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VENTING ABOUT MY FIRST JOB... my awful memory... and my awful orientation :(

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Has 2 years experience.

hey all,

im posting simply to vent and to see if any other nurses have been in a similar situation...

i graduated an LPN program in october with hopes of finding a job in the psych field or with the department of children and families. always have been interested in psych and really enjoy working with children. when i graduated i was surprised to find that there were NO JOBS for LPNs and NO JOBS in the field i preferred (in fact, very few of my classmates have found jobs yet... 4 months later... many places want 6 months - 1 year of expierience). however, nursing school was VERY expensive and i wasnt able to work much (2 days a week at a restauraunt) so i am really struggling to catch up. anyway, i decided to apply to a few LTC facilities. most of our clinicals were done in LTC, so i figured, why not? about a month after applying online, a LTC AND REHAB facility called me, interviewed me, and hired me... i liked the staff a lot (most were very friendly) and they treated the residents kindly, it appeared to be clean and organized... the pay wasnt very good, but i took the job because something is better than nothing and i need some kind of expierience.

so my orientation started last week. it was a whirlwind. its been a few months since ive been in school... and i have to be honest, those 4 months i wasnt studying med cards or lab values and reading the nursing war and peace... so now that im back into the nursing world, i realize how much i have forgotten. its embarassing. i will see a med and wont even know the classification. ill read a disease in a chart and have no idea what it is... its bothering me so much and adding to my worries right now. not to mention i am incredibly nervous... almost to the point where i am making myself sick everyday before i go into work.

i have been orienting with a few different nurses. one out of the three is great. she is two years older than me and started working at this facility two years ago. she is very thorough and if i dont understand something i feel very comfortable asking her a question. she will let me do the 9pm med pass (supervised) and includes me in the daily tasks and lets me be hands on. shes kind to the residents and is smart and she is what i aspire to be like. another nurse who is orienting me refuses to let me do anything. for 8 hours, i am just observing... any attempt at conversation with her she shoots down. she wont let me do ANY med pass (NOT even supervised, NOT even ONE patient... nothing) nor does she let me do any treatments. which i can somewhat understand... shes only known me for a week... but i just feel awful and annoying because i am just standing around doing nothing like a shadow. so when i offer to help her (even if its just recording I's and O's) she always replies in front of about ten other staff members "well there is not much you can actually do for me" and she'll walk away from me. tonight, she had two admission and a resident who was "on her way out"... so instead of letting this be a learning expierience for me, she sends me upstairs to orient with "the other nurse" because she was too busy, which upset me because the only way im going to learn is by seeing and being in those situations. and its not like she will let me do anything anyway. i just stand there. "the other nurse" i am orienting with is no better. when she is getting report from the previous nurse, they are basically gossiping the entire time, and i am just standing there listening (feeling like an idiot, because i know if they are gossiping about other staff, then why wouldnt i be another target in another conversation... im the new girl, afterall). after report, every single thing i do is WRONG WRONG WRONG. she criticizes absolutely everything i do. from moving a garbage pail with my hand (of course i washed and purelled afterwards) to not putting ice in her water pitcher for the med pass, any opportunity to make me feel imcompetent. during her med pass she will quiz me, and most of the time i have no idea what she is talking about. she sometimes will give a resident their 9pm meds at 6pm (if they go to bed early... i dont know if i agree with this...) and when she started her med pass 10 minutes late tonight and a resident came to ask where her pills were she was nasty to her and said "f*** you" under her breath. or, she will give me direction, mumble it, and when i ask her to repeat what she said she gets upset and attitude. she definitely is a smart women, she knows more than me, thats for sure.. but i just feel like its uneccesary for her to treat me like that. the icing on the cake was tonight. i have NEVER done an admission before. in fact, the amount of paperwork involved in nursing is so crazy. i had no idea it would ever be like this. so i asked the nurse orienting me if i could sit in on the admission, and i was surprised when she agreed. i did the patients vitals, and she did the skin assessment around 7pm. at 10pm the same nurse who knows i have been orienting for 8 days puts a stack of paperwork in front of me and asks me to fill it all out and walks away. i just burst out into tears. the patient was non-verbal with oral candidias so when the assessment sheet asked if she had dentures i had no clue... she was brought in on a stretcher, so i had no idea how she ambulated (and many more silly things, ...but i had no clue!) i didnt know where any of the paperwork went... what binders, what notebooks, what folders? .... the paperwork out of everything makes me the most nervous, because i dont want to forget to document something. i ended up leaving a few minutes early because i got sick in the restroom. i dont want to play tattletale right away and say nurses are not orienting me properly... because i still have another month to go... and i also dont want to request to just orient with the first nurse i mentioned (because 1. they will not allow that, she is a part time nurse 2. i dont want to bug her every time she comes in.. it takes time out of your routine to orient... i want to give her a break sometimes). its just very frustrating.

