Why so closed minded? WHY?

[alwaysthere]

Worked with a male nurse the other night. This nurse is agency and has worked at our facility for some time. He always gives good pt care and is helpful to the aides and other nurses. As I took V.S. One pt. starts going OMG a male nurse! Why do the let guys do this? Dosent he realize we're female!...etc...etc..etc.

This is absolutely one of the most closed minded attitudes I have the misfortune of dealing with...and it happens time and again. Well it ended up that everytime he had to go into the room i had to go with him. And to his credit he endured the stuff she said to his face !...me on the other hand ..I had to duck outside for a few minutes and unclench my teeth... Why is it acceptable for a woman to see a male doctor, a male pt to been seen by a female doc or to be cared for by a female Nurse/Aide.? and yet not acceptable for a female to receive care from a licensed PROFESSIONAL who happens to be male? GRRR

P.S. today i was a pt. had seen the NP about the prob before and was made to feel as if she really didnt have enough time to be bothering with me. (not saying that all are like this,Ive heard NP's are wonderful) anyways saw the MD today he TALKED with me and examined me more than she had and actually got some history on me etc. generally treated me like a human. had to get ex-ray etc. the female tech made me feel like i was going through a proccesor...at that point i had already had a bad enough day and didnt need it getting worse. well the guy actually doing the films talked with me held my hand was so gentle and generally it felt like he cared. i felt sorta human again after that ....well we will see what P.T. brings. Tis truly better to give than to receive!

:chuckle

Kudos to all you wonderful and caring Nurses AIdes and Techs,no matter how your chromesomes are arranged!:kiss

[psychonurse]

I agree totally with SmilingBlueEyes......we need more nurses, it doesn't matter if they are male, female or green or blue..... it is really scary someplaces when the nurses are being worked to the total end of thier strength cause there is no one to take over thier shift. We need to get more nurses and quit cutting down and making the ones that we have feel that they can't be in the profession cause they aren't the right sex or nationality. I guess the next race they are going to start on is the American Indian and then I am in trouble.

[mark_LD_RN]

TEEITUPTOM-- I am not overly sensitive, maybe it seems that way because the whole intent of a message is hard to convey in a bb or email setting.

i do get annoyed with nurses behaving or making statements in an immature or unprofessional manner. I am sure you are refering to my reply to an earlier poster who insinuted that there is something wrong with a male wanting to be an OB nurse. I am sorry if you can't understand why this would be considered inflammatory to me.

but like i said many times before to me it is the patient who really matters, they love me so that is why i do it.it was at their request that i took this career track. i have no problem with patients requesting a different nurse that is their perogative, it don't bother me even if that patient is a nurse.

what really bothers me is nurses wanting to limit my career choices and options just because i am male. it does not matter to my patients so why should it matter to them

i hope this clears up my points a little.

thanks cherfuldoer psychonurse brownms and all the other nurses who are open minded and supportive of your coworkers. nursing need more like you. if we would spend more time working together and supporting each other and less time shooting each other down and stabbing others in the back nursing would become a much more attractive carreer. thanks again

[SmilingBluEyes]

hey what about me. mark? i have been one of your staunchest supporters here. *hang head and pouts........

[schrandt]

Originally posted by mark_LD_RN

THANKS FOR THE SUPPORT!

thanks to people like you who support nurses who happen to be male, things are getting better for us. maybe one day we will be seen as equals.

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Please don't give up you guys. We need more of you. In truth, I would rather work with men, especially those comfortable in their own skin. Why is is so much easier than working iwth women?? You know I worked with a nurse named Mark years ago, and we had a ball. I still think of him when I see a wig. It reminds me of the night he put a patients wig on top of the IV pole. I didn't know it, and when I walked in the room it was all I could do not to let out a shriek. Thought it was a person. Mark, you weren't from Ia once were you? If not, thanks for making me remember and chuckle just now.

:chuckle