Why are nurses so angry?

Nurses Relations Nursing Q/A

Reading the forum in the past few months, a common thread I have seen is the anger. It does not seem to matter what the discussion is about or the level of nurses discussing it, anger is a common denominator. All of us have random days of extremes, anger, disillusionment, panic, sadness, and a host of other feelings. But anger sticks out and the need to place this anger on others. We need to vent, but why is anger a constant?

In a recent thread, nurses discuss the dealings with combative pts with drug/etoh  backrounds. So much fault placed on the pt. I am more then understanding of the difficulties in dealing with these people, but do ya think they do it on purpose?

When a professional nurse becomes so immersed in anger, it is time to change your specialty or take a break. We are not a perfect group by no means, but we get paid to deal with the best of the best and worst of the worst. It is not always easy, fun, or safe. We should not be abused or taken advantage of by our clients. We should be protected by our employers. We need to be proactive in getting our needs met and the needs of those in our care met.

When I see such young professionals so angry and disillusioned already, I have to wonder at the future of our profession.

It is not a profession one should enter to get rich, have great hours, vacations or benifits. It is one that is entered to care for others, teach and mentor. We have come such a long, long way in the past few decades, and we have far to go.

So, I guess my question to the population here, is how do we grow as a profession without all the constant anger towards each other, our clients and employers? Or can we?

Christine

Specializes in Med/Surg.
As u can see, I have been a RN for 28yrs. I remeber when. Nurses have evolved as well as the powers of healthcare. And please do not think I can not understand, I more then understand, I have lived it also. This is not a tit for tat. My thought was a result of what I see, hear,read and experience. Constantly being on the defensive is not always good either. It nis what it is. If we want to work and live, we either adjust,help change and facilitate what we can. One can be happy and be in a prefession that is struggling.

I disagree that we are not respected. We are one of the most respected and considered morally above most other profession. But think of walking in an ICU, a devistated parent or child, the first person that approahes u states that it is not visiting hours and u have to leave. Or they have that ****** off look that says "stay away". Think of calling for help for ur loved one and the voice on the speaker says,"ur nurse is busy and will be in when they can" ,u see someone walk by,ask them and they state "it's not my pt,sorry". We are a hurried,fast paced,overworked,underpaid,profession, and we do not always present ourselves well. What if that pt was ur mother,father,sister,brother,or child? That is what I would like everyone to think when a family/visitor wants them. Of course we can not always be there when they want,but we can be nice. We can be the difference between a bad situation and a good one.

Lets keep our anger and frustration here,in the breakroom or with friends. Not 100% doable,sure I know that,but we can try. Sorry,my world is like yours,I am no saint, but I damn well try and remember what it was like when I was on the other side,and it was my family in that bed.

You are assuming a lot, here.

You tell us to treat patients families like you'd want our own families to be treated....how do you know we don't?

You say to keep our anger and frustration here, but you are complaining about it. Perhaps BECAUSE we keep it here, we are able to do the above.

Specializes in Neuroscience/Neuro-surgery/Med-Surgical/.

A group of nurses on our unit got together to discuss our dissatisfaction, and found that most were quite similar. Apparently, each of us, on our own, had brought our concerns to our manager, and the director; but to no avail. Now after discussing as a group, we are each bringing our experiences and research together; surveys have been done and now an outside agency will be holding 'focus groups' to discover the source of such dissatisfaction, and of course asking about solutions.

Its taken over a year of ******** and complaining individually, but when you unite and become focused, its amazing what can happen. We are finally going to be heard! There is hope!

I enjoy being a nurse, but there is a better way to provide safe and competent care.

It's difficult not to be frustrated, disillusioned and angry as a nurse. I'm as compassionate as any nurse I've met, but that does not mean I am a doormat. I bend over backwards to help my patients but there comes a point when one must admit the healthcare system is designed to enable and reward the self-centered, addicted, threatening and unappreciative segments of each town that have learned to work the system to get their fix, in the amount they want, as often as they want, for as long as they want and to hell with the rest of you and your patients! Have you tried to talk to your nursing administration about their open door policy for these patients? "Come into out ED. We offer the compassionate, caring difference to make you feel entitled to live off the rest of us and tell us what you think of us. What can we do to make your stay better? What can we do to make you rate us high on the patient satisfaciton survey so we get better reimbursement? And please tell us if any of our nurses make you feel unwelcome because we'll hang them out to dry for you." I've been to administration with my concern about this and I heard words like "insubordination" and "unwilling to show our mission, vision, and values." I think I heard someone use the words "he needs to be fired." OK...so it's nursing administration I'm angry at. Hell, I am nursing adminstration. I'm the House Supervisor for crying out loud. I'm well loved by the staff on the floors becasue I pad them with extra help. Oops...don't let anyone find out! These nurses tell me how they are all looking for other jobs because they don't have anyone to talk to who can make a difference. When your hospital is owned by a corporation, even your own administration is a limp rag...ineffective and hiding all the time. You know what else I went to adminsitration with? What about the physician who keeps demonstrating just how verbally and physically abusive he can be to staff and patients? Where is this "no tolerance" policy that is supposed to protect us from these guys? What about the pile of formal complaints I have submitted over the last 3 years? Nurses want to know what is being done about it. Well...it turns out there is a secret process that takes a long time and is known only to special people in adminstration that cannot be discussed with expendable, normal people doing the real work...oh by the way, you should be fired for asking. How about all the money that is being spent to train and orient new hires because the new nurses leave as soon as they have a year under their belt. What if they had incentive to stay such as nurses to provide lunch breaks consistently to everyone, charge nurses out of care so that patients and family members actually get attended to and the ED does not have to hold admissions as long? Yes, I am angry at the narrow-minded nursing adminsitration I supposedly represent. They show up every few months to spew the latest decision-making model and what it means to us (based on data that is 8 months old and no longer relevant), but otherwise who are these strangers wandering the halls? Hey, look at all the statistics we have put together so we can get a Gold Whooptidoo Award from the State for having a bunch of surveys out there that tell us a bunch of stauff we won't do anything about! That proves we are the best hospital to work at. By the way, anyone that says the word "union" will be immediatley terminated. Also, if you ever get a union, Corporate will sell this hospital. What are we waiting for? I'm hanging in there because I am a damn good House Supervisor. I have the respect of every physician for my ability to make decisions, keep patient flow going against all odds, and I keep my word. I have the respect of every nurse because I listen to them and I understand their feelings. I treat "productivity" like it's the devil's stentch and I staff my nurses as well as I can. I'll keep standing up for what's right and if I loose my job, at the end of the day I can live with myself. I have a beat-up back but I get to work on time, work hard, and go home to my familly at the end of the day. I reserve the right to remain angry at nursing administration and can only assume it's the same everywhere. If I thought I could make a difference as a healthcare administrator, I would go back to school. But I would get complacent making my $350,000 salary despite how my nurses feel about me and I would stop listening to them. I would not have time for them anyway since important people like me have to spend 12-hours in meetings discussing when to have the next meeting. All you nurses in the trenches...I love every one of you.