i think i come off as immature venting like i am... almost as if im saying "shes being mean to me!"... but my orientation is making me feel like i have no business being a nurse... even though its something ive wanted to do for a long time. so far, LTC AND REHAB does not seem to be my cup of tea. im sure this is how people discover certain areas of nursing are not for them... but i REALLY dont feel like its for me. i just wish it were easier for LPNs to find jobs in other areas of nursing. i am considering going for my RN. i just dont know. and it feels like i dont know anything.

thanks everyone!

BradleyRN

Specializes in Med Surg, LTC, Home Health. Has 29 years experience.

she sometimes will give a resident their 9pm meds at 6pm (if they go to bed early... i dont know if i agree with this...) and when she started her med pass 10 minutes late tonight and a resident came to ask where her pills were she was nasty to her and said "f*** you" under her breath.

This is a pathetic excuse for a nurse! If she is willing to curse a pt under her breath in front of you, what might she do if you werent there? Giving 9PM meds at 6PM is also inexcusable, and against every regulation in the book. You mentioned that you dont want to be a tattletail, but orienting with this type of nurse is worse than not orienting at all. You dont want to be her "friend" anyway, because she is a pathetic excuse for a human being. Tell your mgmt that you wish to not train under these people.

It is normal to feel that you dont know anything, but certainly have no reverence for these idiots. In a few months you will likely surpass them, while providing dignity to your patients, and not nursing like a criminal.

The good nurse you trained with does not look at you as an inconvenience. Request to work all her shifts.

PM me if you have any questions regarding nursing or anything else, and i will gladly help you.:)

Hi,

First let me say, I feel for you. My first RN nursing job (I went straight to RN, never was an LPN first) was in a long term care facility. I had to work while I was still in school getting my NP so I took the job. The nurses there sound very similar to the ones I worked with. Report was usually just gossiping. They actually wanted me to pass meds though so they didn't have to do any of their own work and could sit around and chat. Some of the nurses orienting me would get mad if I asked which residents needed their meds crushed in applesauce, or who liked ice in their water versus who didn't...because they knew the residents preferences I thought I should ask, but they usually just got annoyed. The CNAs didn't speak much English so that was hard too. It was a really hard job for me.

One time when I was doing the whole med pass for the first time I noticed that they hadn't been giving one of the residents the right dosage of his beta blocker, they had been giving him two times the prescribed dosage, and because the facility was too cheap to buy a pill scorer, they wouldn't cut the pill in half, so they'd just been giving him twice as much. I pointed this out to the nurse and she wanted me to just give him the whole pill but I couldn't in good faith purposelly do a med error. She wanted me to just do it and hide it. But never forget, if you are giving the med, it is YOUR LICENSE on the line, not the supervising nurses. I reported the issue to the director of nursing and the orienting nurse was really really mad at me for the whole rest of the week. But you do what you have to do to protect patient safety and to protect what yo uhave worked so hard for.

