Will I be fired?

[Rin nohara]

Hi

I am new grad nurse in ICU. my first job as nurse in ICU, I got fired because I didn't like the toxic environment. it wasn't really  ICU. most patient was alert and oriented X4. no intubation. been there for 4 month no blue code. I moved to different state, the hospital I am in, CVICU and ICU. I had two months of orientation. the manager told need to extended for another month. One of the reason she said I am not friendly or approachable. Also, my manager  said that my preceptor said I complain about  how this hospital running  but I never did. I am introvert, I don't like talking to strangers, I smile and say hello and that is it. I notice other nurses don't find me friendly. but I do help other nurses when admission or turning patients but not starting conversation. Other nurses think I have mood swing because sometime I am nice and sometime my body language (unaware)  give vibe that leave me alone. because I get drained when talking to people, sometime, I cant fake smile pretend that I am bubbly person when two my patients died and getting two admission. I am doing everything on my own now. my preceptor doesn't do anything expect talk in break room with other nurses.  the manager tone was like I might get fired If I don't get along with everyone? I don't know what to do? any advice? 

[klone, MSN, RN]

Also, if how you react/respond to people here is any indication of how you interact with your coworkers, I have a better understanding of why they may perceive you as unfriendly.

[Googlenurse, ASN, BSN, RN]

Some cultures are not  known for being  bubbly and talking to strangers, such as  Scandinavians for example.

Nobody randomly smiles or talks to people they do not know well. It is considered intrusive. In other cultures,smiling all of the time makes you seem like an idiot and will be deemed "slow".

Everything isn't racist, Geez

[jobellestarr]

2 hours ago, Googlenurse said:

Some cultures are not  known for being  bubbly and talking to strangers, such as  Scandinavians for example.

Nobody randomly smiles or talks to people they do not know well. It is considered intrusive. In other cultures,smiling all of the time makes you seem like an idiot and will be deemed "slow".

Everything isn't racist, Geez

We say in my family that we are good Norwegians and all that implies, LOL. Unfriendly and drink tons of coffee. 

[Guest1198722]

11 hours ago, klone said:

I did not interpret that as racist. I think they bring up a good point. Based on your writing, and your username, I am guessing that you were not born here in the US (I am assuming you are in the US, I apologize if that is an incorrect assumption). There is nothing wrong with acknowledging different cultures and different ways of interacting with people that are informed by your culture and how you were raised, as well as language differences/barriers. That is not racist.

Thanx for the support!

[Quitting]

On 10/27/2022 at 12:25 PM, Been there,done that said:

 I started a new job with 25 years experience. I could run circles around any nurse on that unit. I got fired after 2 weeks because... "I was not smiling enough". I had just lost my dog and 2 family members. 

My advice is fake it.. till you make it. Smile,smile , smile... and ask questions to your co- workers as to their outside life. It's all in the game.

I agree you are not always going to be a fit for the environment and I used to blame myself especially since I have a family to care for but I learned from speaking with other nurses this the norm for some of us. You have to pick yourself up quick and go and get another job.