there is no further communication. If I were the OP I sure wouldn't post back here. Anyway, I was trying to tell the OP that I used to do a very similar thing at the same age, and what I have learned.

Specializes in Nursing assistant.

This is an interesting discussion, not so much about nursing as about how we see ourselves.

We do need to develope our sense of value, not based on how we compare to others, but based more on our belief in the sacredness of the individual, the intrinsic value of each one of us given to us by our creator.

I really think that this brings peace, with ourselves and with others.

And, I have found wisdom in what society might see as the most unlikely persons. I have found deep contentment in some who are the least privileged. I like the story about the one poster who said when she was young she would enjoy baffling her step father with her impressive vocabulary. Then she grew up and saw his soul.

There are just a few things I do NOT regret doing in my life, among many that I do regret. I have never regretted listening to someone who sincerely wanted to share good advice with me, never mind their education. I have never regretted respecting someone for living their life with dignity, even if their job was cleaning others toilets. And I have never regretted resisting my darker tendency to feel better about myself by looking down at someone else.

Specializes in Med/Surg.

Things will get better!!! I was a constant victim of this growing up and in a lot of my career choices as a cna and medical assistant. I hope to be able to find an intellectual atmosphere one day where i can feel at home. you may want to apply for MENSA, which is a national organization for highly intelligent people!!

Specializes in Nursing assistant.

It sounds as if you're trying to put others down. A lot of times people don't feel compelled to use "SAT" words to sound smart. You may be smart, but others may have things you don't. They may be compassionate, empathetic, caring, or just plain good people. A person doesn't need to be Einstein to be smart. There are street smarts and book smarts. A person should have a little bit of both, otherwise they won't make it in the world. Focus on how you are as a person and as a caregiver, not on how "others are intimidated" by your "intelligence". ;)

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