Don't feel bad if long term care and rehab isn't for you. It's a hard job for anyone. I would highly recommend you finish and get your RN, it will open up many more opportunities for you. I did home health care for a while after the nursing home (I quit after like 8 weeks) and liked home health care a lot more...the only thing there is that I didn't feel totally confident as a new grad by myself, without other nurses or docs around if something went wrong you just have to call the paramedics. But keep looking, don't give up your hope, find a different job if you can. And finish the RN! You won't regret it. Good luck! Keep smiling! You are not alone. Every nurse has had some kind of a terrible work place experience.

SummerGarden, ADN, BSN, MSN, RN

Specializes in ED, ICU, MS/MT, PCU, CM, House Sup, Frontline mgr. Has 13 years experience.

i would just like to state that i am a new grad rn in a hospital and i have come in contact with some of the behaviors you have described (it is not only the ills of ltc). my last preceptor was a disaster as a preceptor but a good nurse. she too ignored me most for the shift and did not let me do anything when i was not licensed. she treated me like dirt... i was treated better as a tech! the only way i got to do anything was being assertive (like you). however, when i did, i got criticized as if i was doing everything wrong. twice i intervened when patients were not doing well (and in one case it may have saved his life) but i got criticized for overreacting!

not to mention that she undermined all of my decisions to cnas even minor ones like getting patients vitals after the cna asked if i needed them! in some cases she took all the patients and assigned me none... in other cases she took the higher acuity patients and assigned me patients that can go home... in the cases where i had patients who were pretty much waiting to leave, i helped other nurses out and even the techs (this too upset her because she felt like i was neglecting something... i never was... i was always caught up with the little work she gave me).

when i got my license she still did not talk to me much..!! it took an hour to be assigned a patient after getting report on one shift (you can imagine that i was behind)!!! i always made sure to communicate patient needs etc. and always tried to be respectful with or without my lisence. however, my preceptor was very sensitive and emotional and unless i made it clear i was trying to be respectful, she took everything i said wrong!!! if i asked a question she thought i was questioning her nursing judgment. it was bad!!! like you, i know it is not me because i worked with other nurses when she was off and i had no problems. people were happy to work with me and were upset that i was not working with him/her on the next shift.

anyway, i chalk it up to personality problems. and so, when i was asked recently how my orientation was going i was honest and fair. we just do not click! i now have a new preceptor who i am told has precept for over 10 years. plus, my new preceptor's style is to treat me like i am not on orientation so i have a feel of reality. i can make decisions and not have them undermined, but have a support system of orientation at the same time. so i am allowed to think and provide patient care to high acuity patients while orienting. if i have questions i am told that i can ask! plus, communication is good. i cannot wait to work my next shift, unlike the feeling of dread i had with my last preceptor.

my suggestion to you is take the high road and let your don know that you do not click well with the two nurses you have and you request the nurse that you are able to work with.... dons want to keep their new grads; this is why they hired you in the first place. gl!:twocents:

Edited by SummerGarden

lpnflorida

Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool. Has 30 years experience.

I feel empathy for the feelings you are expressing. Starting any new job is overwhelming, now multiply that times 10 for nurses. First reassure yourself you will get it. Knowing your drugs and labs will come. It takes making a note to yourself of each medication you are not familiar with or lab test. Then looking them up either when you have time at work or while at home. 30 years and I still run up against medications I am not familiar with. This is on going for nurses. I keep a clip board with a thin piece of card board in it just for my list of unfamiliar meds, this helps me to memorize them.

As to the nurses who are orientating you. If possible request to work with then nurse whom you admire. I do not feel this is unreasonable.

As to this job does not feel like your niche. I have hated my first job for a year. I hated my current job for a year. Why did I hate them? I felt like a duck out of water, I felt I did not know enough. This too passes. In time I loved both of my jobs as I gained confidence in my skills and the skills of my co-workers. It does take time.

