I don't know why but that statement makes my jaw clench up everytime I hear it.
I had a patient the other day ask me how I was going to insert a foley since "the head is down there, wont that hurt the baby?" For the love god, people .... come on .. 2 HOLES! SERIOUSLY!
and my favorite of all time ...
"Does that machine beep everytime I dilate?" .. this one left me speechless
Please share your "omg, no she didn't say/ask that" quotes
I absolutely hate when adults have unruly children visiting with them and when I come near they start saying things like "you better behave or that nurse will give you a shot!" No wonder kids are afraid of us!!!!!!!
Vickie
hahahahahaha!!!!! oh i hate it when the crazy hellions run amuck and start clinbing on the stretchers!!! i want to yank those kids up and spank them! i hate it when the pt thinks they are in a hotel with full service! and the lovely phrase! "I pay my insurance so you have to take care of me!" when they have state-funded medicaid.. i so want to say "no, I pay for your insurance, now shut-up and be grateful you are even being treated!" gah!! it so ticks me off!
:) I understand exactly what you're saying and most of the time I'm the first to say let people get things off their chest in peace, so I'm trying to decide what it is that has rubbed me the wrong way about this post... It's funny tho, I felt the same way when I was in the OR observing nursing staff disparaging their unconscious patient... I guess I'm just able to put myself in the shoes of the patients she is describing and can imagine just how humiliated I would feel for placing trust in this nurse by exposing my ignorance and then finding out that instead of compassionate interest in helping me to learn more about my situation she's feeling superior and ridiculing my lack of understanding. Again, I agree my feelings are probably over the top here and I'm really not sure why I'm taking it the way I am... I'll have to think on this some more. In the meantime, carry on...
I'll help, I've got one you all will LOVE. When I was 18 I worked in a path lab. The first time I saw a uterus from a TAH I thought the woman would no longer be able to have sex... thank the Lord I never actually exposed my ignorance and asked for clarification on that one, they would have had a field day in the break room I'm sure. Instead I went to the library and looked through a couple of books and learned more about female anatomy on my own.
So I guess it's all a lie, there really are stupid questions aren't there?
Good to know...
nah, never stupid questions, just ignorant answers! i love educating.. but i do talk about their ignorance, i'm human afterall, but I do at least talk about them in private where they have no idea! ...yes yes two-faced is a nurse's job sometimes. you can't like everybody all the time.
i don't really expect for patients to understand procedures or general routines that we follow everyday because there are some things you really wouldn't know unless you are a trained health professional. But i do get irritated by people who come to the ED and expect a magic pill to fix their complaint without labs being drawn or being examined. i just had a very dramatic patient the other day who refused just about everything and it is so annoying because they become offended when you ask " why did you come to the emergency department then" i just love it when i am in triage and patients ask "will i be here all day, because i'll just leave!" i want to say "don't let the door hit ya' on the way out" but instead i say " i can't make you stay against your will, the choice is ultimately yours". ironically the people who give the most problems are usually not that sick to begin with.
hmm, we had a girl who was getting a c/s because it was best for the baby to be delivered by section, but when we went to put her foley in.. she was getting general because she was scared of the epirdural.. she freaked! she wanted us to wait until we had her under, well we couldn't do that because it would affect the baby too much. so we offered her the epidural instead, she said no. so we told her that she couldn't refuse the foley if she wanted the general. we had to know her output status and if we had nicked the bladder after all. so she wanted to leave because she wouldn't tolerate a little pain for her baby! i can't stand the selfish moms who are only concerned about their comfort and not about how it will impact baby's health. .. if i were them, I'd endure a drug-free c/s if it meant my baby would be okay.
This drives me nuts..when I admit patients and start EFM I explain the US and Toco. I explain the Toco can tell me how often and how long the contractions are BUT not how strong. That the number means nothing as long as we are using it externally. So when I come back in the dad or family members are saying WOW did you see how big that contraction was, it went all the way up to 60. So again I explain why the number is what it is only to come back in later to the same thing. DRIVES ME NUTS!!!!
The other question is when do you think the baby will come..on and early primip that's being induced.
