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I was just wondering how many nurses work with doctors that are not very friendly. I worked in a larger teaching hospital for many years and a large majority of the doctors were very friendly and treated us like one big family. It was great. I left there many years ago due to a commute that I got tired of. I am working in a smaller rural community hospital where the doctors walk down the hall and don't even look at the nurses. I have been in the elevators with some of them and they just make out I'm not even there. I have never seen anything like this. Even my primary care doctor sees me and doesn't even talk to me. Recently I went back to my original hospital for some testing and the doctors there were so nice to me. It makes me want to go back because I felt like I was respected as a nurse and it is a good feeling.

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Specializes in HomeHealth / geriatrics.

I know what you mean I am 37 weeks pregnant , and my OB-GYN is a total ***** , she has the worst social and communication skills. She walks into the room doesn't even say hello , and does the usual 5 min visit. Not to mention I drive 30 minutes to go and see her every week since I am due very soon. There is just no respect sometimes I find myself wanting to tell her she is the rudest healthcare professional I have ever had to deal with!!!!!!!!! She even told me if I am not willing to be induced then she will not be delivering my baby, because it would be inconvient for her :down: The only reason decided to use her as my OB is because my dear mom recommended her because they work L&D together .....so needless to say alot of docs have this attitude , BUT some docs are fabulous people who really do give a rats behind about there staff and patients:yeah: unfortunately I got the bad apple out of the bunch !!!!

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i work in a hospital where physicians are unfriendly to nurses, and treat them like they don't exist or invisible. communication about the status of a patient has become one of the most complex and dysfunctional aspects of our healthcare. patient care is all about the exchange of information relating to clinical data and assessments (relating to that patient).

the present system is failing. not only is the nurse invisible, not heard by most physicians, we cannot read their so called "handwriting" which puts patients at risk and our license in jeopardy.

if you had good communication with the first hospital, then go back! slap a cd-audio book in your cd-player and happily hit the road.

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I also work in a small rural hospital. I did not grow up here, nor do I have any family here. (Except my husband!) What I have found is the lack of friendliness is due to the fact that I am not from here. EVERYONE in my hospital seems to be related. Not only is the staff related, they are related to the patients. It is "six degrees of seperation". Although everyone is friendly on the surface, there is always an under-lying tone that I don't belong. I do have a friend that works in another dept. (not nursing) who has lived and worked here for 10 years and she says it is the same for her. I don't know if this answers your question but I know exactly where you are coming from and it's not all in your head! In a few months I am leaving my hospital (54 beds) to work and go to school "in the big city"!!! It is a large teaching hospital and I am so looking forward to the change in so many different ways.:nurse:

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Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.
I know what you mean I am 37 weeks pregnant , and my OB-GYN is a total ***** , she has the worst social and communication skills. She walks into the room doesn't even say hello , and does the usual 5 min visit. Not to mention I drive 30 minutes to go and see her every week since I am due very soon. There is just no respect sometimes I find myself wanting to tell her she is the rudest healthcare professional I have ever had to deal with!!!!!!!!! She even told me if I am not willing to be induced then she will not be delivering my baby, because it would be inconvient for her :down: The only reason decided to use her as my OB is because my dear mom recommended her because they work L&D together .....so needless to say alot of docs have this attitude , BUT some docs are fabulous people who really do give a rats behind about there staff and patients:yeah: unfortunately I got the bad apple out of the bunch !!!!

I would dump her and tell her exactly why I was doing so and move on. I know you are close to delivery, but I would rather have some random doc at the local hospital deliver for me than put up her taking your money and person for granted.

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My son's old pediatric doc was a "mutha shut your mouth" with himself. It was one hot summer day and I had had enough. After I was done with him, the entire staff was standing outside my door and clapped when I swung it open and they clapped!! The NP gave me the biggest hug and whispered "way to go" in my ear!! Rumor has it he a much milder doc on his way to retirement!!

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Specializes in HomeHealth / geriatrics.

Tait-

I already did "dump her"in a sense ,I said NO to being induced and told her that I was going to have the baby on my terms . I could careless if she delivers my baby or not I think she got the idea . I tried to transfer to another doctor its too late and dealing with the insurance and crap like that I guess I am at the point of no return I only have 2-3 weeks to go .

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Specializes in Acute Care Cardiac, Education, Prof Practice.
Tait-

I already did "dump her"in a sense ,I said NO to being induced and told her that I was going to have the baby on my terms . I could careless if she delivers my baby or not I think she got the idea . I tried to transfer to another doctor its too late and dealing with the insurance and crap like that I guess I am at the point of no return I only have 2-3 weeks to go .

Good job :) Best of luck!!

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I worked in a small rural hospital for 9 years until I returned to school last year. I was a newbie. The docs have been great. I think smaller hospitals tend to make people closer. In my experience anyway.

I would definitely not let an OB doc tell me I had to be induced . . .

steph

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I was just wondering how many nurses work with doctors that are not very friendly. I worked in a larger teaching hospital for many years and a large majority of the doctors were very friendly and treated us like one big family. It was great. I left there many years ago due to a commute that I got tired of. I am working in a smaller rural community hospital where the doctors walk down the hall and don't even look at the nurses. I have been in the elevators with some of them and they just make out I'm not even there. I have never seen anything like this. Even my primary care doctor sees me and doesn't even talk to me. Recently I went back to my original hospital for some testing and the doctors there were so nice to me. It makes me want to go back because I felt like I was respected as a nurse and it is a good feeling.

Its always the residents that are unfriendly!

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Specializes in ER, Surgery.

I've been really lucky where I work we have some great doctors and I have never had any problems with them. The senior doctors set a good example and will not tolerate thier juniors treating nurses badly. If we have any problems we just let the senior know and they deal with it.

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Specializes in Trauma/Burn ICU, Neuro ICU.

Dear hotmama2be,

I hope you have a good delivery. Please let us know! :icon_hug:

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