It will get better. Use your time away from work to think of how to improve what you need while at work. Take out your books and refresh yourself on common procedures you most likely will run up against in your job. Take out your drug book. List the most common drugs you will be giving.

Sorry that you are having to go through this. It sounds like you are an awesome nurse. I would talk to your direct supervisor and see about switching preceptors (except the good one). I know that LTC isn't your cup of tea, but as you stated jobs are hard to come by. Maybe if you get some experience under your belt you will be able to get another job in the future that would be more suitable to you. Keep your head up, keep the faith...... It will all work out. Please keep us posted on how you are doing... TAKE CARE>>>>

lorenwithano

Has 2 years experience.

This is a pathetic excuse for a nurse! If she is willing to curse a pt under her breath in front of you, what might she do if you werent there? Giving 9PM meds at 6PM is also inexcusable, and against every regulation in the book. You mentioned that you dont want to be a tattletail, but orienting with this type of nurse is worse than not orienting at all. You dont want to be her "friend" anyway, because she is a pathetic excuse for a human being. Tell your mgmt that you wish to not train under these people.

It is normal to feel that you dont know anything, but certainly have no reverence for these idiots. In a few months you will likely surpass them, while providing dignity to your patients, and not nursing like a criminal.

The good nurse you trained with does not look at you as an inconvenience. Request to work all her shifts.

PM me if you have any questions regarding nursing or anything else, and i will gladly help you.:)

im really considering going to my supervisor on monday. i just dont want to burn bridges so early on, because some of the nurses are knowledgable and i dont want to look like im stirring the pot. HOWEVER, i dont want to jeopardize anyones safety learning something the wrong way. thank you so much :)

lorenwithano

Has 2 years experience.

Hi,

First let me say, I feel for you. My first RN nursing job (I went straight to RN, never was an LPN first) was in a long term care facility. I had to work while I was still in school getting my NP so I took the job. The nurses there sound very similar to the ones I worked with. Report was usually just gossiping. They actually wanted me to pass meds though so they didn't have to do any of their own work and could sit around and chat. Some of the nurses orienting me would get mad if I asked which residents needed their meds crushed in applesauce, or who liked ice in their water versus who didn't...because they knew the residents preferences I thought I should ask, but they usually just got annoyed. The CNAs didn't speak much English so that was hard too. It was a really hard job for me.

One time when I was doing the whole med pass for the first time I noticed that they hadn't been giving one of the residents the right dosage of his beta blocker, they had been giving him two times the prescribed dosage, and because the facility was too cheap to buy a pill scorer, they wouldn't cut the pill in half, so they'd just been giving him twice as much. I pointed this out to the nurse and she wanted me to just give him the whole pill but I couldn't in good faith purposelly do a med error. She wanted me to just do it and hide it. But never forget, if you are giving the med, it is YOUR LICENSE on the line, not the supervising nurses. I reported the issue to the director of nursing and the orienting nurse was really really mad at me for the whole rest of the week. But you do what you have to do to protect patient safety and to protect what yo uhave worked so hard for.

Don't feel bad if long term care and rehab isn't for you. It's a hard job for anyone. I would highly recommend you finish and get your RN, it will open up many more opportunities for you. I did home health care for a while after the nursing home (I quit after like 8 weeks) and liked home health care a lot more...the only thing there is that I didn't feel totally confident as a new grad by myself, without other nurses or docs around if something went wrong you just have to call the paramedics. But keep looking, don't give up your hope, find a different job if you can. And finish the RN! You won't regret it. Good luck! Keep smiling! You are not alone. Every nurse has had some kind of a terrible work place experience.