Reading the forum in the past few months, a common thread I have seen is the anger. It does not seem to matter what the discussion is about or the level of nurses discussing it,anger is a common denominator. All of us have random days of extremes,anger,disillusionment,panic,sadness,and a host of other feelings. But anger sticks out and the need to place this anger on others.We need to vent,but why is anger a constant?

In a recent thread, nurses discuss the dealings with combative pts with drug/etoh backrounds. So much fault placed on the pt. I am more then understanding of the difficulties in dealing with these people,but do ya think they do it on purpose?

When a professional nurse becomes so immersed in anger, it is time to change your specialty or take a break. We are not a perfect group by no means, but we get paid to deal with the best of the best and worst of the worst. It is not always easy,fun, or safe. We should not be abused or taken advantage of by our clients. We should be protected by our employers. We need to be proactive in getting our needs met and the needs of those in our care met.

When I see such young professionals so angry and disillusioned already, I have to wonder at the future of our profession.

It is not a profession one should enter to get rich, have great hours,vacations or benifits. It is one that is entered to care for others, teach and mentor. We have come such a long,long way in the past few decades, and we have far to go.

So, I guess my question to the population here, is how do we grow as a profession without all the constant anger towards each other, our clients and employers? Or can we?

Christine

I also get tired of all the drama and the back biting at work. I work in LTC, started there 5 years ago as a CNA and 2 years ago, became an LPN and loving every minute of it. I wouldn't even think of doing anything else. My record is in good standing and never have had a write-up. The facility I work in has had numerous admins and DONs since I have been there, so that tells you how big a turnover we have. Was just starting to gain a little respect for the admin until the other day when he apparently came storming down the hall to our unit and through the doors of our hallway ( I did not know it was him) as I was leaning down closer to the phone to listen if talking was coming from it ( these are not speaker phones). I had been giving residents their medicine when a CNA and I heard what sounded like part of a conversation over the intercom. It was coming from the phnoe at the nurse's station. I took it upon myself to get closer to the phone to try to figure out whose voice it was so I could let that person know that they are broadcasting. It wasn't loud so we couldn't make out what was being said. As I leaned over to try to make out the voice, I heard the double doors open to our hall, thinking it was probably the nurse on the hall opposite us needing something. I didn't look up and all of a sudden something slammed very hard next to my head that it just barely missed my head. I jumped and saw that it was our admin. He gave me a look (if looks could kill) that scared me and my first thought is 'you are sick and need help'. I asked him what he did that for and he stands there and accuses me of violating HIPPA. I said 'What are you talking about?' He apparently heard the name of a resident on our hall over the intercom in a conversation and just ASSUMED that it was coming from us. My respone was that I heard the noise and trying to figure where it was coming from. I told him there is a phone in an office that did not hang up correctly. This admin was rude and unprofessional. I never received an apology. I have no respect for the man anymore. I wish now that he would have hit me when picking up the receiver off the phone and slamming it down. Whoever was unknowingly violating HIPPA would have been the least of his problems then. Telling the DON didn't do anygood. He thought it was funny. I thought the DON was supposed to be the nurses support. If there was anything I could get the admin on without having to worry about retaliation, I would do it. I would never quit this facility because I love my work and the residents there. I do have wonderful CNAs. The CNA who was with me said the admin just missed my head when slamming the receiver down.
Specializes in cardiology/oncology/MICU.

I am not angry I love my job and most of my coworkers. I try to stay out of the drama at work. I do not really care what people do so long as they are safely and effectively caring for their patients. I love to laugh and think that we should have a good time while working inspite of the stressful environment the ICU provides. We only live once and are fortunate enough to work in a profession where we can help those in need.

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