Have a great day!
amen! i can't stand that! I always go with the i have no idea, but if you feel her belly during one you can tell for me so i know what i've missed. and tell them how to palpate them. hard and hurts = strong/moderate. lol.
hmm, we had a girl who was getting a c/s because it was best for the baby to be delivered by section, but when we went to put her foley in.. she was getting general because she was scared of the epirdural.. she freaked! she wanted us to wait until we had her under, well we couldn't do that because it would affect the baby too much. so we offered her the epidural instead, she said no. so we told her that she couldn't refuse the foley if she wanted the general. we had to know her output status and if we had nicked the bladder after all. so she wanted to leave because she wouldn't tolerate a little pain for her baby! i can't stand the selfish moms who are only concerned about their comfort and not about how it will impact baby's health. .. if i were them, I'd endure a drug-free c/s if it meant my baby would be okay.
I used to work with teens who were sexually abused--this is a really common issue with them. Alot of them would refuse a foley (needle sticks and lady partsl exams were extremely difficult for them as well). It's not about being selfish; it's about being vulnerable and having flashbacks about their abuse. Why couldn't the foley be inserted after the general? I'm not sure I understand. Do you mean it would take too much time? Couldn't something be given to relax her before the foley was inserted?
There needs to be as little time as possible between anesthesia induction and getting the baby out. Otherwise, you get a realllly sleepy baby--and that is not good. Baby gets the same drugs as mom.
That's why they couldn't take time to put the catheter in after she was asleep.
I have been a Level II Nursery nurse for 24 years. The comment that drives ME insane comes from other health providers, "It must be nice to have a job where all you do is sit and rock babies." If only I had the time to sit and rock that irritable meth, cocaine, nicotine addicted baby!
I used to work with teens who were sexually abused--this is a really common issue with them. Alot of them would refuse a foley (needle sticks and lady partsl exams were extremely difficult for them as well). It's not about being selfish; it's about being vulnerable and having flashbacks about their abuse. Why couldn't the foley be inserted after the general? I'm not sure I understand. Do you mean it would take too much time? Couldn't something be given to relax her before the foley was inserted?
the general was dangerous for the baby as is, there was no way the anesthetist would sedate her without a foley, and the OB wouldn't risk the potential respiratory issues in the baby if we waited to do the foley. and no, we couldn't give her anything that would relax her because the ob wouldn't order it. and she had already refused the amnio earlier and she was in labor that we couldn't stop and she was breech, and without the amnio we had no idea if the baby's lungs were even developed. and this was her 2nd delivery, the 1st was by c/s also! she was 19 i think but she wasn't a rape victim as far as we knew. and even if she was, we would still have had to give her the foley.
I see. I understand why you couldn't wait for the foley then; I would still submit that it might not have been selfishness, though, but rather fear and anxiety that was behind her refusal.
Statistics are that 1 in 3 or 4 (depends on the study, I suppose) women are raped in their lifetime; yet how many of our clients disclose that? I would say closer like 1 in 50 actually volunteer that info, if even that many.
Working with those girls really opened my eyes; just how you described her sounds like a classic PTSD case as a result of rape/sexual abuse. Not selfishness. But I wasn't there, and I wasn't in her head, so of course I don't know for sure.
Sorry to rain on the thread; I've made my point, and I'll withdraw and let the fun return!
I do understand your point; it's too bad there's not an easy way to determine that sort of hx. And, to know how to work w/the pt. so they both have a "good birth experience".
OK, I just HAD to come on here and post this because this is the first thread I thought of when this incident happened.
Lately we've had some minor trouble during the pregnancy, and I was told to go to labor and delivery on Sunday night. It turned out that I had a bad UTI and I was going to receive some IV Rocephin. I knew that it was close to shift change, and this poor nurse was so tired. As she was about to hang the Rocephin, my DH asks her: "Is this going to hurt the baby?"
Immediately I saw her eyes glaze over, and I know that she's probably heard this question a thousand times before. In her face, I saw the pain reflected in her face across the ages as you've all heard this question before, coming from my own DH's lips. I just about cringed and wanted to bury my face into the sheet, when she said, "We don't like to hurt babies around here."
It was then that my mind went to this thread, and I prayed that someone would be embarrassed for me. :trout:
KYCNM
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I love this. . .it's so illuminating. The scarey thing is these people vote and procreate. . .