i can only imagine what its like to go straight for your RN... scary! im an LPN and im driving to work shaking everyday! i wasnt a CNA first, went straight into an LPN program, so its all been a culture shock to me. sounds silly, but if you've never worked in the health care field, sometimes you feel like a fish out of water. i actually have the same problem you mentioned. very minute... but the nurse who DID let me pass meds didnt give me a list of who was crush, whole, applesauce, pudding, water... whatever, and when i asked she just huffed and puffed and acted like i was asking so much of her. i thought about homecare... im not sure what im going to do yet (i too feel a little scared about being by myself RIGHT AWAY... i still have a million and one questions). i will probably wait it out for a few weeks and see how i do on my own. thank you for sharing with me :)

lorenwithano

Has 2 years experience.

i would just like to state that i am a new grad rn in a hospital and i have come in contact with some of the behaviors you have described (it is not only the ills of ltc). my last preceptor was a disaster as a preceptor but a good nurse. she too ignored me most for the shift and did not let me do anything when i was not licensed. she treated me like dirt... i was treated better as a tech! the only way i got to do anything was being assertive (like you). however, when i did, i got criticized as if i was doing everything wrong. twice i intervened when patients were not doing well (and in one case it may have saved his life) but i got criticized for overreacting!

not to mention that she undermined all of my decisions to cnas even minor ones like getting patients vitals after the cna asked if i needed them! in some cases she took all the patients and assigned me none... in other cases she took the higher acuity patients and assigned me patients that can go home... in the cases where i had patients who were pretty much waiting to leave, i helped other nurses out and even the techs (this too upset her because she felt like i was neglecting something... i never was... i was always caught up with the little work she gave me).

when i got my license she still did not talk to me much..!! it took an hour to be assigned a patient after getting report on one shift (you can imagine that i was behind)!!! i always made sure to communicate patient needs etc. and always tried to be respectful with or without my lisence. however, my preceptor was very sensitive and emotional and unless i made it clear i was trying to be respectful, she took everything i said wrong!!! if i asked a question she thought i was questioning her nursing judgment. it was bad!!! like you, i know it is not me because i worked with other nurses when she was off and i had no problems. people were happy to work with me and were upset that i was not working with him/her on the next shift.

anyway, i chalk it up to personality problems. and so, when i was asked recently how my orientation was going i was honest and fair. we just do not click! i now have a new preceptor who i am told has precept for over 10 years. plus, my new preceptor's style is to treat me like i am not on orientation so i have a feel of reality. i can make decisions and not have them undermined, but have a support system of orientation at the same time. so i am allowed to think and provide patient care to high acuity patients while orienting. if i have questions i am told that i can ask! plus, communication is good. i cannot wait to work my next shift, unlike the feeling of dread i had with my last preceptor.

my suggestion to you is take the high road and let your don know that you do not click well with the two nurses you have and you request the nurse that you are able to work with.... dons want to keep their new grads; this is why they hired you in the first place. gl!:twocents:

like i replied to bradleyrn, i am considering going to my don... its just i dont want to burn bridges and have other nurses think i am starting trouble. i cant help it if i have a thousand questions, but its my tush on the line now and i have to do what i feel is right. oh, and i didnt mention before,... the cnas at this facility even give me trouble! one of them has been there for 17 years, and whenever i try to help her out with something she asks me "what are you doing?!!?!".... its just so frsutrating. similiar to the nurse giving you patients who were about to go home... one of those awful orientators gave me a patient who was leaving the next day to go home, and all i had to do with her was a survey related to her care at the facility. sigggh. its just scary. i want to make it work, so im going to give it some time. but your right, for most people its personality problems! i dont want to steal their shifts or date the staff... i just want to work the hours they give me, get the expierience, and get the hell out! thank you again.

lorenwithano

Has 2 years experience.

I feel empathy for the feelings you are expressing. Starting any new job is overwhelming, now multiply that times 10 for nurses. First reassure yourself you will get it. Knowing your drugs and labs will come. It takes making a note to yourself of each medication you are not familiar with or lab test. Then looking them up either when you have time at work or while at home. 30 years and I still run up against medications I am not familiar with. This is on going for nurses. I keep a clip board with a thin piece of card board in it just for my list of unfamiliar meds, this helps me to memorize them.

