Hi Everyone,
I've been working as an on-call hospice nurse (Fri 5p - Mon 8a, 63 consecutive hours) for just four months and had a real crisis this past weekend on two death visits. The previous weekend I handled six without incident.
Last Saturday I was treated disrespectfully (abusively?) by two separate families, one family verbally ganging up on me, throwing my bag across the room, yelling, complaining about the case manager, not answering questions about desired post-mortem care, and finally escorting me out of the house in a huff stating they never should have called me and refusing to make arrangements for body release. The other yelling/screaming, telling me to stop calling (it was my only call to the son of a SNF patient to inform him of his mother's passing), refusing to respond to questions concerning mortuary wishes, and hanging up on me without saying if he would be coming to say good-bye.
I was probably emotionally fragile this day having just returned from seeing my terminally ill father, BUT, after the visit when they threw my bag and verbally harassed me for almost an hour, I cried all the way home (short drive, but still...).
Hospice nurses know people are at their best/worst while grieving, but are there limits? How much is excusable? If they call you names? Tell you your agency must only employ idiots? Physically push you out of the way while you are caring for the body (I was d/cing a foley)? Tell you to get out of the house before you've completed providing care for the deceased and managing the logistics of the death?
Would love to hear from others if they take everything short of physical abuse and how they keep it from breaking their spirits. And where does your agency stand in terms of supporting you? Would especially love to hear from on-call nurses from med-large organizations since I fall into this group and am often unfamiliar with the deceased - wondering if families are more harsh with "unknown" RNs (aka on-call).
Thanks!