uh oh- the drama begins.....

Intern67 · Apr 11, 2010

I feel like I am on 'Survivor': outwit, outlast, outplay ........ I find being around these catty, immature, snobby, "everything is handed to me because I'm beautiful," people extremely draining..................:icon_roll
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If you don't like being on Survivor...then don't play. A lot of the same stuff goes on in my program, but I just stay out of it. I choose to be amused by it. Your classmates engage in the behavior but remember you get to choose how it affects you. If it is draining you, that is your fault.
I try to be as cooperative as I can and many classmates have come to see me as a good study partner and resource for all types of subjects. People who want to be supportive and cooperative are welcome around me and we work well together. People who aren't tend to notice I am not playing their game and they leave me alone.
I suppose I am in a "group" too. My group has 2 rules: 1. Anyone is welcome. 2. If you cannot play nice, then you can bugger off.

LunaFae · Apr 11, 2010

WOW- ok

I actually was stating that from being around it, not in it.

but thanks anyways??

Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN · Apr 11, 2010

The other poster has a point though. The drama is going to affect you as long as you let it. If you keep saying to yourself, "I feel like I'm on Survivor"...guess what, you're on Survivor!

Don't worry about what groups you're in or not in, or who's trying to do what to whom. You're not in NS to make new best-friends-forever. You're there to become a nurse...so focus on your school work and your own interests first and foremost.

As time progresses, you'll find there will be changes to the dymanic. First, you'll lose classmates to failure, so you may find yourself with a few less drama queens/kings. Second, as you're forced to work together in assigned groups on projects and clinicals, you'll get to know each other more and you'll find that (usually) a lot of the drama will disappear as you all have to work together to get the job done.

Hang in there!

CBsMommy · Apr 11, 2010

Yes, there seems to be a lot more drama than I would ever expect. I don't get involved though. I have way too much homework to worry about! I had a couple of run-ins with some drama people that I used to try and help (because they asked me to). I don't talk to them anymore because of some of the situations they put me in. I removed myself from all the "groups".

I also get bugged when people are disrespectful to our teacher. I just don't get it. Some day, she may be writing a letter of recommendation for a job or grad school. I wouldn't write a letter for some of the people who talk to her the way they do! If she recommends me for a job over some other people, because I've always been respectful to her, all the more better!

Also, I will add that I am nice to everyone except one girl in our class. Her I just stay away from. If people are nice back, great. If not, that's their problem!

mercuryrawks · Apr 11, 2010

I am experiencing the same, but I don't get involved in it. I just watch and laugh. You can almost do a casting call in your head of each stereotype, and watch that person act it out every class/lab/clinical. Going into this semester--first of an ASN-I thought it would be ..... something else. I am regrouping though, in my own brain, and starting fresh. I am doing what I can do, and letting the rest go. Socially and in school. Good luck to you.

DuluthMike · Apr 11, 2010

My tough advice: You owe your fellow students nothing. They owe you nothing. You are in school to become a nurse. Should they engage in gossip or grouping/excluding. Who cares? If that is how they chose to engage in school, great. You do not have to participate. Some may form study groups and be open to others. That's great! Should they chose to have a closed study group that is within their rights. They do not owe you anything.

It sounds like you are in class with a few people who aren't focused on school. Just ignore them and take care of your own business. You will come out with better grades, better skills, and be a better nurse.

itsmejuli · Apr 11, 2010

You know those people are everywhere; school, work, soccer moms, car pools etc.

I stand back, let them go at it and keep to myself. If its a new environment for me, such as school or new job, then I observe people for awhile before choosing who I want to associate with.

semester1kid · Apr 11, 2010

I hear you on some of that - I think the ones that bother me the most are the ones who don't buy all their books and constantly want to borrow your books. Also, there's a group in my class who were nurses in other countries but didn't have their degrees recognized here in the states. I'm more sympathetic in their case. However, I sometimes detect a 'holier than thou' attitude from them as well...or maybe it's more so a 'poor me' attitude that goes along with a sense of 'they owe me a free ride'. Can't really put my finger on it:rolleyes:

That Guy, BSN, RN, EMT-B · Apr 11, 2010

I guess Im the type to try and infiltrate all the groups, to get to know all the people and learn how to work with everyone since that is what works best. But around here, it looks like that is the minority.

flyingchange · Apr 12, 2010

Bah, let 'em be. A lot of the people in my school are still teenagers with zero life experience. Nursing school is like an extension of high school to them.

There's a group of girls in my clinical group that I secretly refer to as "The Ice Queens". Believe me, behavior like theirs gets noticed by the unit staff. Healthcare is not a huge place and with the job market like it is, they aren't doing themselves any favors.

The plus side is that it makes students like me look really, really good by comparison!

:cheers:

shvship · Apr 12, 2010

OMG!! i think its everywhere. If you allow it to bother you it will. I would just remove myself from the nonsense and focus on being the best nurse you can become. Thats the prize.