As to the nurses who are orientating you. If possible request to work with then nurse whom you admire. I do not feel this is unreasonable.

As to this job does not feel like your niche. I have hated my first job for a year. I hated my current job for a year. Why did I hate them? I felt like a duck out of water, I felt I did not know enough. This too passes. In time I loved both of my jobs as I gained confidence in my skills and the skills of my co-workers. It does take time.

It will get better. Use your time away from work to think of how to improve what you need while at work. Take out your books and refresh yourself on common procedures you most likely will run up against in your job. Take out your drug book. List the most common drugs you will be giving.

many of my teachers in nursing school said i would be uncomfortable for about a year. i knew all my labs in school, now i look at labs and look confused. but i do exactly what you say, and on the weekends i read as much as i can. its just been hard because i orient five days a week so i dont have much time to review but i do what i can. im mostly worried about the meds and insulin. meds i can learn, insulin just scares me. but thank you for your words of advice :)

lpnflorida

Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool. Has 30 years experience.

lepspn,

I forgot to mention, I stayed at my first job for 20 years, my second job I am still there after 10 years. Sometimes , I think we learn to love that which we master and of course the patients. It is was has kept me going, those wonderful and somedays the not so wonderful patients.

SummerGarden, ADN, BSN, MSN, RN

Specializes in ED, ICU, MS/MT, PCU, CM, House Sup, Frontline mgr. Has 13 years experience.

, i am considering going to my don... its just i dont want to burn bridges and have other nurses think i am starting trouble.

you won't be... honestly approach your don and let her know that you work better with nurse x as oppose to y and z. in fact, you think nurses y and z are good nurses "blah blah blah" but you feel like you have a better connection with nurse x and are doing better with your orientation when you work with him/her. this should not burn any bridges because you are not putting down any of the other nurses. people are people... we do not all get along! besides, some people should never precept! of course, you don't tell your don the latter. :D

btw, i forgot to mention that on numerous occasions i had to sit through idol gossip about nurses etc. i do not know of or care anything about during report (again, i am in the hospital setting). so i know the feeling of being out of place or feeling stupid because you hear stuff you are not suppose to be hearing. thankfully, my new preceptor is all business!!:up: gl!

BradleyRN

Specializes in Med Surg, LTC, Home Health. Has 29 years experience.

in fact, you think nurses y and z are good nurses "blah blah blah

i wouldnt go as far as to say that that criminal who trained you was a "good nurse", but you dont have to call her a criminal i guess. as far as im concerned however, if i see a nurse curse a defenseless elderly person, you can bet i am going to let him/her have it, as well as report the incident. that may have not been the case here, but doing your night med pass during the day is also a total disregard for the patients and your role as a nurse. i could not support these behaviors, because if i did, then i am just as guilty for letting it go on as they are for doing it. so though your recourse may only be to request not to work with such people, you should certainly not call an abusive criminal a good nurse either.:)

Keep your head up!!!! You have a lot of courage to just jump right in with both feet... I kind of did the same thing as you.. Even started in LTC. Was a LPN for 8 years before becoming a RN... I don't think you will be burning bridges if you talk to DON about preceptor issues.. Not @ all. She would rather you DO that, then to leave... trust me!!!!!!!!!! This may all work out. Older CNA's are sometimes set in their ways. Take it with a grain of salt. YOU are the new kid on the block. Them being there all of those years... I'm sure they have a vast knowledge base. YOU could learn from them too, it they let you... I'm glad you are going to give it more time.... Would love to hear how it all turned out in the end.... TAKE CARE

chevyv, BSN, RN

Specializes in Gero Psych, Ortho Rebab, LTC, Psych. Has 20 years experience.

