Why do some nurses come across to be rude?

[mathboy]

Hello Guys,

Now here's a small concern that I have whenever I go to the hospital. I have found nurses to be rude to me.

I dont give it back because they're the one's who will be taking care of me and I want them to care for me.

I have a lot of respect for nurses, they are angels for the kind of compassionate work they do, but some experiences here and there create a long lasting memory. Only friendly people in hospital to me were the nuns and priests, during communion time.

Sometimes, I have even tried to avoid going to hospitals.

Is this because they want patients to be submissive and obedient ? I have never come across a friendly nurse till date.

Rude patients do exist, is this why they put the foot down first?

Btw, I am a colored(brown) person, so I wonder if this is a reason.

Once when I was admitted, there was a senior nurse who at first was rude. But then I told her that she was like my mother and I felt hurt that she was rude. I told her nicely and she was nice to me after that.

But, as a patient we go to hospitals emotionally and physically down, the last thing we would want is to get intimidated by the nurse.

What's the best way to tell a nurse that it hurts when they're rude without getting them angry.

Any advice friends.

God bless you'll for the work you'll do.

[roser13, ASN, RN]

Why are some teachers rude? Why are some engineers rude?

Because some folks are rude. It's that simple.

The best way to deal with it? The same way you deal with a rude retail clerk or a rude waitress - you either say something or you ignore it and move on, living your life as you see fit.

[ThePrincessBride, MSN, RN, NP]

There are rude and nice people in every profession, nursing is no different. In addition, nurses often are under extreme pressure, working short-staffed, underpaid, underappreciated, and disrespected by doctors, visitors, patients...

Yet in spite all of what many nurses go through, nurses are still ranked the most trusted profession. I may be bias, but I have met some really great RNs, LPNs...

I have a hard time believing that EVERY nurse you have come across is "rude." You are the common denominator so...you finish the sentence.

[mathboy]

Why are some teachers rude? Why are some engineers rude?

Because some folks are rude. It's that simple.

The best way to deal with it? The same way you deal with a rude retail clerk or a rude waitress - you either say something or you ignore it and move on, living your life as you see fit.

But here I am unwell looking for some compassion. Yes, every profession does have its fair share, but here I am sick and unwell. Why be rude to a weak person.

[roser13, ASN, RN]

But here I am unwell looking for some compassion. Yes, every profession does have its fair share, but here I am sick and unwell. Why be rude to a weak person.

I'm sorry, could you show me who's being rude? I know for a fact that my response was factual, not rude by any standard.

[mathboy]

There are rude and nice people in every profession, nursing is no different. In addition, nurses often are under extreme pressure, working short-staffed, underpaid, underappreciated, and disrespected by doctors, visitors, patients...

Yet in spite all of what many nurses go through, nurses are still ranked the most trusted profession. I may be bias, but I have met some really great RNs, LPNs...

I have a hard time believing that EVERY nurse you have come across is "rude." You are the common denominator so...you finish the sentence.

Thanks for your post, many do share the same experience as me, so a lot of common denominators actually. But if I were a nurse, I would treat everyone well and would never be rude. After all I know how sicknesses can drain a residents mental and emotional well being.

In some cases patients are all on their own with no immediate family present and being rude at that point is quite heartless and belittling.

[mathboy]

I'm sorry, could you show me who's being rude? I know for a fact that my response was factual, not rude by any standard.

I am sorry.You got me wrong. I never said you were being rude here. I meant why be rude to a weak person in a hospital setting, I mean any sick person is weak and that's why he's in the hospital.

A rude clerk or a rude waitress wouldn't bother me so much because I go there when I am well. School or work is a total different setting again.

[bugya90, ASN, BSN, LVN, RN]

Because nurses are human too just like everyone else. There are rude doctors but I don't see you making comments about them. Maybe you just caught these people on a bad day. We are all human and allowed to have a bad day. And your comment about being a person of color, if you thought you were being discriminated against you need to speak with a manager.

[VivaLaVespaGirl, BSN, MSN]

Mathboy, can you provide an example of rude behavior? If you are finding that the majority of nurses you encounter are rude, I wonder if there are some cultural or communication style differences.

[mathboy]

There are rude doctors but I don't see you making comments about them. Maybe you just caught these people on a bad day. And your comment about being a person of color, if you thought you were being discriminated against you need to speak with a manager.

Well, in my case the doctors we always excellent, but I know people who have complained of doctors being rude. When a Doctor is rude, we can always look for a good doctor, lots of reviews online etc etc. But that's a different story altogether. There are a lot of people who are not thick skinned and cant get over rude behavior and that too when they're unwell looking for sympathy.

[VivaLaVespaGirl, BSN, MSN]

There are a lot of people who are not thick skinned and cant get over rude behavior and that too when they're unwell looking for sympathy.

I wonder if perhaps you are unaware of the nursing role. The nurse is not there to provide sympathy; the nurse is there to provide expert patient care. Again, I would definitely love to know some examples.

[mathboy]

Mathboy, can you provide an example of rude behavior? If you are finding that the majority of nurses you encounter are rude, I wonder if there are some cultural or communication style differences.

Well I don't think there is a cultural/communication style difference. Some don't like being spoken to, they wouldn't even reply to a 'How are you doing' comment.