When teachers go behind your back...

Amethya · Dec 16, 2016

I got this problem 2 days ago, but it wasn't the teacher. It was the student and it was all because she had cramps and she bled a little through her clothes.

She borrowed her friend's cellphone and called from the bathroom. Mom came all frantic and scared something happened to her. They asked me if I called her in and told them no, I haven't gotten her all day. I spent the next 5 minutes tracking the kid down because it was testing week and she was in a different room than usual. Found her and talked to her about doing that. If there's a "girl problem" to not hesitate to come see me. I will not make fun of her or anything, I rather have her in my office with that problem, than the poor thing stuck in the restroom. She understood and said she will do that next time and I took her to her mom and she went home.

Kind-hearted · Dec 16, 2016

I am from a small community, where so often ( too often? ) teachers & parents are chums. They text & email back & forth all day long, then I'll get a call from teacher something like this:

Ok, Johnny's mom is on her way to get him because he's been so tired all day long, so I'll send him to you first, so you can give it your OK.

Often as not I'll WANT to say: No need, if the decision to send him home was already made without me in the loop. Why send him now?

OR - Oh, is he acting sick? Does he need a nursing assessment for any reason?? Any symptoms that I should know about?? Because if he collapses in her car & never received medical care at school, I wonder who would be liable?? ????

Ticks me off, too - and is bad for the kids:(

grammy1 · Dec 16, 2016

I am from a small community, where so often ( too often? ) teachers & parents are chums. They text & email back & forth all day long, then I'll get a call from teacher something like this:
Ok, Johnny's mom is on her way to get him because he's been so tired all day long, so I'll send him to you first, so you can give it your OK.
Often as not I'll WANT to say: No need, if the decision to send him home was already made without me in the loop. Why send him now?
OR - Oh, is he acting sick? Does he need a nursing assessment for any reason?? Any symptoms that I should know about?? Because if he collapses in her car & never received medical care at school, I wonder who would be liable?? ????
Ticks me off, too - and is bad for the kids:(

That would infuriate me!

abc123RN · Dec 16, 2016

I have one teacher that tries this at least weekly. If the parents come to the clinic looking for their kid and they haven't been in, I simply tell them the teacher didn't send them so I wasn't made aware their child was sick. Then if they ask I will do an assessment before they leave with the child. I have talked with this teacher several times but her and the aide in the classroom have the attitude that they know best. So my question is, can I be held responsible if something happens and I haven't seen the student?

CaffeinePOQ4HPRN, BSN, MSN, LPN, RN · Dec 17, 2016

Always put people in their place (when justly deserved) and assert yourself! Do NOT ever feel bad or guilty about it (or other people's stupidity)... otherwise, you're potentially setting a precedence for certain behaviors to be acceptable, or that perhaps you don't mind being treated with less respect than you deserve. It doesn't have to be "in your face" there are polite, professional ways to put people in their place and set boundaries... without coming across are rude, reckless. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself. Sometimes people will subtly push your boundaries (just to see) how far they can go, and how much they can get away with.

Health assessments are not within a teachers "scope" and there's no way this teacher forgot or didn't know this. I am highly suspicious.