Welcome to ltc! I also just started in ltc in a casual position. I trained exactly 6 shifts with different preceptors who thought more about getting out on time for once than actually training me. They would have me pass the 2nd med pass while they did their physcian orders, summaries, and whatever else they had to do. The first night on my own was a nightmare (See A day in the life of new lpn under lpn tab). They put me on a wing I had never stepped foot on before with 28 residents to boot. The most I had ever had was 22. I was crying and felt miserable. I even questioned myself as a lpn.

It seems that as much as I wanted to blame the nurse(s), I am forced to look upwards towards management. The nurses are so burnt out! The ones that have been there for 10 yrs still get out 1.5-2hrs late every day! I'm sure it was nice for them to get out on time while I was there. However, I have very limited knowledge regarding what to do with physician orders, how to write and print the Medicare summaries...in short all of the paperwork.

You are not alone! It is normal to feel the way that you do, because I do too and there are more of us out there. You can do this. That's my motto. My 2nd day was last evening and it went very well compared to my first. If the economy wasn't so bad, I probably would have quit after day 1! I'm glad I'm sticking it out. I learn so much now. I also grew me some gonads and told the scheduler not to put me on that wing from hell until I shadow at least 2 days in a row and then I'll let her know.

I hope it gets better for you!

Welcome to ltc! I also just started in ltc in a casual position. I trained exactly 6 shifts with different preceptors who thought more about getting out on time for once than actually training me. They would have me pass the 2nd med pass while they did their physcian orders, summaries, and whatever else they had to do. The first night on my own was a nightmare (See A day in the life of new lpn under lpn tab). They put me on a wing I had never stepped foot on before with 28 residents to boot. The most I had ever had was 22. I was crying and felt miserable. I even questioned myself as a lpn.

It seems that as much as I wanted to blame the nurse(s), I am forced to look upwards towards management. The nurses are so burnt out! The ones that have been there for 10 yrs still get out 1.5-2hrs late every day! I'm sure it was nice for them to get out on time while I was there. However, I have very limited knowledge regarding what to do with physician orders, how to write and print the Medicare summaries...in short all of the paperwork.

You are not alone! It is normal to feel the way that you do, because I do too and there are more of us out there. You can do this. That's my motto. My 2nd day was last evening and it went very well compared to my first. If the economy wasn't so bad, I probably would have quit after day 1! I'm glad I'm sticking it out. I learn so much now. I also grew me some gonads and told the scheduler not to put me on that wing from hell until I shadow at least 2 days in a row and then I'll let her know.

I hope it gets better for you!

:yeah::heartbeat:yeah: thanks for sharing....!!!!!!!!!!!!! good for you... and good luck to you!!!!!!!! YOU are great..

I don't know what the deal is, but I've noticed that now days people are so overly concerned about being a "snitch". Who the hell cares? If you feel you uncomfortable with the person who is training you, and you think they are doing things wrong or unprofessionally, then you have every right to go to a manager and tell them. The safety of pts is #1, imo. It's all in your delivery and what you say, though. Be respectful and offer your concerns in a respectful manner as well. Don't be accusatory. I agree 100% with BradleyRN.

ozoneranger

Specializes in Acute post op ortho. Has 30 years experience.

"well there is not much you can actually do for me"

Bingo. There's your answer to her behavior. You're the competition.

She feels threatened. Insecurity results in aggressive/passive aggressive behavior. She views you as a rival & there's not much you can do with her personality type.

So many things come into play here. Age, looks...is there a male employee that she flirts with, watch for subtle signs, a hair flip, changes in attitude when other employees are close by. You can pick up on body language & this will help you discern where she is in the pecking order.

Remember, your enemies enemy may well be your friend. In the mean time, kill her with kindness. No matter how big a bit*h you are, it wears on you to be mean to a nice person.

This is enough to make me want to go back to work....just to help new grads grow comfortable with their work environment.

Things are hard enough without having to deal with nursezilla.

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